How to make Daddy to be feel more involved

Dreams2Be

I have been very blessed with an amazingly supportive husband to be and father to be, he is so helpful and loving but I know him well and I can tell he's nervous as all get out about alot of the same things I worry about like making sure the baby is growing well and so on. I tell him about little flutters I feel since they just started and I try to make time each night to fill him in on little prego things here an there but its hard to make him feel at ease and I know he wants to be as involved as possible but what are the best ways to make sure he feels completely in the know without boring him about what im craving and such. He wants to do and help as much as he can but I think it frustrates him that hes not sure how to be a daddy to be and what his role is pre-baby. If anyone has nice ideas on ways to help him feel involved or cute ways you may have helped your daddy to be feel involved id love to hear them. Thanks!  

ChristinaMT4

Would he be interested in helping to create a memory book of the pregnancy? I read this blog and it's all about how men can and should be involved in what she calls "kin work" which is the work that is involved in creating memories and maintaining relationships, particularly around the holidays. Here's a post she wrote about her husband and scrapbooking.

https://yourmomdoesntreallylovechristmas.blogspot.com/2011/07/scrapbooking-daddy.html

 

SpankylovesSparky

My husband loves to look at this site with me about baby's developments this week and he's always asking me, "What fruit is baby supposed to be like this week?" I love how he gushes to almost everyone that I'm pregnant! It's sweet! He absolutely beamed when we first heard the heart beat and even though we can't feel baby yet and baby most likely can't hear us ...he still likes to put his hand on my belly and talk to it and kiss my stomach!!  I think it's a good idea to get in that bonding time with dad and baby before the big day and makes them feel more involved! I think being pregnant has made me fall even more in love with my husband than I ever have!!

frasey

Another thing that might appeal to a lot of guys are the apps you can get for your phone. DH and I both have Android phones, and there are several apps that track baby's development. DH loves to check it every few days, and it gives him some insight into whats happening without having to hear it all from me. It also gives him something to talk about. He loves when it changes to a new week and we get to see what fruit/vegetable the baby is this week!!

SO check to see if there are some apps for his phone and download them for him.

treble_clef

I think phone apps are good too.  And once he starts feeling your baby kicking, he'll be happy too.

If this is your first baby, I actually suggest doing something absolutely non-baby related things with your husband.  I know you guys are super excited, but once the baby comes, it's all going to be about the baby for a long time:)  

AngelaParish

My sweet husband actually came up with an idea on his own (actually he said he got it from some commercial). He opened an email account for the baby and has been sending the baby messages. He plans to give the baby the account and password at a certain age and maintain the message sending until that time. I thought it was a super sweet idea. This is just something he is doing. I have my own little projects...my belly book (which is takes the pictures for) and my pregnancy journal. This is nice because it can be from just him to our child.

FeetOfFlames

AngelaParish:

He opened an email account for the baby and has been sending the baby messages.

This is just too cute. What an awesome idea! My own father wrote me letters in a journal while my mom was pregnant with me, and he gave them to me on my 18th birthday. Best present I got that year, for sure