Irratated and need to vent!

shume1225

So at least once a week my step-son stays home from school. He's 9. All week long hes been coughing and hes gone to school. Today since my husband is home this morning he was going to let him stay home because of the cough. This made me so made and i told my husband hes been coughing worse than this all week and hes gone to school. I can tell when my step son is faking. Most of the time its when his dad isnt home in the morning he will act sick until he gets the ok from dad to stay home then hes fine. And wants to play video games and on the computer. (Which is a big no to me. But husband said its fine. I dont rewards kids from staying home sick..make him just want to stay home more) I just dont know what to do anymore. My work has slowed down and im always home and it makes me mad that my husband lets him get away with this crap. Any advice on what i should do?

MotherMonster

I would set up rules for when he is sick, what's okay and what's not okay.

Like he's not to use the computer or play video games, the moment he is up and about feeling better he needs to do homework, and so on.

I also think you need to talk to a pediatrician and sit down with your husband and the doctor to know what is okay to send to school and what's not, so your husband understands more that his son is faking it and there's no reason for his son to not be in school that day. 

BunnyJenny

Take him to the Dr for a flu shot

Seriously.... being sick is not supposed to be fun. Buy Robotusin (sp) it tastes like crap and won't kill him if you give it to him in the recommended dose every 4 hours Basically give him all the crappy parts of getting sick. Oh, and don't forget to force him to drink his 8 glasses of water on sick days... it will help him get better... If dad is convinced son is telling the truth he shouldn't argue with the get better remedies

steph2809

 

This is what I would do and I'm sorry but it will suck for you to. Is as soon as DH leaves be like I'm sorry but sick kids need to rest with no distractions. Put him on the coach were with no tv or toys and let him just lay there all day board out of his mind. Hopefully after once he will learn staying home is not fun. Or my mom once gave my sister some cool aid claiming it was meds, then a few hours later asked her how she was feeling. My sister said better and mom said well that's funny I didn't give you anything to make you feel better. Maybe try that one first and let DH in on it so he can see what DS is doing.

526SadieSadie

Don't disagree with DH in front of him, if he sees you two at odds, he'll play up more.

If it really has been once a week that he's home from school I'm pretty surprised the school hasn't called your house yet.  It's not like when we were little kids - schools (at least in my area) have cracked down on kids missing multiple days of school.  My nephew has pretty substantial asthma and he had to miss a couple of days and the school called and said they needed a doctor's note i/o a note from a parent to excuse him. 

liltatgirl0280

My daughter went through this phase about a year ago and I cured it by doing two things.

1. Sick kids need rest. Lots and lots of rest. If she stayed home sick then she stayed in bed. No toys. Nothing exciting like video games. Just nice boring tv.. like the Waltons.

2. Cough syrup. I found the foulest tasting medicine I could because lets face it.. some of the most horrible stuff works the best! At least it seems to because she was cured and asking to go to school within an hour. lol

I was the most caring, super sympathetic person I could be. DH can't fault you for caring.