Would you end a long friendship over this?

Mickschick

I'm super bored and I just can't imagine that I would actually END a friendship over this so I'm going to ask you guys...lol.

My Grandfather is in the VFW and has several friends through there. He is a charter member- it's been around for 32 years. My Grandmother died 3 years ago and him and another guy, T have become close as T is single also.

They had a large bus trip down to NYC a week or so ago for the Statue of Liberty's birthday. My Grandfather's very close friend T and another close friend, B took off to sight see on their own and they told NO ONE that they were leaving the group. They weren't going to make it back to the group on time, had no ones contact numbers for those that had cell phone but since most of them didn't have cell phones they had no way to contact them anyway. My Grandfather ended up having the NYPD, staff on Ellis Island and New York Port Authority all searching for them.

 Apparantly they knew they wouldn't make it back to the bus in time, took a subway to the train station and took a train home. My Grandfather finally got ahold of B and was very angry (their bus was now 2 hours behind schedule, the other people they were travelling with were very anxious and nervous, the tour guide was in hysterics because she's never lost passengers before and my Grandfather has quite the temper. Apparantly he was less than pleasant with B and B hung up on him.

My Grandfather is cordial to B since he is very affiliated with the VFW, as is my Grandfather and they have to work closely together, but hasn't spoke with T since the incident. T was there for him when my Grandmother died, my Grandfather was there for T when he had a stroke over the summer. I just can't imagine that this is ending of friendship worthy.

Thoughts?

(And DAMN this got long- sorry!)

Arnegard

Gotta love crochety old men!

It doesn't matter what I would do.  I am not an old man with a temper. 

Mrs Manners

I wouldn't end it. I'd be pissed and would let them know it was VERY inconsiderate and that I was probably going to be pissed for a few weeks....then I'd get over it. 

EastCoastBride

I wouldn't end a friendship over it, but I would be DAMN pissed off and they would know it.  That's inexcusable, really.

justEK

Everything is different when you're old. It's like they think there is no time for nonsense.

MaxandRuby

T and B did wrong by not informing anyone of their plans. They ended up causing everyone else stress that didn't need to happen. They were in the wrong.

I would not end a friendship over this.