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RenandStimpy
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RenandStimpy
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seriously, I feel like most of you expect me to come on here ask YOU for permission to make my decisions with my love life, my court case, my kids...
GET A GRIP!
Do you act like this in real life? Do you have friends, (probably not) and all you do is dictate how they live their lives????
Someone comes here and asks for advice and personal experiences.
Since the day that I said, no Im not going to do THAT because thats not what I think is best, its been crazy?!!
You all feel better supporting eachother through your Birthday drama, your notebook, jeans, my hubby's ex is crazy cause she wants us to follow the court order drama.
Good luck.
You feel bad for my kids? Wow...ditto....I seriously hope you all have counseling, coming online to be a bully to people is just senseless but if it makes your ego happy go for it.
Pushing your views down someones throat regardless if they even asked you for them...yeah...GL with being like that for the rest of your lives.
I may be a young mom, I may date, I may even *gasp* like it...DUH DUH DUH..but garanteed my children wont grow up being afraid to disagree with me, or afraid to ask me to clean their jeans, or heaven forbid leave a rediculous toy somewhere or ask me to come to their birthday party??!!!
To those with sense...good luck, I came here to find ladies that had some real advice. The other option, Grab a cup of coffee at your local cafe' and talk with a single mom who has 2 kids, lived in government housing for 10 years while working her ass off and going to college...doing visitation, seeing her ex act like a idiot over her rights, talk to THAT woman, cause she is my boss now and has a masters, owns her home that she bought only 7 years ago. Id rather celebrate with a real woman anywho. The same woman who hired me because of my determination.
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You're a martyr and you're a verbal abuser like your ex.
Id rather celebrate with a real woman anywho.
Except you're not very good at it.
Like they said in the other post...you are not getting it. We have all tried to advise you on why your decisions are not smart. You ignore good advice and then come here and vent when things don't go right.
Did you forget how many applauded you and cheered you on your ever so brief attempt at being the mom you should be - remember your "I'm THAT woman" post? Go back and read it. We are not hateful people. We want good things for you, but we aren't going to sit back and ignore foolish behavior.
Whatever. Why am i talking to a wall???
I have just started to follow this board and read your post about getting the big apartment and such earlier today. I do not know much history but from the posts that have responded to your announcement, I can only imagine. Hence the reason I took a peak at your bio. I am puzzled ....
Going through a divorce, mother of 3. Planning to move on without drama.
Now I am sorry and I am not anywhere near perfect but for the love of God, be consistent. You do not want drama ... girlfriend, you are asking for drama. I am a 41 year old remarried mother and I know what happened when I divorced and started seeing my DH. My kids are teenagers for Gods sake and here you have little ones (a 3 month old with another man). Drama is going to be your middle name!!!
As others have so eloquently put it, you are making a grave mistake. Get your own life together and enjoy your kids. Get divorced and live a little. Like your boss (as you say) did, go back to school, build a life for you and the kids. Forget the damn BF. You hardly know anyone in the short time span you have known him or been dating per say.
I am sorry, but you remind me of a show I watched on WE TV the other night about a girl in Kentucky ..... wake up and smell the coffee and remember, it is not just you - you have the lives of kids you are now screwing up.
Just wait until she fires you for constantly blaming your refusal to do job on everyone else but yourself.
Did you just pull the "bitter hag" card on us? Good riddance. No one likes a martyr.
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Interesting. According to her blog she's bipolar. THAT explains a lot.
Ren, you need to start taking meds, Dear.
Bye-bye. Make sure not to share too much personal info with the new boss-not very professional, and will most likely will lead to being fired-oh I am sorry you did not ask for advice. Good luck, best wishes, hugs and kisses. I am sure that you and your children will lead a perfect happy sunshine filled life, while all us bitter hags sit around and wallow in our misery. Rock on!
I'm sorry but don't expect to get answers full of rainbows and sunshine when you are posting on a board full of ladies that have been in bad relationships with SO, children, exes, whatever. Most of us speak from experience and any advice offered isn't meant to be mean or ugly. Do we have lives and real friends? Yes, and you bet if they were in your situation they would get the same beating from me.
Now let's all have a group hug
We're not expecting you to ask for our permission to do anything but in all seriousness when you post things such as you've posted on a public message board, people are going to respond and they're going to give it to you straight! As AP pointed out, lots of women on these boards have been through similar situations and are offering advice from their own experiences. It seems to me you're angry because we're not telling you what you want to hear and that's everything you're doing is wonderful and great... it ain't!
Ummm, I'm pretty sure most of us have wonderful friends outside of these boards and if my best friend was going through the mess you've described on some of your post, I'd advice her in the same fashion. What do you consider real advice??? This is about as real as it gets sweetie! No one, (especially not TIPers), is going to sit here and blow rainbows, hearts, and puppies up your a$$ when we know that's not going to help!!
It sounds to me you just can't stand to here the truth about the situation and your decisions... well, as Ludacris said "if you can't stand the heat, then get the f#%& out the kitchen! That is all.
You weren't really looking for advice, were you? It's funny how each of us gave the exact, same advice - you just didn't want to take it because you'd have to slow things down with the new boyfriend. Ladies, she's not married to her ex - she is just going through a custody fight with him. Her oldest is from another guy.
If a friend of mine was acting the way you are, I would give her the same advice: Take care of your kids first and go SLOWLY with adding anyone new into their lives.
Good luck - you will need it.
You should go over to TIP. I know, sucky move but I vented over there massively. I think it's called Help me please!
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For real? If anyone needs to get a grip, it's you. You come here seeking reassurance that you're doing the right thing. You come here bragging about a new apartment that you've just gotten so that you can move your boyfriend in and let your infant son stay upstairs. You don't need permission. You need a good bit of common sense.
The point is, you come back here time and again, looking for answers, then rail against the answers you get. You insult the people who are kind enough to GIVE you answers, or experiences, or whatever.
I feel bad for your children when you're more concerned about screwing over on your ex than parenting, which is STILL what you're doing. You talk about us being bullies, about us bitching about birth moms... you're the exact kind of birth mom we all complain about. You do nothing but look for the best way to mess with your ex, all the while waving the banner of self-righteousness.
Who cares if your BF took parenting lessons? Parenting lessons DON'T make a good parent, and if you think they do, you're sadly mistaken. Moving your BF in without a ring on your finger is doing nothing but sending mixed messages to your children and the courts about what you consider best for them. It shows that you're interested in placing your own self-interests above the well being of the children, and that's just not right.
But I'm a bitter hag, so what do I know? See you around -- you won't be able to stay gone, because you thrive on drama.
Anniya, here's the rant. I was trying to behave myself by not putting it here but I pretty much have decided it doesn't matter one way or the other. You ladies are nice and she still flips a wig. I may as well make her little hissy fit worth it, right? Especially if someone is going to get some amusement out of it.
https://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/4739621.aspx
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Well Kudos to your boss! And since I am giving Kudos to her, let me give Kudos to MY DAMN SELF. I put college on hold for a job that was paying me more money than college graduates was being offered. I bought my first at 21. And because I am a hustler and I know no one in the world owes me sh!t, I got a second job. In addition to holding two damn jobs, I went back to school full time. I had my son when I was 24, right after Hurricane Katrina. I fixed my home on my own, without FEMA, without homeowners Ins (long story, still in dispute with them) taking care of my newborn son, & holding down 2 jobs. His Bio-Father was not helping so just like your whining ass and your boss, I held the damn fork down! But I say all this not to only give myself Kudos, but to say that all the things I listed is what the hell I was suppose to do! I owe that to my son as well as to myself. Doing what it takes to survive is not done to get a pat on the phucking back, its done to get a better life. Do i feel sorry for you or your boss that somewhere in ya'll lives it wasn't easy? HELL NO. If you need validation on how you are doing then maybe you should keep talking to your boss, and have her give it to you. My words to were positive and I never bashed you. However you are looking for someone to tell you that the way you are behaiving is justified, so anything else said to you is people judging you. I really hope you are done with posting all the BS, because at this point I think you just like attention.
IN ADDITION, I AM GIVING KUDOS TO EVERY DAMN MOTHER WHOSE TOP PRIORITY IS THEIR KIDS, HUSBAND, AND THEIR HOUSEHOLD.
Go away! Please!