Grandparent question, probably weird.

hjk5000

Anyone else ever get the feeling one of your IL's or one of your own parents doesn't like your kid?

I honestly don't think my MIL likes E.  I mean, I'm sure she loves him because he's her grandson, but I really don't think she likes him.  Idk, maybe I'm crazy, but I can't help but get that vibe.

akalutts

My MIL doesn't like any kid or baby and I doubt she'll really like Natalie. Maybe once she's old enough to do things that "make grandma proud" but probably not even then.

Of course, she didn't even like her own kids until they were adults.

Excitedtostart

Honestly, my mom has had issues with my niece and nephew. Some of it is because there's a lot of tension and issues with her son and his wife, but some of it is that he was a... difficult infant. He was a shrieker, and his parents are overly sensitive and don't really deal well with anything, really. 

She would die if she knew I knew this. She loves them, she just has a hard time being around them. 

hjk5000

hmm....maybe that's it...it's hard for me to get into my MIL's head.  But it's good to know I'm not the only one whatever the reason, lol.

PS: Your DD's middle name is my middle name.  Love!

akalutts

hjk5000:

hmm....maybe that's it...it's hard for me to get into my MIL's head.  But it's good to know I'm not the only one whatever the reason, lol.

PS: Your DD's middle name is my middle name.  Love!

It's my mom's, mine, and my older daughter's as well

hjk5000

Excitedtostart:

Honestly, my mom has had issues with my niece and nephew. Some of it is because there's a lot of tension and issues with her son and his wife, but some of it is that he was a... difficult infant. He was a shrieker, and his parents are overly sensitive and don't really deal well with anything, really. 

She would die if she knew I knew this. She loves them, she just has a hard time being around them. 

That makes sense to me though.  I can't figure out a logical reason why I feel she feels this way (best sentence ever I know).  Sometimes I think she was expecting him to be a DH clone, and she's disappointed she doesn't get to relive that.  But that's about all I've got.

hjk5000

akalutts:

hjk5000:

hmm....maybe that's it...it's hard for me to get into my MIL's head.  But it's good to know I'm not the only one whatever the reason, lol.

PS: Your DD's middle name is my middle name.  Love!

It's my mom's, mine, and my older daughter's as well

We are the same person.  Also my mom's middle name, and probably any future daughter.  It's a good one! 

akalutts

hjk5000:

akalutts:

hjk5000:

hmm....maybe that's it...it's hard for me to get into my MIL's head.  But it's good to know I'm not the only one whatever the reason, lol.

PS: Your DD's middle name is my middle name.  Love!

It's my mom's, mine, and my older daughter's as well

We are the same person.  Also my mom's middle name, and probably any future daughter.  It's a good one! 

Shhhh you'll give us away to the other posters!

Ooops too late :P

Mysterious_wife

I have noticed as adults get older their tolerance for small children and teens gets a lower and lower.  GMIL loves the hell out of Allie and niece.  She spoils them every chance she gets.  She cannot stand to be around niece at all.  She can only tolerate Allie in doses.  We make it a point to not over stay our welcome at their house.  We stay with them when we go back home to visit.  Allie stays one night and the other nights she stays with my mom or brother. 

My mom was hit or miss when Allie was a baby. She was having strokes at the time.  Now my mom loves her.  My dad is over the moon excited to have 1 min or 1 day with her.  My FIL is eh, whatever. (apparently the same way when DH was a kid)  MIL is a different kind of issue. 

Some people just do not like kids.   

magdalina.h

My grandpa didn't like kids. He loved us because we were his grandkids, but he didn't like us.

Both of our parents absolutely adore Lucas.

Lyssapee

My ILs admit to loving Amanda more than eachother and their own children.  My mom feels the same way.

I hope your are crazy, because I can't imagine someone being such a douche. 

Mysterious_wife

Lyssapee:

My ILs admit to loving Amanda more than eachother and their own children.  My mom feels the same way.

I hope your are crazy, because I can't imagine someone being such a douche. 

I keep coming back to this one.  Sorry Lyss. I think calling her a douche is a bit much.  You don't know the full story.  Maybe she has an issue with him being so small and the crying.  Maybe she just doesn't like kids. Maybe OP is taking it overboard or out of context.  OP said MIL loved the child.  This does not mean the child is being treated poorly or not loved.  This doesn't make her a douche. 

 

hjk5000

Mysterious_wife:

Lyssapee:

My ILs admit to loving Amanda more than eachother and their own children.  My mom feels the same way.

I hope your are crazy, because I can't imagine someone being such a douche. 

I keep coming back to this one.  Sorry Lyss. I think calling her a douche is a bit much.  You don't know the full story.  Maybe she has an issue with him being so small and the crying.  Maybe she just doesn't like kids. Maybe OP is taking it overboard or out of context.  OP said MIL loved the child.  This does not mean the child is being treated poorly or not loved.  This doesn't make her a douche. 

 

She certainly doesn't treat him baldy, just differently than my parents and FIL.  As his mom I know I'm taking it personally, but I wouldn't say she's a douche.  Not that I've never thought it. ;-)

Lyssapee

hjk5000:

Mysterious_wife:

Lyssapee:

My ILs admit to loving Amanda more than eachother and their own children.  My mom feels the same way.

I hope your are crazy, because I can't imagine someone being such a douche. 

I keep coming back to this one.  Sorry Lyss. I think calling her a douche is a bit much.  You don't know the full story.  Maybe she has an issue with him being so small and the crying.  Maybe she just doesn't like kids. Maybe OP is taking it overboard or out of context.  OP said MIL loved the child.  This does not mean the child is being treated poorly or not loved.  This doesn't make her a douche. 

 

She certainly doesn't treat him baldy, just differently than my parents and FIL.  As his mom I know I'm taking it personally, but I wouldn't say she's a douche.  Not that I've never thought it. ;-)

  Sorry, I appologize if I offended you HKJ, I didn't mean to.  I just can't imagine someone not being crazy about or at least liking their child/grandchild. 

hjk5000

Lyssapee:

hjk5000:

Mysterious_wife:

Lyssapee:

My ILs admit to loving Amanda more than eachother and their own children.  My mom feels the same way.

I hope your are crazy, because I can't imagine someone being such a douche. 

I keep coming back to this one.  Sorry Lyss. I think calling her a douche is a bit much.  You don't know the full story.  Maybe she has an issue with him being so small and the crying.  Maybe she just doesn't like kids. Maybe OP is taking it overboard or out of context.  OP said MIL loved the child.  This does not mean the child is being treated poorly or not loved.  This doesn't make her a douche. 

 

She certainly doesn't treat him baldy, just differently than my parents and FIL.  As his mom I know I'm taking it personally, but I wouldn't say she's a douche.  Not that I've never thought it. ;-)

  Sorry, I appologize if I offended you HKJ, I didn't mean to.  I just can't imagine someone not being crazy about or at least liking their child/grandchild. 

No worries, I was just clarifying.

iteachk

Lyssapee:

My ILs admit to loving Amanda more than eachother and their own children.  My mom feels the same way.

I hope your are crazy, because I can't imagine someone being such a douche. 

This.  I'm pretty sure my MIL doesn't like ME though. 

DrBeepersWife

My family LOVES kids and craves to be around A.  My parents wanted to come and see her every day.  I had to actually tell them no, a few times a week will have to do!  My grandmother lives with us and she spends most of her day in Adelyn's room playing and singing to her.  I had the same thing growing up and love it.

However, MIL has no real interest in being a grandma.  She would rather be around her kids or friends.  I mean, I am sure she loves A and likes seeing her occasionaly but she could easily go 6 months without seeing her..no biggie.  In fact, I only have a handful of pictures where she is even in it with A.  We only live 2.5 hours apart.  I guess I attribute it to having 4u3 she burned herself out?