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Can't help being a little sad.

dragossoul84dragossoul84 member
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Our profile went out to two birth moms and they had it for a long time not updating the agency. Waiting to hear back and not nag the agency was really rough well we finally heard back yesterday the women had decided to not make adoption plans. I'm really happy for them  as long the children have loving homes things worked out the way they should but I can't help feeling a little sad and hurt for us and the other couple that was being shown. On a positive our super surprise pregnancy is still going strong I sort of live in fear every day it will turn but right now it is going well.
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Re: Can't help being a little sad.

  • CaptainSeriousCaptainSerious member

    It's perfectly normal to feel sad.  Even though things are progressing with your pregnancy (which I understand being nervous about, too!), you were envisioning growing your family quickly and through adoption.  It's understandable to feel sad when you imagine that path slowing.  The truth is there's no way to predict how quickly/slowly the process will be for you, and that uncertainty is difficult to live with.

    Hugs.  Hang in there.

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  • dragossoul84dragossoul84 member
    Thanks I know it won't be a quick path even with adoption but its just the uncertainty of it all. This is our sixth pregnancy all priors ended in miscarriage so we moved to adoption thinking if we paid our fees and I worked really hard to get everything organized and done expediently then it would be a bit easier. Right now I think I find myself struggling I didnt think not being picked would hurt never thought being pregnant would be terrifying either. Sorry to whine I should just be grateful.
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  • militarywife2bmilitarywife2b
    (((hugs))) its more than normal to morn the loss. Praying that everything goes well with your little bean :0)
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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    It's perfectly normal to feel this way. And it's perfectly normal to second-guess yourself. But as you said, you have to just figure this child wasn't meant to be in your family, and your child will come to you in time.

    The uncertainty is definitely the hardest part of adoption. You could become a parent tomorrow or a year from now. you just never know.

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