Leaving #1 for delivery of #2

dale5689

Did any of you feel anxious about leaving #1 to give birth?  I know she will be in the best care possible but I am not doing well with leaving her.  I know it's more me being away from her than vice versa.  I had a slight scare the other night and thought maybe my water broke (about 5 weeks early) and was beside myself over the thought of leaving her.  Has anyone felt this way and if so, how did you make yourself feel better?  I'm hoping in the heat of contractions and all the pain I won't have time to think about it!

kagl04

For me the anticipation of leaving her was actually much worse than leaving her. I wrote out her schedule and made sure that my mom knew where everything was. I also made sure that my mom was going to watch my DD at our house so she was in the familiar.

When it actually came time to leave her I didn't mind all that much. It was a stressful day, I had been having contractions for a week and I was dilated 7cms at my OB appt that day. I was more then ready to be done! And I felt wonderful not having to worry about DD because I knew she was being taken care of. I never thought I'd feel that way, but once delivery time came leaving her was the last thing on my mind.

HelloWaldorf

I had scheduled c/s so thankfully we were able to work out DS's care schedule. And my husband was able to come home and spend the night with him. 

I missed them like crazy though, and was so excited when they came to visit.

Skype is always good if you can bring a computer with you to the hospital. Phone calls are always good too.

Best of luck. Hope your delivery goes well! 

Daisy22

My mom had cared for DS1 quite a bit and I had a repeat c/s so it was all planned out. I knew he was taken care of and didn't have to worry about him. She did come to our house which I think helped him a lot. Plus DS1 loves my mom to death

When he came to visit the hospital, my mom brought him but dh took him back home and put him to bed. Then my mom left the hospital and took dh's place once DS1 was asleep.

meredith anastasia

I was really anxious about when I'd go in to labour and spent a lot of time worrying about how we'd work out the logistics.

I started having contractions at 1:30am on a Thursday morning, took a cab to the hospital while DH stayed home to get more sleep, then my mom went to our house at 5am so DH could come to the hospital so my mom got DS1 to daycare.  DS2 was born at 11:20am that morning, then DH left the hospital at 5pm to be at home with DS1 for the evening (MIL picked him up from daycare and got him home).  DH put DS1 down for the night so his schedule wasn't too disrupted, then he came back to the hospital to be with me for the night and MIL slept over and got DS2 to daycare in the morning.  DH, DS2 and I were home by 2pm on Friday and picked up DS1 from daycare ourselves.

Qmommy

I'm right there with you!  I too only have 5 weeks until my EDD and am more worried about leaving my DD than labor!  I know she'll be well taken care of but she's going through a "mommy only" phase right now and I hate the idea of her crying when it's time for bed or when she wakes up in the morning because I'm not there.  

My MIL will be taking care of her at our house and DD loves her so I have to keep telling myself just because I do things one way doesn't mean she's not going to respond to my MIL doing things slightly differently.  I know she behaves differently when I'm around than when I'm not around so I have to believe that she'll go to sleep easily for my MIL.  

If nothing else, I keep trying to tell myself possible lies that it will be an easy transition for the both of us. 

kagl04

Qmommy:

I'm right there with you!  I too only have 5 weeks until my EDD and am more worried about leaving my DD than labor!  I know she'll be well taken care of but she's going through a "mommy only" phase right now and I hate the idea of her crying when it's time for bed or when she wakes up in the morning because I'm not there.  

My DD was the exactly way when I was about to give birth. Mommy was the only one who could do anything for her and everyone else she screamed for. My mom is very close with her, so I wasn't 100% worried... but bedtime without me terrified me! Turns out my DD actually goes to sleep easier for my mom and she STTN just like normal and had no problems. My DS had to go to the NICU after birth and DH and I stayed at the hospital with him through Sunday (he was born Wednesday), so I was gone much longer than planned. She was fine! Saw me everyday and even stayed with my mom when we went back to visit DS in the NICU. Now I can leave her with my mom no problem... the experience seems to have kicked out of the whole "mommy-only phase" and also separation anxiety seems to be gone! 

Qmommy

Graciesmomma:

Qmommy:

I'm right there with you!  I too only have 5 weeks until my EDD and am more worried about leaving my DD than labor!  I know she'll be well taken care of but she's going through a "mommy only" phase right now and I hate the idea of her crying when it's time for bed or when she wakes up in the morning because I'm not there.  

My DD was the exactly way when I was about to give birth. Mommy was the only one who could do anything for her and everyone else she screamed for. My mom is very close with her, so I wasn't 100% worried... but bedtime without me terrified me! Turns out my DD actually goes to sleep easier for my mom and she STTN just like normal and had no problems. My DS had to go to the NICU after birth and DH and I stayed at the hospital with him through Sunday (he was born Wednesday), so I was gone much longer than planned. She was fine! Saw me everyday and even stayed with my mom when we went back to visit DS in the NICU. Now I can leave her with my mom no problem... the experience seems to have kicked out of the whole "mommy-only phase" and also separation anxiety seems to be gone! 

Thank you for the reassurance that everything will be okay.  Hopefully my DD will be the same.   

kcisthebombdotcom

I was definitely anxious about leaving #1. It wasnt too bad, and having the quiet bonding time alone with DD was nice. However, when I had to stay an extra day because of some complications, I sobbed because I missed DS so much. lol.

tece

My doc had told me to pack a bag for my next appointment, thinking he would send me in. I cried leaving DS that day, and wound up home in time to put him to bed. When I actually went in to labor it was the middle of the night, DS was sleeping and it was a lot easier. I was so anxious about this my whole pregnancy and it was absolutely fine - DS was surrounded and spoiled by so many that love him. I missed him, but all was well. It made coming home even sweeter and more emotional. Good luck! It will be fine!