If you were told you would have vanishing twins...

Fryjack

but didn't, I'd love to hear your story.  I'm having a hard time with my situation and need more positive stories.

I'm a bit over 9 weeks. I had scans at 6 and 8 weeks.  Both babies measured well, good heartbeats, but one baby had a smaller sac (although it had grown quite a bit between the 2 scans), the radiologist thinks I'll end up with one baby, my OB thinks I will have 2.  I have another scan in a week to see if anything has changed.  I have had no bleeding or cramping.

I'm having a hard time with my emotions.  I go between being excited/scared to have twins and sad/angry at the possibility of losing one.  Even though i haven't lost one yet, I feel like i'm holding my breath and waiting for bad news.  Its like i dont want to allow myself to get too excited or too sad so my head and heart are not in a good place. 

TheBachelorette

We had IVF and had a number of u/s that first trimester.  Baby A always measured behind.  We were also told that we should be prepared for the possibility of a vanishing twin.  By 12 weeks, Baby A was still growing well.  By 20 weeks Baby A was bigger than Baby B.  At 36 weeks, when they were born, Baby A was 5 ounces larger than his sister. Just stay positive and try not to let the emotions get the best of you.

lavenderflow

All you can do is stay positive and focus on having a healthy pregnancy.  I am in a similar situation as you.  At our first scan they wouldn't even measure Baby B.  At the second scan both babies were measuring within a day of one another although the sac for Baby B was only about 1/2 the size of Baby A's.  Because the heartbeats were both over 120 and they are developing on track we have been told both will make it.  I am still scarred of Baby B vanishing but I can't let myself get wrapped up in it.  My T&P are with you and both of your babies.

tmbuchmann

We found out we were having twins at my 8 1/2 week u/s, my OB said, "Well, there's two in there" and then his next words out of his mouth were, "but baby b looks smaller than baby a so be prepared for vanishing twin syndrome" I really wish he wouldn't have said anything about it, because I didn't get in for another u/s for 3 weeks. I worried every day, and I couldn't help but feel helpless, because there wasn't anything I could do.

Three weeks went by and I was finally able to get another u/s and I was so worried that now I would only have one. When they started the u/s sure enough baby b was fine, and growing right on track. I know it's hard and impossible but there isn't anything you can do different, there will be so many more worries to come too. Good luck and I'm sending a lot of growing prayers your way!

caden

I had a vanishing triplet but that baby never measured well or had a good heartbeat. I think it's a really good sign that your babies are fine, regardless of what the sacs look like.

AmyJoy728

My doc warned me of the possibility of a vanishing twin, and I worried about it until my 12 wk appt. It's normal to be scared of losing one, just relax and just get through each week and each appt.

olp

Hi, I'm feeling the same way, on my second ultra, they found an empty sac, on the third, another baby with a good hb but smaller sac, they told me it could be a vanishing twin, i'll be 9 weeks tomorrow and I'm also afraid...I can't wait till the end of Nov, when I'll go to my next ultrasound, good luck :-)

MrsCali_Bride

AmyJoy728:

My doc warned me of the possibility of a vanishing twin, and I worried about it until my 12 wk appt. It's normal to be scared of losing one, just relax and just get through each week and each appt.

Ditto this. I think they have to warn you of the possibility so that you aren't blindsided by it if it does actually happen. I just tried to stay positive and continued to try to get over the shock and used to the idea of having two babies. 

Good luck and I hope you have a great update after your next appt!