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**how do you split nighttime feeding with DH**
So Dh was burning the midnight oil last night with work- so he stayed up for Xaviers feedings and let me sleep however, this cant continue because he does have to go back to work- and the poor guy needs sleep...
I'm curious about if you split the nighttime feedings and how- and if you dont do you go to sleep the first time all kids are asleep (like L is down at 8 and so when X goes down for the first time at night- I would sleep then?)
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Re: **how do you split nighttime feeding with DH**
Since DH has a full time job, I never split feedings. I handled everything with the newborn.
The only exception was if our older DD got up at night (on the few occasions she was sick or wet the bed, etc). I didn't want DH to be tired all day, especially with working overtime.
My friend's husband worked really late one night and was killed in an accident when he fell asleep at the wheel and to this day I worry about stuff like that - even though we don't have a newborn, DH burns the candle at both ends and he's exhausted all the time.
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DH and I generally share night-time responsibilities but that works out to him more often taking care of C (she rarely sleeps through the night) and me taking care of E if he wakes up.
However, I generally always handled more of the feedings for a couple of reasons: 1) I wake at the drop of a hat so I run when E wakes so he doesn't wake C, who also wakes at the drop of a hat. 2) I'm apparently super particular about feedings so when DH does feed E, I always lay there and then ask him if he followed all of my steps when he gets back to bed (I must seem like a peach!). When I'm tired, or DH hears E, he has no problem helping. We generally divide all tasks related to parenting.
DH is on Rosie duty if she gets up, although she rarely does. With Thomas up until a few days ago, I would do a feeding anywhere from 7-10pm, pump, and then go up to sleep. DH would then take the next feeding, which would be anywhere from 10pm-1am, put the baby back to sleep downstairs in the PNP, and then bring him up for his next feeding.
Now we do a bedtime bottle around 8pm, and then I pump and go upstairs to sleep. DH stays down here with the baby in the PNP until he wakes up, then brings him up to me. When it all works properly, DH gets about 6-7 hours of sleep, and I get a good 3-4 straight hours in the beginning of the night. However, Thomas's sleep has gone completely haywire the past few nights, so now none of us are sleeping. Ugh.
We didn't- ha! Since I was BFing and staying home, I did all the night time feedings. If I was going back to work we probably would have split them a bit more.
In the very beginning DH would get up w/ me, just to make sure everything was going okay w/ BF. Or on the rare occasion Evan was extra fussy and wouldn't go back to sleep DH would step in and help out.
I didn't with DD b/c I was breastfeeding. It sucked when I went back to work and still had to get up during the night.
But, in the beginning, the very beginning, he would change her and bring her to me. That was nice.
Ehh, I just took them all. I think there was one night where I was sick, so I slept thru one of the feedings and dh fed her from the milk in the freezer. But with the nursing, I was so worried that skipping any feedings would make me lose my supply, it wasn't worth it to me. And then once I felt I had a good supply going, she was sleeping longer chunks, so it wasn't too bad.
DH is naturally a night owl and likes to sleep in. So on nights I was real tired, I would pump at say 10pm and go to bed, and then he would grab the 11:30 feeding so I wouldn;t have to wake up until 2. That worked out pretty good and I plan to do that more often this time with ds.