When I ask my RE why, he said that it's mostly FDA guidelines that they are working in when it comes to any donor cycle. I just find it amazing that there are so many restrictions and disease searching done on donor recipients, yet, RE's can move forward w/ no problems on women who are dealing w/ severe diabetes, high blood pressure, cancer, whatever. All these diseases can cause serious harm to the mother during pregnancy or afterwards.
I have severe RA, there are days I can't pick my son up without help. I go to physical therapy 2 times a week to help with my hands so I can carry him and care for him. I take a medicine that could give me cancer and destroys my immune system. I take chemo to decimate my white cell count to control the disease. I get sick easily because of this and can easily end up in the hospital. But with all that said my son is loved, healthy and well cared for. I have a support system for when times are hard and there are days I struggle, persevere and deal with the pain because that is my life. RA is not a disease I will die from, but with your reasoning I could see a RE saying they wouldn't treat me because of it. Should my RE have said "no I won't treat you because you may struggle to care for your child or because I have a degenerative disease?". People have diseases, some are made worse by pregnancy, but I don't think anyone should have the right to tell someone they should or shouldn't have children.
I also don't believe in anyway that there is a moral decision to be made here. Whose morality are we all supposed to live by? Yours? You could die tomorrow so if you truly believe that a RE has a moral responsibility for the children they help to conceive then your RE shouldn't allow you to get treatment, after all there is a possibility you could die before your children are grown.
TTC since 8/2004
Me - DX Hashimoto's Disease, Hypothyroid, Rheumatoid Arthritis
DH - DX Azoospermia - Sertoli Cell Syndrome
DS-IUI #1-4 BFN
IVF #1 - BFP! It's a boy!!!
Re: Do you think RE's have a moral responsiblility?
I have severe RA, there are days I can't pick my son up without help. I go to physical therapy 2 times a week to help with my hands so I can carry him and care for him. I take a medicine that could give me cancer and destroys my immune system. I take chemo to decimate my white cell count to control the disease. I get sick easily because of this and can easily end up in the hospital. But with all that said my son is loved, healthy and well cared for. I have a support system for when times are hard and there are days I struggle, persevere and deal with the pain because that is my life. RA is not a disease I will die from, but with your reasoning I could see a RE saying they wouldn't treat me because of it. Should my RE have said "no I won't treat you because you may struggle to care for your child or because I have a degenerative disease?". People have diseases, some are made worse by pregnancy, but I don't think anyone should have the right to tell someone they should or shouldn't have children.
I also don't believe in anyway that there is a moral decision to be made here. Whose morality are we all supposed to live by? Yours? You could die tomorrow so if you truly believe that a RE has a moral responsibility for the children they help to conceive then your RE shouldn't allow you to get treatment, after all there is a possibility you could die before your children are grown.
Me - DX Hashimoto's Disease, Hypothyroid, Rheumatoid Arthritis
DH - DX Azoospermia - Sertoli Cell Syndrome
DS-IUI #1-4 BFN IVF #1 - BFP! It's a boy!!!