My advice to those expecting or new at 2u2

Mrs.V

I'm just browsing the boards after a long time away and I thought I could share some advice since I feel like a seasoned 2u2er now! What I want to stress is don't put to much time and energy into worrying about how you're going to handle a baby and a toddler and imaging all kinds of scenarios that may happen and thinking up possible solutions. Just relax and take each day as it comes. A lot depends on your children's personalities, which you can't predict ahead of time and which also change as they age. 12-18 months old for DS2 turned out to be a really rough patch because he's just sooooo busy and into everything! But other people may find other ages harder because their children are different. Also, don't forget that LO1 will keep changing so quickly so what you anticipate being an issue may not be once your LO2 is born. Children adapt easily, especially if you're happy! Just try to enjoy each day and know that "this to will pass" whenever you're in a rough patch. Oh, and try to just start getting out and doing things as much as possible. Even if the kids were acting up, etc. it was still always so much better to be out and having fun. People often comment on how much we do with the boys, etc. and how they are well behaved in public. Some friends say they could never take their toddlers out to restaurants but we think our boys are good because we have just always done that with them. I guess what I'm trying to say is just do whatever it is you want to do, don't overthink it, just get out and have fun!

HelloWaldorf

Thank you! It's so true. Learning to relax has helped me A TON! And I absolutely love having my boys close together.  

silkyhorse

Great advice.  I've been worrying about the exact things you're saying not to worry about - I'll try to stop

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sargent85

My son will be 13 months when this lil guy is due.

My main worry is he is sooooo needy right now (and on top of it is teething massively). Ill stop worrying and take it day by day.

I was hopeing with having 2 brand new babys at daycare(the daycare ladys had babys) that he would adjust..it seems like hes starting to a lil bit...but its hard.

Thank you for this. Its comforting!

newly_naugler

Thank you, I needed to hear this. New BFP and am freaking out abit.

melissapilgreen

thesarge85:

My son will be 13 months when this lil guy is due.

My main worry is he is sooooo needy right now (and on top of it is teething massively). Ill stop worrying and take it day by day.

I was hopeing with having 2 brand new babys at daycare(the daycare ladys had babys) that he would adjust..it seems like hes starting to a lil bit...but its hard.

Thank you for this. Its comforting!

This! My little girl is about 14 months and so needy! I worry that she will feel abandoned when the new baby comes. She's my little buddy and, frankly, I worry that I'll have favorites because I can't imagine loving anyone as much as I love her. I know that sounds horrible and I know I will love the new baby just as much, but I'm scared. Madi is all I've known for the last 14 months and I'm scared of the change.

Reepicheep

I'm still new to all this, but from what I know so far, that is really, really good advice.  Thanks!

TheMutleys

Thanks for saying this.  This is how I feel, but I don't have the experience to back it up. 

I figure that all of life is a ride.  I am going to enjoy the ride we're on.  I'm sure that it will be scary/tough at times in the future, just like it has in the past.  However, worrying about the potential scary/tough times does nothing but ruin what is going on in the present.