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Think I had a breakthrough with my mom today....

angielayne926angielayne926 member
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Let me just start this by saying I'm close to my mom.  We talk on the phone or email back and forth everyday.  She will take off work to take me to the Dr. if DH can't go with me.  When I was off work after my ectopic surgery, she would randomly bring over groceries because she knew I wasn't getting paid.

That being said....she hasn't talked to me about how I'm feeling about my losses until today....

I was calling her to let her know that my HSG is scheduled for Friday.  We were talking a little about the process and then she brought up the fact that my dad was pretty upset after our last loss.  Then she mentioned that people were asking how I was doing and all she could really tell them was, "They are just focusing on Angie getting better."  Then she ASKED how I was doing with everything.  It brought tears to my eyes that she actually asked me.  Don't get me wrong, she's asked how I am doing physically, but never emotionally. 

I think part of the reason she's never asked is because she never had any issues getting pregnant, so she just doesn't know what to say to me that isn't going to be the wrong thing.  I don't know why I'm making a big deal out of this, but it really meant a lot to me that she actually brought it up. 

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Re: Think I had a breakthrough with my mom today....

  • FreyaWin2382FreyaWin2382 member

    I think it shows a lot about the strength of your relationship that you guys were able to talk about it....that's the kind of thing that can quickly become like the elephant in the room, and can be very hurtful, so I hope that this helps you to heal.

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  • QuigleyCat1QuigleyCat1 member
    I'm happy for you.  It evidently took her a little longer but seems like it was always on her mind.  So glad you could share that with your mom. :)

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  • ella.mabelella.mabel member

    That's so great about your mom.  Isn't it crazy how much it means for someone to ask how we're doing??

    I have a similar relationship with my mom, we talk everyday, but during/after the m/c, she just didn't get it.  She actually told me that she felt like i should be relieved to have a m/c because something was wrong with the baby.  It would mean the world to me to be able to talk to her about it, but whenever i mention to her anything about the m/c, i get this vibe that she thinks i should get over it.

    Anyhow, your mom sounds awesome.  Take care.

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