We've been dealing with the same thing, for the same amount of time, and I know this:
jlw2505:Just keep taking her back to her own bed plain and simple! I know - way easier to say than to do. Key is consistancy. Every time she shows up in your bed, don't talk or turn on lights, just walk her back to her bed. Start on a weekend since you may not get much sleep at first. You can start at night by sitting on her bed until she falls asleep and then each night, sit further away from her - on the floor, then on the floor part way between the bed and the door, then by the door, then just outside the room, etc. This might take a few nights or a few weeks depending on your child and how consistant you are. To get it done faster, you have to be consistant and not let her back into your bed or you have to start all over. Think CIO.
is what we have to do, but I just haven't been willing to take the time to do it. We did, however, just upgrade to a king bed. lol.
My DD never fell asleep in our bed but she does come over in the middle of the night. I tell her before she goes to bed that she cannot come to my bed anymore b/c there is no space and mom and dad don't sleep. Some nights it works.
When she comes I walk her over to her bed. She would come over saying she was scared, I didn't buy it so now she's started a new tactic where she comes in and says something really sweet. Like, "I just came over for a kiss from you". Its hard but I have to be consistent.
They will push and push to try and get their way. They'll do it for their entire lives. Thats why consistency is important.