Has anyone had experience losing one of their babies?

KimAnn79

During my first ultrasound I had three sacs.  I went Monday for my next ultrasound and there were 2 hearbeats, 101 and 119 (I'm 6 weeks).  The tech said she didn't see a heartbeat or fetal pole in the third sac.  I've had three miscarriages and just this morning I started spotting.  I'm freaking out because of my history.  The doctor never explained what would happen to the third sac so I don't know if the spotting is from that.  I have another ultrasound today to make sure the other two are ok.  I'm trying to relax but very worried.  I've also had some mild cramping for a while on the sides as well as the front.  I just attributed it to growing pains of the uterus.  I did tell my RE and he didn't seem too concerned about it.  The spotting is pink and light and I don't have any cramps at the moment.  I was just wondering if any of you had experienced the loss of one of your multiples and what happened??  TIA!

Temp6313048411121614

Not speaking from personal experience, but in general the body just reabsorbs the lost embryo.

Kmarie823

I had early bleeding around 6 weeks and then lost baby C a little after 8 weeks.  I did not have any bleeding after that loss and after another 8-10 weeks you couldn't see baby C on the u/s anymore.  

I went on to have healthy twins.  

Good luck! 

lisa&andy

We lost our Baby C, the same thing happened to me. We had 2 HB's and the 3rd sac looked like fetal pole was there, but a HB never developed. I was told that my could either pass it and I would experience some light bleeding or my body would absorb it and I would never know. My body ended up absorbing it so they just monitored it to make sure it was getting smaller.

KimAnn79

Thanks ladies. My RE never explained what might happen and I forgot to ask.  I just assumed my body would reabsorb it and I would never know until I had the ultrasound.  I'll know more today at 3:15.  I just wish I could fast forward 8 or 9 months and know that they'd be healthy!

UsedToBeGoldie

i'm sorry for the loss of your triplet.  It's always a sad thing, even if you were freaked out by having 3 - it's always sad to lose a baby.

It's considered a "disappearing" triplet - and your body will just absorb it.  This is quite common- most people don't even know it happens b/c not everyone gets such early US's. 

It does not effect the rest of the pregnancy... so that's always good news.

I have quite a few friends IRL who have had disappearing twins - and all went on to have successful pregnancies.

Prayers for your LO - and for the rest of your pg - i know having m/cs = extra worry - so arm yourself with knowledge so you can feel that you have some control... Dr. Luke's book is a great resource for a multiples pregnancy.

KimAnn79

Thanks so much Goldie.  I've heard about that book.  I'll definitely look into getting after I'm confident that both will make it.  I was a little freaked out about having 3, but you're right, it's still sad to know it's not viable.  I take comfort in having seen the hbs on Monday but I still worry.  I'm taking it easy today and resting as much as possible. 

caden

I lost my baby C somewhere between week 8 and 10. I had major bleeding @ week 7 and went to the ER but everything was fine after that. My baby C measured more than a week behind A & B and its heartbeat was low enough that my RE suspected it was my pulse showing up. That was at week 8. At week 10 it had vanished and was apparently absorbed b/c I didn't have more bleeding. Unfortunately for our nerves bleeding is very common w/ multiple pregnancies, esp if you did IVF (not sure if you did or not but I did so that's why I mention it).

KimAnn79

I did IUI.  The spotting stopped for now but every trip to the bathroom is like a nightmare.  DH is leaving work early to come with me to my doc appointment.  I've had a natural miscarriage before and it was no day at the beach.  I'm hoping that I just have a little bleeding and that's it.  I'll update after my appointment.  I feel much better after talking about it.  Thanks!

afwifestrecker7706

We lost baby D when we went for our u/s at 7 weeks we saw 4 sacs only 3 had heart beats. The day after my u/s I started bleeding bright red. I went to the hospital and still saw the 4 sacs. I went back at 9 weeks and had u/s and the sac had most the way absorbed. The Drs told me it was normal to just absorb the sac and not even know it.

Sorry  for your lose.

DoingItRight

I lost one of my triplets between 10-12 weeks.  I never had any bleeding, spotting, or any miscarriage symptoms.

allisonmarie22

I don't want to get your hopes up unnecessarily, but I had no fetal pole or heartbeat for baby B at a 6 week ultrasound, but all was just fine at my 7 week scan. Don't give up hope on the little one just yet!  )

sescms2004

We lost baby C around 8.5 wks.  This baby did start out w/ a heartbeat, though, but it was much slower and had a much smaller sac than the other two.  I never had any bleeding or spotting.  The heartbeat just stopped at some point, and then the sac gradually started to disappear until we no longer saw it on u/s...I think this was around 12 wks or so.  Hugs to you and hope that your LO's are all ok.

KimAnn79

It's funny you said that Allison because they saw the third hearbeat today!!  I'm only 6 weeks so anything can happen.  But as of now, all three have heart beats.  The tech said two days ago that she thought she saw a fetal pole but was unsure.  It was really hard to tell.  There was no known reason for my spotting and it's pretty much stopped at this point.  I expect it won't be the first scare I have.  I'm being cautiously optimistic :-)