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TTC After a Loss
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Re: nothing to see
BFP #2 11/3/10; BO at u/s 10w6d 12/16/10; Natural MC 1/7/11; D&C 4/21/11
BFP #3 10/27/11 Please stick, LO!! 2/6/12 It's a Girl! Alexis Grace born 6/29/12
BFP#4 4/27/14 Stick, stick, stick!! 8/11/14 It's a Boy! Evan Wesley born 1/8/15
"Patience is waiting. Not passively waiting. That is laziness. But to keep going when the going is hard and slow, that is patience." Let it Be (blog) ♥ My BFP Charts
This time I'm not leaving without you.
I never believed in "sending messages" until my mom got sick and died. About a month before she passed, I was staying with my parents to help care for her. I was having a particularly sad night dealing with things, and was in my bro's old room to wind down for the night. I don't know how, but I found a folder of documents in his room, some of which had my grandparents' (my mom's parents) handwriting, who passed before my mom did. I got so angry all of a sudden. HOW could they be letting this happen to my mom? I looked upward and with tears in my eyes, said, "You had better take care of her", because I knew my mom was dying. I was speaking to my grandparents when I said it. A second later there was a very definite weight on my right shoulder, like a hand. Out of nowhere, a voice said, "We promise." Then, it was over. I just sat there completely stunned.
Then, a few weeks later my mom passed in the middle of the night, around 5 a.m. I woke up in the next room at 4:45 a.m. Everything was quiet, but I'd just had a dream that my mom had died and that it was the next morning and my dad was softly shaking me awake to tell me. I woke my husband up and told him, and he held me until I fell asleep at 5 a.m. I just had a feeling my mom was gone. Three hours later, I woke up the exact same way my dad had woken me in the dream, him softly shaking me, and told me my mom was gone. My response. "I know daddy. I dreamt it. It happened around 5 a.m." When the hospice people came later that day, they asked whether we knew what time she had died. I said 5 a.m. The nurse told me that that was their estimate too. I know for sure that was my mother's way of saying goodbye to me.
If it gives you comfort to believe that your dream was a message to you, I say, believe it. My two stories give me comfort and make me feel connected to my mom, even two years later. I'm so glad to hear that you've got someone on the other side ready to watch over you and your LOs.
I would have no problem believing it was more than a dream and you got a nice visit from your grandmother. I firmly believe there is more to life than we can see.
I had an incident when I was about 15 or 16 that had to do with a dream. It was right after my uncle died, we thought he might have been killed but it was deemed a suicide and we were told it was in our best interest to let it go (for safety reasons I can't get in to online). Anyhow I had never been to his house, never seen pictures of it even but right after his funeral I started having dreams that I was walking through his house and talking with his daughter. The first night I didn't think much of it but the next night it got a little more involved and then the third night was a little more detailed than the previous 2 nights. By then it had been 3 nights in a row and I was really creeped out so I told my mother about it and she made me describe the house. When I did she started crying and called my grandmother to come over. I described the house to her too and she couldn't believe that I got almost everything right since I had never been there or seen pictures (the only thing I got wrong was the color of the carpet in my cousins room, I knew it was a light color but couldn't figure out what color it was specifically). After that I never had the dream again but I really felt like my uncle was trying to tell me something.It's very possible you grandmother knows you need some hope and she wanted to give it to you. I think my (deceased) grandmother gave me a sign recently and I am looking forward to finding out if I am right in the next few days.