Allergies suck when your kid is old enough to realize

LSU628

they are left out. DD's class made a cute pumpkin craft/snack that had a hershey's kiss as part of it. DD's teacher called to ask if she could have chocolate and I told her no. When my mom picked up DD that afternoon, the teacher said DD looked sad as everyone else was enjoying their treat. They gave her one of the packs of cookies I sent for such occasions, but it still stinks to know that DD realized she was left out. We get re-tested in December and I can't hope or pray hard enough that she has out-grown the dairy allergy!!

luvmagoldn

That sucks.  Can you request that the school not use dairy products in projects?  It seems so unnecessary to exclude a child from a craft.

magdusia

that really breaks my heart..

I would be taking my son to toysrus and spending a sh*t load of money just to get over the guilt.

omurray

I would ask the school to let you know in advance when there is going to be some type of special treat, craft, etc. that your daughter could be left out of.  Given enough notice, I bet you could have come up with an alternative that they could have used for your daughter to keep her included.  My son is allergic to nuts and I have made it clear to the preschool teachers that I'm more than willing to do all the research and running around to find safe alternatives for these type of activities, but I need to know in advance.  There's no excuse for a preschool child to feel excluded.  I'm sorry this happened.

blue33

This is one of my biggest fears. My son is only a year old, but he notices that he doesn't get a food tray like the other kids. It is just so hard to shield them from being hurt and left out when they are at school and the other kids without allergies are enjoying a birthday cupcake or icecream or candy that your child is allergic to. I plan on sending treats to DS's class also, but I am unsure if they will allow me to just keep a stash there, or if they will just let us know ahead of time, so that I can take it on that day. UGHGHGHHH. So sorry for you and your daughter.

Blackvelvet

I know it sucks when they know but I'm still excluded from stuff in because I can't eat it they will have to learn sooner or latter no reason not to let others have their fun

Court0026

I was pleasantly surprised at my son's reaction over the weekend.  He went to his first friend party (some kids, mostly family, but not our family).  I baked his favorite cookies and put them in my purse.  The cake was an adorable Little Einsteins that everyone was eating right in front of him.  He didn't care.  When we got home, he told DH that he had some cookies and didn't eat the cake "because it was full of eggs".  There are already times he wants to eat something that someone else is eating, but he is surprising me with his responses. 

g_belle

ugh- I'm so sorry.  I'm dreading that day.