Pulled LO out of daycare WWYD - sorry long?

eSynergy · October 2011

I was feeling sick to my stomach when I read this. I'm glad you took you LO out of there. I'm a pretty easy-going person and this situation would really bother me.

We go to a daycare center/school and we can drop-in whenever we want. If LO is crying for more than 5-10 mins they call me. He's always happy to be left there and obviously loves his teachers. You were right in trusting your gut.

MJHershey · October 2011

anniebet619:
report her! Being secretive about how she was caring for your child is a huge deal. She obviously knew she was doing wrong since she did not communicate her practices with you. Telling you that you cannot just drop by may be a violation of the terms of her license. Every parent of an attending child where I am is allowed to drop by unexpectedly at any time, in fact they have you sign a document here that says you realize you have this right. I cannot imagine it would be so different where you are. I am so sorry you guys went through this.

This. That is fishy. and her disciplining such a young kid that way and isolating him? No wonder your LO does not like her.

topbirdsix · October 2011

You are absolutely correct in pulling your child out of there. That sounds horrible! I just had to re-complete our enrollment paperwork (she lost it, another story for another day) and I had to sign something that said I could show up at any time for whatever reason I wanted to.

A DCP should have nothing to hide at any time.

Also, when my LO started at DC there was another LO there a few months older. That LO since left because he wasn't adjusting to the setting. It was after many meetings between the mother and the DCP, onsite visits, at home visits, etc. A good DCP would be proactive in working with the parents if adjustment is not going well.

Good luck in finding a new DCP.

delg23 · October 2011

I don't have any experience with daycares but your post seriously freaked me out. I would report.

KristenFMR · October 2011

2-Report It. It's making me sick just thinking about those poor kids in her care and the other parents should know what is going on. Thank god you found out

HelloWaldorf · October 2011

katiez411:
If this were me, I would definitely be reporting this DCP. I'm sorry your LO was having such a hard time the last few days, there is some truth to taking time to adjust but something just seems off with this lady.....

This. I would find someone new to take care of LO right away.

Krista123105 · October 2011

TiffanyBerry:
#2, totally.
The fact that you could never see what was going on and she is so secretive is a HUGE GIGANTIC FRANTICALLY WAVING RED FLAG!

This, definitely.

NG2HD · October 2011

Literally, I stopped reading this when I read that your provider told you that you could not just show up. Nope - I'd be gone. And I went back to read that your LO was in a playpen alone behind closed doors. Not what you're paying her for. I would be beyond furious. In fact, I'd probably not only take LO out of that daycare, but I'd find out how to complain to the state.

JoannaJes · October 2011

zeptattoo:
I would report it, although to be honest I'm not sure that the compaint would go anywhere, only because I don't know what she is doing actually violates any statutes. If anything though, at least the complaint would be on record. If nothing else, you will feel good about reporting her and moving onto another DCP.

She absolutlely is in violation. What she is doing is neglect. This is not a difference of parenting styles.

OP, you don't need evidence. It's up to the licensing board to gather evidence. All you need to do is report a concern.

I used to work the same building as our county child-care resource and referral and would hear some daycare horror stories. Obviously this isn't the worst thing I've ever heard, but from what you wrote she is clearly neglecting your LO. Not noticing that an infant has a fever and diarrhea, letting him cry for 7 hours without contacting the parent, and leaving him alone while ill is serious neglect.

What if he was seriously ill and something happened while he was crying by himself in that room? Please don't send your LO back there at all.

ali_bl-nov05 · October 2011

My heart is racing with anger just reading this, there's so much wrong here. It particulary bothers me that she is so secretive and that she gave you that BS excuse of needing a break. She then disregarded your instructions and kept a baby isolated and crying for HOURS!, I can't even imagine what your poor LO was feeling.

AND HECK, I'LL PICK UP MY KID AT ANY HOUR I NEED

YES, REPORT HER and spread the word to other parents

I'm sorry to ramble, but I'm really upset, I can't even explain it.

rlyttle · October 2011

I wouldn't stand for all of that for a second!!! That's scary!!

FancyFrenchie · October 2011

That sounds awesome. Your poor LO.

Definitely report this lady and cuddle with your LO as much as you can the next few days!!!

Lyssapee · October 2011

Report her! You did the right thing. My heart hurts for your child after reading that.

etude de la vie · October 2011

Lyssapee:
Report her! You did the right thing. My heart hurts for your child after reading that.

This! I am astounded when reading this and almost at a loss of words. Not only would I report her but I would try to contact the other parents to tell them about your experience so they could be informed.

Stephanie2167 · October 2011

Report her. Our old DCP would call you if your child was unconsolable. Their is no reason why she should let him cry that long. 1) It interupts other childrens days and 2) he may not be feeling well and needs his mommy.

Also, their should always be an open door policy. We used to call our old DCP if we were coming earlier as a courtesy so that she could get DDs stuff together. But if we didn't it was no big deal.

tyke29 · October 2011

TiffanyBerry:

#2, totally.

The fact that you could never see what was going on and she is so secretive is a HUGE GIGANTIC FRANTICALLY WAVING RED FLAG!

This. Report her ASAP.

Army~Wife · October 2011

ali_bl-nov05:

My heart is racing with anger just reading this, there's so much wrong here. It particulary bothers me that she is so secretive and that she gave you that BS excuse of needing a break. She then disregarded your instructions and kept a baby isolated and crying for HOURS!, I can't even imagine what your poor LO was feeling.

AND HECK, I'LL PICK UP MY KID AT ANY HOUR I NEED

YES, REPORT HER and spread the word to other parents

I'm sorry to ramble, but I'm really upset, I can't even explain it.

This!!!!! I am sick to my stomach to think what your poor LO has been going through at that DCP. If you wanted him locked in a cage for hours alone you would have specified that! Who knows what else is going on over there to either your LO or the others. Not letting you come it to see where the play seriously makes me want to vomit. I feel so bad for your LO and the other LO's she could very well be locking away.....or worse. Horrible! I am glad you pulled your son. I would not only report her but I would also find a way to reach out to the other parents. I would want to know if my DD's were being treated this way!

JillianGoe · October 2011

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this! Everything you're describing is the opposite of what a DCP should do! I use an in-home DCP and none of what you're describing is ever acceptable. I'm proud of you for pulling your LO out of her care and for reporting the DCP. That said, I would tell the other parents what you experienced (wouldn't you want to know what was happening?) Ugh. So sorry.