So sick of hearing how busy everyone else is.

Jaylea

This is a vent.

If I have to hear from one more family member how busy and tired they are, I may snap.

We are a household with two full time working parents, two kids under 5 who go to 2 different child cares, a dog and a guinea pig (lol).  I am up at 5 every morning and don't sit down to relax until after 9.  $hit is HARD right now. But it's all temporary, so we're powering through. We don't complain. We just do what we need to.

But if I hear from one more person how busy they are, I might snap.  There is nothing hard about two adults taking care of their home and their lives themselves. Sorry, there just isn't. If they're both in good health, with no one to care for other than themselves, working typical jobs, then they're just grownups. This is not to say that they can't have a bad spate of luck or a particularly trying week, but OMG at least they get to sleep at night! Unlike us, who spent last night with an inconsolable 8.5 month old with bronchiolitis and a 4 year old who is afraid of the dark. At this rate, I am hoping to get a good night sleep in about a decade.

/vent over.

KathrynMD

oh sister - amen to all that.

I spend vacations listening to my SIL *** about how hard it is to get her spa treatments in while also driving her kids to soccer/football/dance, etc.  Uh-huh

LoCarb

I hear you, I sympathize and I completely agree!  Ditto this vent!

JLS0320

I get sick of it too. My SAHM friends, MIL that hasn't worked in years, friends that don't work, are unmarried and childless are always telling me how busy and exhausted they are. Um yeah, don't think so.

itsmevkb

I would agree that right about now I feel that I'm busier than many people who tell me how busy they are.   Working full-time, three kids, and a husband who works full-time and is also trying to finish his dissertation doesn't leave any of us much free time.  However, I will say this, in life I've learned that everyone has something.  You may have stayed up all night with your kids and they may have stayed up all night worrying about their finances or something else, you just never know.

Now, where do I sign up for the "my life is so busy because I go to the spa"????

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KathrynMD

McRib:

I am embarassed that I ever said I was tired or busy before being a Mom.

lol - me too

and even now, I wouldn't complain to the mother of a newborn.

aglenn

McRib:

I am embarrassed that I ever said I was tired or busy before being a Mom.

This.  I used to think I was busy/stressed/tired, but boy would I love to trade days with my old self once in a while.  I had it made and didn't realize it!

kmwills

aglenn:

McRib:

I am embarrassed that I ever said I was tired or busy before being a Mom.

This.  I used to think I was busy/stressed/tired, but boy would I love to trade days with my old self once in a while.  I had it made and didn't realize it!

This!  I often wonder what I used to do with all my "free time", because I still seem to get everything done that needs to be, even with a toddler.  Maybe I used to read more or get to the gym once in awhile.  LOL!

katiewhompus

I gave a death glare (according to my boss) to a coworker the other day because she complained that she was sooo sleep deprived after getting only 8 hours of sleep. I also just about killed H because he said "waking up at 5am sucks" since he had to work early today. Yeah no sh*t. Try waking up at 1am, and 5am every freaking day.

Amaryllis619

agreed!!!  I hate when my SAHM friends tell me how "busy" they are... yah, try having all the housework, dinner on the table, bathtime & bedtime routine for the kids, laundry, and a min or two with DH.... plus working 40 hours a week. 

i laugh at my single self... i thought i was busy and tired then. ha!  i had it easy. but i wouldn't trade this for the world! I may be busy and stressed, but i am also so happy to be a mommy and a wife.

UpNorthGal

Another member of the choir here! My mom works FT and my Dad is retired. It urks me to no end when she complains about being so busy/tired. She works a 9-5 in an office, they have no pets, and live in a smaller house. Seriously? Come to my house and we can chat. I'll even slide the clean pile of laundry (from last night) over so you can sit on the couch.

skyejo

I hear ya.

This especially drives me nuts with my SAHM family members and friends.  I have one SAHM friend who is *always* so terribly busy and exhausted even though her DS sleeps until 10am every.effing.day.  Are you kidding me? I start my day at 5am and end it at 1130pm.  And do everything that you do all day after working full time. Give me a freaking break.

And then there are my married friends with pets who are always so busy keeping up with their dog...Is that even possible?

 

 

JoAnna914

itsmevkb:

I would agree that right about now I feel that I'm busier than many people who tell me how busy they are.   Working full-time, three kids, and a husband who works full-time and is also trying to finish his dissertation doesn't leave any of us much free time.  However, I will say this, in life I've learned that everyone has something.  You may have stayed up all night with your kids and they may have stayed up all night worrying about their finances or something else, you just never know.

Now, where do I sign up for the "my life is so busy because I go to the spa"????

I kinda agree with this.  As someone who is just about to embark on motherhood, I understand that I may feel differently soon.  But there is nothing that would hurt me more than my mom-friends who would dismiss the fact that I really DO have a busy life due to the nature of my job and other obligations I've taken on within my family and community, regardless of the fact that I do not (yet) have children.  I mean, what are the non-moms supposed to do - NOT talk about the things in their lives that feel overwhelming?  I just don't think that's reasonable or fair.

mexicolombiana

I absolutely feel you.

I'm also sick of reading FB updates or similar vents where people list all kinds of NORMAL everyday things people have to do to function and act like they did a lot of important things for the day. 

Like...

OMG I'm so tired and feel so accomplished because this morning I woke my daughter up, changed her diaper, changed her clothes, gave her breakfast, walked to the mailbox, picked up the mail, and then had to put my daughter down for a nap!

Or something like that.  You do not get a medal for LIVING life and doing mandatory things with your kids like feeding them.

 

CrazyToast

McRib:

I am embarassed that I ever said I was tired or busy before being a Mom.

I totally agree.  I never knew a REAL tired before DD!

Carolyn311

McRib:

I am embarassed that I ever said I was tired or busy before being a Mom.

This!  I always think...why did I ever complain about being tired or busy before having kids...

MammaBear81

I totally agree with all of this!  I'd also like to add that I am totally annoyed at anyone who complains to me about how they don't have any money... the economy sucks, you are NOT the only one who has has to cut expenses.  Please stop complaining to me that you don't have enough money, how about try bringing your lunch to work instead of buying everyday?  Your household income at least doubles what mine does, try not spending more money than you make in a month!

ElopeToHawaii

Amen!  I overheard someone at the coffee maker this morning complaining that their day started at 5:30.  All of my days start at 5:30; I'm not impressed.  I try not to get bitter about it, as an OP said, everyone has something.  But I do give myself credit for what I do.  No one is going to give me a medal for getting both kids dressed and out of the house each morning by 7:10 - I'm giving myself that medal!

Jaylea

JoAnna914:

I kinda agree with this.  As someone who is just about to embark on motherhood, I understand that I may feel differently soon.  But there is nothing that would hurt me more than my mom-friends who would dismiss the fact that I really DO have a busy life due to the nature of my job and other obligations I've taken on within my family and community, regardless of the fact that I do not (yet) have children.  I mean, what are the non-moms supposed to do - NOT talk about the things in their lives that feel overwhelming?  I just don't think that's reasonable or fair.

Well, I did say that I understand everyone has their challenges. That said, it really is different to be up worrying all night on your own versus something like this night, which I had Sunday night:

Go upstairs at 10:30 because DS is up and shrieking. After an hour and 45 minutes of shrieking, he falls asleep, with me holding him. Can't put him down. Manage to find a position to be somewhat asleep.  DD starts coming in, because she's scared of the dark. Once she sees DS is in bed, and thus she can't fit, she throws a tantrum. It's about 12:30-1am at this point. H takes her back to bed, finally gets her to sleep, comes back to our room.

DS wakes AGAIN. Crying inconsolably. Get him back to sleep.

DD comes in AGAIN. Same scenario as before.

DS wakes AGAIN.

DD starts wailing from her bed about being scared.

Alarm goes off at 5am. 

Last night was better - DS woke shrieking shortly after I went to bed. Then DD came in at about 2am, so I put DS back in his bed and took her to the bathroom. Then my alarm went off at 5am.

Sorry, but it is just a whole new ballgame when you're talking about having to respond to other people's shenanigans all the time. It's not just "Oh, I couldn't get comfortable/I worried all night/etc" - because you can catch up on sleep later, at some point.  If you're a parent, it's going to be several years.  And when they're sick (like right now), it's an effing nightmare.

Bella427

I can totally relate to this.  I work with college students.  All they ever tell me is how busy and tired they are.  It's very hard not to laugh in most of their faces, especially the ones taking 12 hours and not working at all.  Plus my inlaws are constantly complaining about how busy their retired lives are with water aerobics.  WTF?!

celiabwatson

On my teaching team at school there are 5 of us. 2 are young, just out of school etc. The other two are older, one who's been teaching forever and one is a career changer. None of them have kids at home. I have a toddler and am 34 weeks pregnant. Yet I got the evil eye yesterday because I didn't get something done by the arbitrary deadline we had set.

SummerMama12

I was super exhausted and busy when I was working full-time and in grad school.  I never got more than a few hours of sleep then and often had to work through much of the night and then be at work at 7am.  Now, with a full-time job and a toddler, I sleep more than I did in those days.  So, I do get that people can be extremely tired/busy if they aren't parents.  Sometimes I think we (being in the thick of it) just forget that.  It's all relative to your current frame of reference.