What does he mean by this?

mpotts09

The babies dad has only talked to me 2 months out of the 10 months I've been pregnant, I'm due in 6 days and he texted me last night saying he misses me, I do miss him so I said it back, but if he was going to start talking like that I would reassure him that I don't want a relationship right now. He said " Mhm night" after I said imy too. Then I said um ok? what was that all about? then he said " I don't want you with another guy" I said I'm not and I don't want to be with anyone, so he asked why and I gave him some reasons. He hasn't been to 1 dr. appt, just started talking to me again last week and expects to get back w/ me after the baby is here so he really knows it's his kid. Um no..he has tons of earning back to do. He obviously doesn't want to be with me but then he doesn't want me with anyone else? Why do guys say stuff like that?? It's confusing!

BostonGayGal

Adult relationship chats are not done by text.

achase123

What's confusing about it?  He doesn't want you, but doesn't want you to be with someone else.  Pretty simple, it seems like to me.

septmom11

He wants to do his thing but still have control over you.  He will be with other girls but will mindf*ck you so you dont date another guy

llilyq22

I'm sorry you have to deal with that. It seems that he is playing mind games with you to get some sort of control. In my opinion, I think you should make sure that he is involved to support his child, but he needs to truly show that he is a real man to be with you. Don't wait for him to come around. Live your life, be happy, and know that you are blessed. 

 

I'm going through something similar.  I've chosen not to have him in my life at all beyond our child. He is a good man just not for me. I will make sure he is responsible though.

 My thoughts are with you.

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PrettyInPearls23

He's Just Not That Into You.

Ever read the book or seen the movie? You should.

Annplus1

You have a lot going on right now, right? Baby about to be born, figuring out a nursery, money, learning how to be a mom, and he has helped you how? Oh yeah,stressing you out, accusing you of cheating (baby might not be his, etc) and basiclly telling you to "earn" him back.

And look! It's working. You are now considering him again. After a simple, disrespectful text message. He knows your number. He could have called. I assume he knows where you live. Wouldn't be hard to stop by. Nope, he texted you, then ended it when he wanted to. It's about HIM. HE misses you. HE has needs now. You and the baby weren't what he asked about. Just told you about him.

You deserve better. More importantly, your child doesn't deserve this. Make all your decisions right now based on how it affects your child.

ETyorkin

septmom11:

He wants to do his thing but still have control over you.  He will be with other girls but will mindf*ck you so you dont date another guy

 

This exactly. EXACTLY. 

keychain01

Annplus1:

You have a lot going on right now, right? Baby about to be born, figuring out a nursery, money, learning how to be a mom, and he has helped you how? Oh yeah,stressing you out, accusing you of cheating (baby might not be his, etc) and basiclly telling you to "earn" him back.

And look! It's working. You are now considering him again. After a simple, disrespectful text message. He knows your number. He could have called. I assume he knows where you live. Wouldn't be hard to stop by. Nope, he texted you, then ended it when he wanted to. It's about HIM. HE misses you. HE has needs now. You and the baby weren't what he asked about. Just told you about him.

You deserve better. More importantly, your child doesn't deserve this. Make all your decisions right now based on how it affects your child.

 

WORD!!!!

proud single mommy

Double WORD!! lol. Does he go by Joel... ugh. sounds exactly like my x..

monpetitechouchou01

Hi LilyQ..... how are you going about making sure he is responsible? Since I'm dealing with the sadness of our breakup I asked him not to contact me at all. I know I'm not doing a good job at dealing with this but I just want to be in my apartment bymyself and the thought of speaking with him makes me nauseous. However, as a mature soon to be mom I know that this isn't something that can last for long. Right now, I just need my space to deal with the breakup. However, he is going to be a father and its not fair to the baby for me to do this for too long. My mom said to make sure he is aware of the upcoming appointments and don't give him the option to go or not. That I should plan it around both of our schedules. My first appointment is coming up but it will not include my first U/S.. so I'd prefer to go alone to that. I do feel he has the right to hear the heart beat for the first time with me. How are you handling these things? 

 

llilyq22:

I'm sorry you have to deal with that. It seems that he is playing mind games with you to get some sort of control. In my opinion, I think you should make sure that he is involved to support his child, but he needs to truly show that he is a real man to be with you. Don't wait for him to come around. Live your life, be happy, and know that you are blessed. 

 

I'm going through something similar.  I've chosen not to have him in my life at all beyond our child. He is a good man just not for me. I will make sure he is responsible though.

 My thoughts are with you.