Woman-Centered c-section technique

ACC0512

I posted this on my month board, but I thought I'd share it too.I've had 2 c-sections and the worst part for me has been how totally disconnected I've felt during the actually procedure and how there hasn't seemed to be any urgency on the hospital staffs part to allow bonding. {at the hospital I had Sophia, they don't even allow the baby to stay in your room overnight.}Anyways, my friend is studying to be a midwife, and she knows how much I absolutely hate the experience I've had {more than the c-section}.  She sent me this video last night, this is a hospital in the UK that fosters a women-centered technique that fosters immediate bonding.  Now I am on the hunt for a hospital that will at least allow parts of this technique.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m5RIcaK98YgThey do show part of the c-section.  So if you have children that you don't want to see it, or are easily grossed out just keep that in mind.  It's only a handful of sections and you'll know by their discussion that it's coming. 

clarks415

Thanks for this video! I love it! It'd be so nice to have the c-section experience presented in this video!

skio

Wow, that's great. Thank you for posting this.

I especially like how two of the doctors were saying that it's so important that a c/s birth is special to the parents in the same way that a vaginal birth would be, because while they may deliver  a bunch of babies in one day and not remember the differences, the parents are going to remember every little thing about THEIR experience forever. It's so true.

My c/s was pretty good, but if I do end up with a c/s again, I plan to ask for a couple things to be different. I want to have the baby brought to me, preferably right onto my chest, right away. When DD came out and I heard her cry, DH left my side to take pictures and I was alone there on the table crying my eyes out, wanting to see and touch my daughter. They did bring her to me, but not until she was all cleaned off, weighed, and wrapped. And then it was only for a quick kiss before she and DH went to recovery. That's the other thing I want changed - I don't want them leaving me. I want my husband and my baby by my side while I get stitched up, because those were some of the longest, loneliest minutes of my life.

I hope my hospital will be willing to meet these requests, and I really hope the methods in the video catch on for the sake of all c/s mommas!

pitterpatter129

This was a great video!  Makes me want to move to the UK during my next pregnancy!   Maybe I could talk my hospital into something similar next time.  I know I was horrified they had my husband take the baby and leave the room when he could have easily stayed next to me the entire time.  All he did was hang out in the recovery room with the baby.  There was no reasoning behind it.

LordValuemart

GhostMonkey:

pitterpatter129:

This was a great video!  Makes me want to move to the UK during my next pregnancy!   Maybe I could talk my hospital into something similar next time.  I know I was horrified they had my husband take the baby and leave the room when he could have easily stayed next to me the entire time.  All he did was hang out in the recovery room with the baby.  There was no reasoning behind it.

This is standard for all hospitals where I live. Just a couple states north. No need to go that far.

It took me a while to figure out why some women had the issues they did with their c-sections until I came on The Bump. Some hospitals need a serious kick in the balls for the way they handle things. There is no reason this isn't the standard of care offered to every woman in a non-emergency case.

 

True enough, I've heard some pretty crappy stories of c-sections that make me want to punch more than a few doctors in the face. Unfortunately Ronan had to be taken away for monitoring because I had GD and they were worried that he might have issues with blood sugar (which he did for about 2 hours) that they would want to get under control before I went all baby hog on them. My fiance was allowed to stay with me the entire time and the only time I was actually alone was when I went into the little recovery room off the surgical suite for about an hour. I kind of wish I could have seen Ronan coming out, too, my fiance peeked and said it was the coolest (and possibly grossest) thing he'd seen in his entire life.

manda26

I started to cry! I wish I had something like that with the delivery of my son

ejagk

LordValuemart:

GhostMonkey:

pitterpatter129:

This was a great video!  Makes me want to move to the UK during my next pregnancy!   Maybe I could talk my hospital into something similar next time.  I know I was horrified they had my husband take the baby and leave the room when he could have easily stayed next to me the entire time.  All he did was hang out in the recovery room with the baby.  There was no reasoning behind it.

This is standard for all hospitals where I live. Just a couple states north. No need to go that far.

It took me a while to figure out why some women had the issues they did with their c-sections until I came on The Bump. Some hospitals need a serious kick in the balls for the way they handle things. There is no reason this isn't the standard of care offered to every woman in a non-emergency case.

 

True enough, I've heard some pretty crappy stories of c-sections that make me want to punch more than a few doctors in the face. Unfortunately Ronan had to be taken away for monitoring because I had GD and they were worried that he might have issues with blood sugar (which he did for about 2 hours) that they would want to get under control before I went all baby hog on them. My fiance was allowed to stay with me the entire time and the only time I was actually alone was when I went into the little recovery room off the surgical suite for about an hour. I kind of wish I could have seen Ronan coming out, too, my fiance peeked and said it was the coolest (and possibly grossest) thing he'd seen in his entire life.

I had GD, but LO was allowed to stay with me- she was never taken away for monitoring. Any tests they needed to do for LO were done in our room. I realize now how lucky we were for this to occur.

iris427

GhostMonkey:

pitterpatter129:

This was a great video!  Makes me want to move to the UK during my next pregnancy!   Maybe I could talk my hospital into something similar next time.  I know I was horrified they had my husband take the baby and leave the room when he could have easily stayed next to me the entire time.  All he did was hang out in the recovery room with the baby.  There was no reasoning behind it.

This is standard for all hospitals where I live. Just a couple states north. No need to go that far.

It took me a while to figure out why some women had the issues they did with their c-sections until I came on The Bump. Some hospitals need a serious kick in the balls for the way they handle things. There is no reason this isn't the standard of care offered to every woman in a non-emergency case.

 

Agreed 100%.   There is no reason to routinely separate healthy mothers and babies simply because the birth was by c/s.

lilylow

My c/s was very similar to this.  My doctor even asked me how high I would like the curtain.  The only time LO was away from me or The Mister was for about ten minutes every night for her daily weight and blood check in the nursery.  They came in at 11 PM every night and she was back before 11:15 PM.  We were invited to go with her.

We were only apart for about an hour the day of her delivery while I was being suctioned and put back together.  The Mister was with her the entire time.  I napped during that time while being put back together and in recovery. 

LordValuemart

ejagk:

LordValuemart:

GhostMonkey:

pitterpatter129:

This was a great video!  Makes me want to move to the UK during my next pregnancy!   Maybe I could talk my hospital into something similar next time.  I know I was horrified they had my husband take the baby and leave the room when he could have easily stayed next to me the entire time.  All he did was hang out in the recovery room with the baby.  There was no reasoning behind it.

This is standard for all hospitals where I live. Just a couple states north. No need to go that far.

It took me a while to figure out why some women had the issues they did with their c-sections until I came on The Bump. Some hospitals need a serious kick in the balls for the way they handle things. There is no reason this isn't the standard of care offered to every woman in a non-emergency case.

 

True enough, I've heard some pretty crappy stories of c-sections that make me want to punch more than a few doctors in the face. Unfortunately Ronan had to be taken away for monitoring because I had GD and they were worried that he might have issues with blood sugar (which he did for about 2 hours) that they would want to get under control before I went all baby hog on them. My fiance was allowed to stay with me the entire time and the only time I was actually alone was when I went into the little recovery room off the surgical suite for about an hour. I kind of wish I could have seen Ronan coming out, too, my fiance peeked and said it was the coolest (and possibly grossest) thing he'd seen in his entire life.

I had GD, but LO was allowed to stay with me- she was never taken away for monitoring. Any tests they needed to do for LO were done in our room. I realize now how lucky we were for this to occur.

I'm sort of glad they started the monitoring as early as they did, he had a lot of trouble getting his blood sugar up the first couple hours and I'm glad that they were on that as soon as possible to get it under control. I wish things could have been different, but oh well. Before I get pregnant again I'm going to try and get my weight under control so I'm less at risk for GD, but with diabetes running in my family, it seriously wouldn't surprise or concern me if I was a size 2 and had GD.

Smores730

After watching that, I'm extremely irritated that this could have been my experience and wasn't. I agree that being left by my husband and baby was the worst feeling ever. I was scared out of my mind during the procedure, hated every minute of it, then got left. The salt in the wounds was finding out that when the baby and DH left, they allowed for my first child to meet the baby and everyone was outside the nursery to watch. I felt like the last person to meet my own baby that *I* carried for 9 months! I'm still obviously very mad.

JG362009

I love that they realize that it's an everyday occurence for them but a once in a lifetime experience for the parents.  What bothered me the most about L & D/c-section is that no one seemed to get that -- it was just another day for them and they didn't consider anything else.  I would have loved to have an experience like that.  Thanks for posting. 

stephaniebuzzella

I actually contacted the woman in the video and she sent me a DVD of the procedure to take with me to my drs office. She IMMEDIATELY basically said no and I'm switching hospitals and will now have as much contact and involvement as possible thanks to my GREAT new doctor who is so very supportive of bonding. I am so happy! Thanks for posting this. I hope all women who have to have c sections see it!!!