Kind of terrified of VBAC

mrsw23

I am a candidate for VBAC if I want to do it. I think as soon as I found out I was pregnant I had my mind made up that I was going to have another c/s just because that's what I know, but now I keep going back and forth.

I have never been in labor, my c-section was an emergency after my daughter stopped moving at 38 weeks.

I guess what I am really afraid of is losing my vagina! I don't want it to change or get mangled, I know I'm not the only one who feels that way. Anyway, at my last check up my doctor said that I cannot have pitocin because it would cause complications. So... because I haven't actually delivered before, my body sees this as my first child and first babies often go past their due date. So, if I am over due... c-section. If I labor and don't progress... c-section. I really don't know how to make this decision. It would be so simple to schedule the delivery and be done with it, since chances are greater that I will have a c-section anyway. But, there is a part of me that feels I need to try to deliver naturally. As a woman, I want that experience. How do you decide?!!!

YaraC

For me, the decision to try to avoid another c-section was easy because there were so many things I hated about having a c-section.

Longer recovery

Longer time in hospital

It too five days for my milk to come in which didn't do breastfeeding any favors.

And the main one was having my baby taken away from me so soon after she was born (perfectly healthy) while I went to the recovery room. 

I really don't want to have to try to recover from a c-section while caring for a toddler and a newborn. 

 

Good luck with your decision. 

sassafras007

I am a little scared too but it cannot be worse that a 48 hour induction, emergency c-section, being stuck in bed for 4 days prior on mag, and NICU time!

manbearpig31610

It's a personal decision. You just have to weigh the pros and cons and see whats going to work best for you. Then, hope that your body and your LO cooperate and that you made the right decision. FWIW, your vag won't be mangled forever. I'm not planning to look down there for a couple weeks but I didn't look at my c/s incision until I had to (to remove the steri strips). I'm a big baby about that stuff.

mrsw23

I think it would be easier to decide if I'd had the c-section experience I've read about a lot of other moms having. I didn't have any problems, except for a long recovery. DD wasn't taken anywhere after surgery. I think she only left me once while we were at the hospital. My milk came in 3 days after birth. My husband was a great help and did pretty much everything for the first two weeks and said he will support me no matter what I decide this time around. Just don't know what to do.

SuzJune04

I'm in the same boat as you.  I had DS via c-section since he was breech.  He was also huge at 39wks (9lbs-6oz and 22in long).  So I just assumed that this baby would also be big and breech.  A couple of weeks ago LO went through a growth spurt so again I thought we'd have a big LO.

I just got back from my weight check u/s and they said the LO is 7lb-4oz currently (not as big as I expected).  I have a c-section scheduled for Nov 2nd (39wks) but now I'm wondering if I should attempt a VBAC.  I'm going to have a hard time cancelling my c/s date if the LO doesn't come before the 2nd. 

Almost all the babies in our family are huge, so I'm just still surprised that this one might be a normal size.  I feel like my OB appt this week is going to be decision time.  I just want this baby to come whatever way is healthiest for us both.

delg23

mrsw23:

I think it would be easier to decide if I'd had the c-section experience I've read about a lot of other moms having. I didn't have any problems, except for a long recovery. DD wasn't taken anywhere after surgery. I think she only left me once while we were at the hospital. My milk came in 3 days after birth. My husband was a great help and did pretty much everything for the first two weeks and said he will support me no matter what I decide this time around. Just don't know what to do.

I am so in the same boat as you. Everything w/ #1 c/s was fine. No bonding or breastfeeding issues. I have 4 weeks to decide. ugh. 

jnealet

mrsw23:

I think it would be easier to decide if I'd had the c-section experience I've read about a lot of other moms having. I didn't have any problems, except for a long recovery. DD wasn't taken anywhere after surgery. I think she only left me once while we were at the hospital. My milk came in 3 days after birth. My husband was a great help and did pretty much everything for the first two weeks and said he will support me no matter what I decide this time around. Just don't know what to do.

 I'm in the same boat too - I had a scheduled c/s because DD was breech.  It did take my milk a little while to come in but it did and nursing was fine.  Recovery wasn't bad and DH helped a lot.  This time, MIL will be at our house too, so we'll have another set of helping hands.

I'm not so worried about my vagina but I am worried about not progressing and having a c/s anyways.  I do not want to recover from labor and a c/s. 

chankins14

YaraC:

For me, the decision to try to avoid another c-section was easy because there were so many things I hated about having a c-section.

Longer recovery

Longer time in hospital

It too five days for my milk to come in which didn't do breastfeeding any favors.

And the main one was having my baby taken away from me so soon after she was born (perfectly healthy) while I went to the recovery room. 

I really don't want to have to try to recover from a c-section while caring for a toddler and a newborn. 

 

Good luck with your decision. 

These are all the reasons I decided to try to VBAC, too.  Pretty much to the tee except it took a full 7 days for my milk to come in.  Plus, I can't imagine bringing home a new baby & telling my 2 year old DS that I can't pick him up.

Good luck with your decision.  It is a personal one & a tough one to make.

Corey-chick

I am also in the same boat. I had a CS after laboring for 30 something hours. I had no problems breastfeeding, and had a fairly quick recovery. My biggest issue it just that I don't want to be in the hospital for 4-5 days again. I just wanted to be home and sleep in my own bed. I also have the jitters about a vaginal birth, because hey, at least I know what to expect with a CS- and it left things down there intact. My biggest fear is going for the vbac, laboring for flipping ever and ending up with a CS anyways. Thankfully, DH will support me no matter what I decide, and I still have awhile to figure it out, but I am a little scared!

Battlebaby09

I am in mostly the same boat... My vagina will bounce back..(I hope) But the recovery was awful last time after induction, full dialation, and then an emergency c-section.