Push Gift

Bexxy10

So I'm watching Rachel Zoe and her husband got her a 10 carat diamon ring as a push gift.  I worked in DC when I gave birth to my DD and people constantly asked me what my husband was doing for a push gift.  I felt it was kind of pointless, a happy healthy baby was enough for me.  I'm not judging if you did or didn't, but did your husband get you a push gift?  If so what did he get you?

snowybride08

Yikes.  No way.  Even if I'd wanted something like that, which I didn't, I think my husband would have totally given me the side-eye if I'd said anything.

Sweet Sadie Mae

umm no. we are not into gift giving/receiving. If we want or need something we buy it. My happy and healthy baby was the best gift anyone could have given us (Thanks God!) and she is all I need!

honkytonk_kid

Like any special occasion, some people like to give/receive gifts more than others. I don't really understand the big deal that TB makes of it. H didn't give me a push present- I would have appreciated something with P's birthstone in it had H thought of it, but I definitely wouldn't ASK for a gift.

Jenniferk08

H knew I wanted a charm for my pandora bracelet once I had Mj.  H bought me a little baby stroller charm which he gave to me a few days after we got home from the hospital.

RayRay007

DH and I joked about it, but in the end he didn't get me anything. I would probably be mad at him for spending our money on something silly.

ETA: We don't really exchange gifts for anything, though.

ETA: Rachel Zoe? I didn't know she had a hubby or a baby. Isn't she that skinny girl with the wrinkly face?

Bexxy10

RayRay007:

DH and I joked about it, but in the end he didn't get me anything. I would probably be mad at him for spending our money on something silly.

ETA: We don't really exchange gifts for anything, though.

ETA: Rachel Zoe? I didn't know she had a hubby or a baby. Isn't she that skinny girl with the wrinkly face?

Ha yeah she's been married for forever and they had a baby boy over the summer.  I just kind of thought, man I can't even imagine the price tag on a 10 carat Neil Lane diamond ring.  Clearly I got into the wrong business.

LynsiBHM

My push present was my hubby going to cvs to get me big pads and witch hazel wipes.  LOL (he's not the tampon-buying type of guy)

He did have flowers delivered on the day we came home from the hospital, if that counts.

hmontty

My more materialistic friends got one (the ones with like 20 Coach bags in their closets). I didn't. I was too overjoyed with my baby even to think about it.

*BlackSheep*

Yep he did when we got home. After I pushed out another huge clot he went to the store & got me some ibprofin and a DQ blizzard! Now that is what I call love.

LadyXaverian

*BlackSheep*:

Yep he did when we got home. After I pushed out another huge clot he went to the store & got me some ibprofin and a DQ blizzard! Now that is what I call love.

We joked about a "push present" (He brought it up first.. not sure where he heard of it.) He didn't get me anything. I was fine with that. Had he got me something, I would have been fine with that, too lol.

skio

I didn't ask for anything; I think push presents are lame, too. But my husband did give me a silver 'bean' necklace when I got home form the hospital, because we called DD "the bean" while I was pregnant. I had a tough pregnancy and it was his way of showing his appreciation and excitement, and I thought it was very sweet.

Mrs.EmmaLouise

Diamond stud earrings. 

He asked if I wanted anything, and I said no.  He asked if I wanted anything for valentines day (my EDD), and I said no.  He said that he would like to get me something that combines both, and I said a candy bar would do fine.  Now I joke he set the bar HIGH for the potential next kids  

They are lovely, and they are not something I would have bought myself (I don't like to spend money on myself).  But I do love them for what the represent. 

Sharon21

He let me squeeze the crap out of his hand. Oh, and he gave me back rubs those are rare presents around here. 

honkytonk_kid

skio:

I didn't ask for anything; I think push presents are lame, too. But my husband did give me a silver 'bean' necklace when I got home form the hospital, because we called DD "the bean" while I was pregnant. I had a tough pregnancy and it was his way of showing his appreciation and excitement, and I thought it was very sweet.

Ok, am I confused? This is pretty much the definition of a "push present" IMO. How is a push present lame, but what he did very sweet? He gave you a push present. I'm not trying to be rude, I'm honestly confused. Is it just the idea of demanding a present for having a baby that people are so against?

desdemona39

All I wanted was sushi. From that little place I love that is sooo out of the way. He brought it to me in the hospital. I love my husband.

j_luvs_r

No jewelry, just an awesomely supportive partner, some much needed sleep, and a precious 6lb 5oz bundle of our combined genetics.  Oh, I think he got me some flowers a week or so after we came home because I "was rocking the mommy thing".

 I agree with the PP who said the issue most definitely is the "expectation" of the present that makes it such a hot (and completely annoying) topic on TB.  

ITGurl0626

Sweet Sadie Mae:

umm no. we are not into gift giving/receiving. If we want or need something we buy it. My happy and healthy baby was the best gift anyone could have given us (Thanks God!) and she is all I need!

This 100%...

lilylow

What would he have gotten her if she had a c-section?

JaneBeam

*BlackSheep*:

 he went to the store & got me some ibprofin and a DQ blizzard! Now that is what I call love.

I got an m&m mc flurry! 

LadyXaverian

honkytonk_kid:

skio:

I didn't ask for anything; I think push presents are lame, too. But my husband did give me a silver 'bean' necklace when I got home form the hospital, because we called DD "the bean" while I was pregnant. I had a tough pregnancy and it was his way of showing his appreciation and excitement, and I thought it was very sweet.

Ok, am I confused? This is pretty much the definition of a "push present" IMO. How is a push present lame, but what he did very sweet? He gave you a push present. I'm not trying to be rude, I'm honestly confused. Is it just the idea of demanding a present for having a baby that people are so against?

needanustart

I was really against this too and thought it was completely ridiculous. I don't like spending money on things we don't need right now. I even said how lame it was that this woman that we both know was expecting diamond earrings as a push present. We have never exchanged Valentine's gifts and he has gotten me jewelry twice in our 12 years together. I'm the girl that got mad at him for buying me flowers from our joint account (they just die!). That being said, he surprised me in the hospital on Valentine's day (G was born on the 10th and we were discharged on the 14th) with an insanely beautiful and expensive ruby and diamond necklace. I nearly killed him, but it was so pretty and he was so proud of himself for knowing what a push present was (I certainly didn't tell him) that I love, love, love having it now. Obviously G was always enough, but I had forgotten how nice it is to receive an unexpected fancy present! I guess it was the fact that we normally don't do this that made it feel all the more special.  
So, I hope I fall into the "it wasn't lame because I wasn't expecting or demanding it" category! Expecting a gift of any sort, for anything, is always lame in by book!

Nechie122

We're Upper Eastsiders, so when I was pregnant, I used to joke with DH that I was "supposed" to get a diamond tennis bracelet for bringing our child into the world.

I totally forgot about it when she was born.

But that's what I got for Mother's Day three weeks later.

Yes, the term is vulgar and conjures up the image of a woman who "demands" a fancy bauble in exchange for going through pregnancy and delivery (you know, gaining weight, getting stretch marks, having to part with her size 26 True Religion jeans).  But am I touched that my DH remembered and wanted my first Mother's Day to be special?  You bet!  

jbdec28

I'll admit it...I wanted a push gift and I asked for one.  I told MH I wanted something thoughtful that he thinks I would like.  I asked him to not spend a lot of money and to find something that reminds him of our family.

I secretly wanted one of those Pandora bracelets with a pretty charm.  For weeks he couldn't "think" of anything.  He's not really the romantic type...Finally, he told me to choose what I wanted.  I felt guilty asking for the bracelet because it wasn't really a "need".  We ended up getting a new laptop.  Our computer was SEVEN years old and barely worked.  We splurged and bought a Mac.  

It's not exactly a common push gift but it was something we needed but I still want a bracelet.  Guess I'll just buy it myself  

KariD77

Wow, I'm not sure where I've been (under a rock perhaps??) but I have never even heard of a "push gift"

 I guess that means I obviously did not get one... Other then my perfect little baby girl that is!

MySallyGirl

I didn't expect a push present but my husband got me a ring of DS birthstone with a little note that said something like, "Thanks for pushing me out, Mama."  It was cute and he gave it to me a couple weeks after the birth.  I got him a daddy tshirt that I gave him to wear while we were in the hospital as well that said, "I make good babies."  lol

skio

honkytonk_kid:

skio:

I didn't ask for anything; I think push presents are lame, too. But my husband did give me a silver 'bean' necklace when I got home form the hospital, because we called DD "the bean" while I was pregnant. I had a tough pregnancy and it was his way of showing his appreciation and excitement, and I thought it was very sweet.

Ok, am I confused? This is pretty much the definition of a "push present" IMO. How is a push present lame, but what he did very sweet? He gave you a push present. I'm not trying to be rude, I'm honestly confused. Is it just the idea of demanding a present for having a baby that people are so against?

Yeah, it's the whole "I'm pushing your baby out so you should give me a gift for doing it" part that's lame. I just hate the phrase "push present." If a husband chooses to get his wife a gift for going through labor, fine. If said wife asks for a gift because what she went through is sooooo hard, lame. 

GHBEA

Another for my baby was my gift.

oreocookie11

DH did surprise me with a heart necklace that has my birthstone, DS birthstone(which is also DH).  i think it was very sweet, but it was not necessary at all, I was more than happy with our healthy 7lb 12oz baby boy.  I think it is ridiculous to TELL your husband or SO that a gift in exchange for giving birth to your child is expected.

lclaws13

I had told DH that I wanted to get a Kindle after the baby was born, so that I'd be able to read when I was up at night nursing and wouldn't have to turn on a light.  He surprised me with an IPad, so that I could watch movies and surf the net too.

 

johannaknip

Add me to the baby=gift camp. I did get three rings, one with each of our birthstones. It was more of a, hey I like this thing. I wanted something with her birthstone at some point, we both though the rings were neat, so I bought them.

laurakaz13

I had never, ever in my life heard of this until I came to the Bump.  And I grew up in a ritzy town in CT where people can be a tad materialistic. 

HUrquiza

My hubby got me sushi and a huge Italian hoagie with onions and hot peppers. Though, that wasn't a "push present" that was a "HOLY CRAP, I've heard her complain about not having these for 9 months now, so I better get her them before my head explodes" present. lol.