Question on day being missed due to LO being sick

UnderAtree

Last week DS was sick and I told STBXH that he was sick and I didn't want him taking him out into the cold and rain. I even offered for him to stay the day at my house so he didn't miss his time. Well he got upset, started a fight then stormed out the door. On Friday I got a call from my lawyer, apparently he went to his lawyer and told him that I am not letting him take him on his days and that I never answer his phone calls.

Other then one important doctors appointment this is the only other time he has missed a day. 

So today he told me that his lawyer said that since I made him miss a day I have to make it up to him. Now is this true? It says no where in a court order that I have to make up days if Ryan is sick or he I have to take him to the ER or an emergency appointment. 

BostonGayGal

It sounds fair and that is generally what a judge is looking for. If you ask that he be respectful and not take him on a day when the CO says he can take him, you should be equally considerate. 

 

DarthNBJenni

BostonGayGal:

It sounds fair and that is generally what a judge is looking for. If you ask that he be respectful and not take him on a day when the CO says he can take him, you should be equally considerate. 

 

Agreed. My court order states if we have to cancel a visit (if someone is on vacation, working, sick, etc), that we try our best to reschedule it, within reason.  

katie_cj

Jake only misses his visitation with his father if he's very sick (ie high fever, vomit or diarrhea) and that's because there's 2-3 hours of driving involved for him. 

If he only has a cold, or low fever, he goes anyways.

That being said, we do our best to reschedule or make up the lost time.

Raspberry807

I don't know your story, but if he's a good dad then of course I would offer another day to make up for it.

But I may be biased... I WISH my ex wanted to spend time with our kids, but he's just not interested.

TurtleGirl3-4

If my YDS is sick and due to go to Dads I will usually call him and let him know and allow him to decide whether he wants him to come over or not rather than making the choice for him. His Dad is just as capable of caring for him as I am. He is always able to make up the time he missed as should your ex. I always try to look at it as YDS's time with his Dad instead of the other way around. It helps me to remember it's not about the ex ... it's about my son and he has a right to time with both of us.