Custody Exchanges with XH

cldnt*b*happier

So, I know I need to check with my atty about this, but he doesn't answer the phone on Sundays. I was wondering if any of you have experience with this. In our divorce papers, it says that XH can pick DD up at 6pm Friday and she has to be back by 6pm Sunday.. It doesn't give a location though. For a while we were meeting closer to my house one day, closer to his the other. There's not really a "haf way point." Well xh, has decided that we will meet ALWAYS  at the point closer to his house. I usually fall for it (or.. like this weekend meet him even CLOSER) because he says he will have child support for me on Sunday.. Well, this is the second time in a row he has said that, and not had the child support. He is 3 months behind on child support now! I am about to go to DHR about that. But anyway, question is, for future reference, if it is not dictated in the papers, do I have to meet him anywhere or can I make him come to my house and pick her up and bring her back? We have argued about this today. He says since the papers say he can pick up at 6pm Friday and drop off at 6 PM sunday and I met him to pick her up, he is going to have her back at the same location. I've had all I can stand! Advice?

CPA04

Does your CO say that he provides transportation for his visitation or does it require you to provide some of the transportation?  The way I read what you wrote, it says that he comes to DD's house at 6pm Friday and he returns her to her home at 6pm Sunday.  I'd make him drive all the way to your house by 6pm (unless you aren't comfortable with him coming to your residence for one reason or another).  If he doesn't do this, then he's in contempt, not you.

 

PrincessFiona9

I agree with PP. If it just says pick up at 6PM and drop off at 6PM I would read that as being picking LO up at her house and dropping her off at her house (your house.)

katie_cj

How far away does he live?

I do almost all the driving, but I drive almost two hours. In a couple years, we'll be meeting half way.

 

Snowypumpkinqueen

I agree with PP, does it require you to provide some of the transportation? If it does I wouldn't go with that plan. Could you ask him to meet in the middle of your house's? I would tell him that you feel like you're getting tricked into going closer to his house. Best of luck.

ashliemareegarcia

my ex and I have tried every option possible, what has worked best is the one way pick up. If it is his turn to have him, it is his responsibility to pick him up. Same works the other way around, therefore there is equal drive time and no complaints can be made. As for the time, it is a requirement that you stay true to your c.o, this will help prevent any argument esp. In the future. If one party can't make it on time proper notice needs to be given. You can file with the police if it continues, therefore you have proof in court (if things get to that). Sucks that things have to be the way they are but a consistent schedule will be the best for your child.