I am LIVID!

Sweet face 82

I changed the schedule around for DS's dad so DS could attend a family party for his cousins.  His dad brings him back tonight at the agreed time, but REMOVES HIS JACKET (one he bought for him), hands me the jacket I sent with him, and then hands me DS...at night...out. in. the. cold.  I already e-mailed my lawyer, but I feel so helpless.  He told me that if I had let him have LO overnight, then he wouldn't be out in the cold.  I am documenting, but how do I protect my LO?  I feel helpless.  He tries to get to me by being cruel DS.  But, more time with his dad is in DS's best interest, according to him.

katie_cj

I need more details.

Sure, it's petty to the extreme, but how long was he actually out in the cold for? 

I guess all I'm saying is that there's going to be a million issues that will make you mad, you just have to learn to let the small ones slide or else it's going to consume you and cost a fortune at the lawyers. 

CPA04

Yeah, I think you're making a mountain out of a molehill on this one.  The law won't be able to do anything in this situation.

I understand the frustration, heck, XH just posted a pic of DS "watching the big game" 45 minutes ago on FB and DS's bedtime was 2 hours ago.  I print the information for my log, but I don't call my lawyer because there's nothing she can do.  It's him being a less than steller parent and making decisions not in LO's best interest.  Yes, it angers me to no end, but my hands are tied.

As for his dad making that comment about it being your fault LO was in the cold?  He's being manipulating - twisting things to play the blame game.  Don't buy into that.

 

Snowypumpkinqueen

I also need more details. I think that's a little snobby that he had ANOTHER jacket for him.

TurtleGirl3-4

Honestly, I would let this go. He's trying to get a rise out of you and it's working. Calling your atty is useless...what's he going to do? Chances are your son wasn't out in the cold that long. Next time bring a blanket to the door to wrap him in right away and act as if it's no big deal. The less it seems to bother you the better. Eventually, he will stop. Are you guys still new in the shared parenting world? Some things take time to get over.

I've found that rather than get upset by some things it's often easier to solve the problem myself. At the end of each winter season I buy about 4-6 different jackets in case one or two happen to not come back (from either dads or school).