2 u 2, and contemplating leaving

Smileygirl75

Hi Ladies,

I need to hear your viewpoint.  I have a 22 month old and a 5 month old (DD`s).  I recently found out that DH has cheated on me in the recent past. He says that it`s a sexual addiction and that he`ll start meetings/treatment etc

I`m seriously considering leaving, so that I can be a strong rolemodel for my daughters, as well as to stop this pain from re-occuring over and over.

Tell me I`m strong enough to do it.  I know it`s hard, but it feels impossible at this point.  DH tells me that we`ll fix it, he`ll never do it again, we`ll do counseling etc.  He`s seen his doctor for std checks, started individual counseling and seems honest in his statements.  I`m 36, I`m not a naive little girl, but that`s how I`m feeling right now.

Any thoughts

DarthNBJenni

You can do it! I had not even 3 month old twins when I filed. It was much easier doing everything on my own, than having to worry about dead weight holding me down.

CPA04

You ARE strong enough.  XH and I separated when I was pregnant and I've done it alone ever since.  Life is much easier without a cheating deadbeat man child to deal with.

PrincessFiona9

I know I only have 1, but I just wanted to say you can do it! If he's willing to do the whole counseling thing etc maybe he will continue to be a good father. That doesn't mean you have to stay in a relationship with him.

unm00red

I was previously married to someone with a sexual addiction. Even if your partner really has an addiction rather than simply being unfaithful, I would recommend ending things ASAP. Sexual addiction is frequently described as one of the hardest to recover from, behind only heroine/cocaine addiction.

If you're considering staying, I would encourage you to start reading the recovery literature behind this condition to educate yourself and do what you can not to fall into a pattern of codependency. It's really easy to do when you have a partner you can't trust.

Good luck to you.

Snowypumpkinqueen

Do it! Leaving my DF was the BEST decision I've ever made!