GOING CRAZY!!!

Megpie1800

I'm 37 weeks pregnant, so ready for bb to come out. I've had a pretty smoothish pregnancy so far, the last week it's gotten a lot worse. Extremely uncomfortable, feeling sick and tired all the time. Now to make it worse I'm sitting at home alone and thinking waay to much. My boyfriend is at his buddies drinking beer, when we talked about it last night he said he's "getting it out of his system" before the baby comes and he'll be home all the time. Well I didn't get to get it out of my system, i've had to sit here large and uncomfortable all alone. He's been great throughout the pregnancy but now i'm worried and frustrated and scared he's not going to be here as much as I need him. Am I just being paranoid? Is my pregnancy now taking over my logical thinking brain? HEELPPP ME! SO FRUSTRATING

missdaisie04

Right now your hormones are going crazy so maybe you should just take a break and take a bubble bath, empty your head, relax and tomorrow get back to it. It might be the pregnancy making you overreact. If not unfortunately only you can know and you will only know when baby comes how things are. Explaining it is not the same as actually living it. Good luck sweety, now try to relax for you and baby!!

animerp

Would it help much if I said I'm 37 weeks and live alone. Hubby abandoned me at 18 weeks. I've had to do everything alone, putting the crib together, shopping, cleaning, etc. and I work a demanding job. My supervisor is super mean to me, I've just worked 7, 10 hour days and was on call too. I'm not getting much sleep either, not just because I'm on call but also having to deal with so many worries and not ever getting comfortable sleeping.

 Be positive, for your own sanity, that's what you have to do.

 

femifatale

Yea. Don't freak out, it's okay. My husband is the manager of a strip club here in Hollywood and he works every night 6-2am. Usually won't get home Til 3am. I'd much rather have my hubby at his friends drinking beer with all CLOTHED men, rather than FULLY nude girls. 

Xochitl17

I'm 37 weeks and I totally understand where you are coming from. I would suggest talking openly with your boyfriend. Not in a scolding manner, but in a loving and honest manner. For him, he may really need this time to himself. However, your feelings are valid too. Talk to him, and then take some time for yourself to go be with a friend, get a massage, mani/pedi, haircut AND a romantic date with your boyfriend. I'm gonna do the same with my husband...and hopefully I'll chill out too.  

 

Angeanex

omg same here megpie. my bf is goin out every night also, saying it will be his last weeks (im 37 weeks also) out b4 baby gets here, an im home w my swollen feet up all day an night.

Veron52376

I believe you should be concern if he is making it a common activity to go out drinking with buddies. What exactly is he "getting out of his system?" The baby isn't here and the transition into parenthood requires patience, communication and compromise between partners. There may be some emotional sensitivity based on hormones but if stress and tension is superseding support and consideration in your relationship I would question what the real underlying issue(s) can be. 

 

MamaMolly88

when he goes out, why can't you have a friend over, i mean his wording is awful, if he needs to do it so bad he ...he'll still need it once the baby is there, the thing about pregnancy is doing things together... HOWEVER ... you can't be together all the time, he may have needed to get some air, and it's good for you to do the same! ... believe me i know it's not easy, but you are right about sitting home alone, it does cause you to think too much,  ...IT'S AWFUL!  ... lol, but if you can catch up with a girlfriend or have a girls night  (in or out) you'll better understand where he's coming from... AND  more importantly you will stay sane!   best of luck to you and yours!!!!!!

ravensnightshift

It's going to be okay. I'm right there with you and all of a sudden I have had this horrible surge in horomones in an otherwise calm pregnancy. I find myself falling to pieces over the stupidest things - like the vaccuum cleaner not working properly.

While I see your BF's logic, he's forgetting an EXTREMELY IMPORTANT point - you are full term and could potentially go into labor any time. While he doesn't necessarily need to be home all the time, he needs to be sober enough to get to you and be your partner in a time when you need him to be at his sharpest.

He'll soon find out after birth that life doesn't get this massive face lift after a baby and is generally anticlimactic because we all expect this drastic change in our worlds. He'll still have time, as will you (and won't it be great! I don't know about you but I'm ready to get violent to have a stupid beer and I don't even drink for the most part). 

When you feel ready physically, take some time off from the boyfriend and the baby that has been inhabiting your body for almost a year and enjoy having your body all to yourself for a night. Drink a little too much, stay out a little too late, go out with the girls and flirt shamelessly, and remember that regardless of now being a mother, you are still a woman and still have a right to feel and be beautiful, happy in your own skin, and the right to have time to yourself (which is way more important than anyone is willing to put emphasis on, especially to a new mom).

Remember, this will all be over very soon and you'll start to get back to who you once were right away, as will life. Don't fret too much, just remind your boyfriend that you need to rely on him to be with you and sober when your baby arrives and that your safety and the baby's safety is far more important than another night out with his friends.

 

misfits37

some days i just go crazy with all the extra thoughts. give yourself a chant to remind you to keep things in perspective and that no one is perfect. i have to remember to take time to thank my other half for putting up with at my crazy moments and still trying and being around and being apart of this process.

kateronium

Sadly I'm in the same boat as you here .. my husbands having the tine of his life and I can barely haul my butt of the couch to hit the john... plus I'm on leave now so extra money spending is out.. try not to go too crazy... my heart and heartburn are out to you though