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June 2011 Moms
FFFC!
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Re: FFFC!
I wouldn't say "flamed" but I recall some judgy comments re: SIDS risks (which I still see the SIDS risk as arguable).
Me too. I am so bored by politics. I feel like I need to be educated to make a real decision, and I have no interest in learning enough about politics enough to be educated.
I rarely FFFC... I honestly usually can't think of anything when the time comes around, flame-worthy or not,... but today, I think I finally have a couple!
I let Creedyn make his own breakfast 3-4 times a week. (As long as it doesn't involve the stove/oven, obviously). He just turned 3 last month. (There *is* a story behind this of course.) He wants to exert his independence a little, so I'm going to let him! (As long as it's cereal or waffles, anyway. He knows better than to touch the micorwave or oven.)
I also let Mila sleep with a blanket and two stuffies, one of which plays lullabies for bedtime. I did the same with Creedyn when he was born/little, and they're both fine. Both of them are blanket babies, and love rubbing their blankets against their cheeks. (Creedyn still sleeps with his Blankie.)
I'm not old, and I'm not too young, but tonight, we are going over to a friends' house (whom are also military), and I'm playing Beer Pong like it's going out of style with a bunch of guys that my hubby works with, and their wives/girlfriends. I don't care how "college dorm/party girl" that sounds. I haven't played in quite awhile, and if I'm a little bit (or maybe even a lot) drunk by the time I've stopped playing, so be it. Hubby said he's DD'ing/on kiddo duty tonight until tomorrow morning, because I deserve a night of fun. I won't talk him out of it, either. I want to play! (I'm competitive!) Even without the whole pregnancy and bf'ing, I don't drink to excess often, so I'm just gonna go for it! =D
I had a couple more... but I've forgotten them. If they come back to me, I'll post again...
I lurk on the May & June 2012 boards and I want to give advice and/or yell at half of them. One girl is 11 weeks and she swears she feels flutters. All the other girls are saying how jealous they are that she can feel them (its her first child). I want to interject and tell them it's impossible!
Another FFC, I love being anonymous on here. I would never give my personal email address or be friends with anyone on FB (even though a lot of you seem really cool). In this world we live in, it's nice to be known only by my words.
In the vein of the popular bumpies and all that- my FFFC is that I almost left the board after my labor buddy posted my going into labor post. No one replied (or maybe 1 person) and I'm not going to lie, it really hurt my feelings. I am a pretty frequent poster, at least everyday and it made me feel like I was invisible and no one really cared if I was around or not. At the same time, with the "popular" bumpies when it was posted that they were in labor they got like 30+ replies.
I think that's what the thing is with awards like the post last night. If you are a lurker it wouldn't bother you, if you are nominated it wouldn't bother you but if you are a consistent frequent poster you already know you aren't a "popular" one because you don't get the 20 replies on every single post you do, but it's still hard not to get hurt when it's called out in such an obvious way. It's kind of like hey, I try really hard to be supportive of the other ladies, be helpful when I can and yet clearly no one notices/cares. Yes, it's silly because it's just a message board but that doesn't make hurt feelings any less valid.
Me too!
I agree. For me, it was my birth story. For those of us who gave birth at the end of the month/into July, it seemed like no one cared. Everyone else had moved on to talking about their babies. That really irked me at the time.
Okay I'm going to confess because it's safe here, today, right??? LOL
I secretly think all the Bumpies who says their LOs sleep 10+ hours are all lying or delusional.
HAHAHA I'm laughing at myself. Jealous much, right???? Liv was up 3 times last night! Oi!
Bottled water, our tap water tastes like a$$
No one else will ever know the strength of my LOVE for you. After all, you're the only one who knows what my heart sounds like from the inside
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I think people need to stay away from married people if they have a romantic interest in them even if there are problems- in fact, especially if there are problems. If you are meant to be with them you can wait until they sort their own s$%t out withOUT your involvement and are single.
We do the same thing. We use formula, so we microwave the water and then add the formula, shake it up really well and test the temperature. I don't see why it's a huge deal.
Ditto! I was reading that post and thought "wow, this really is a popularity contest."
Right there with you on the birth story thing! I am pretty sure I was the very last June mom to give birth (July 9th). I think my birth story had maybe 40 views and 2 replies.
If it makes you feel even a teensy bit better, DD woke up once last night at 4 a.m after over a month of STTN 10+hrs. I pulled her over and changed her and she passed right out while I was changing her diaper but since she was already there with me I made her eat. lol. I'm hoping it was an isolated thing though!
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Jealous!! That sounds so fun!
not sure if this is a confession or UO.
I am still wearing my maternity pants and Im really happy. I never want to wear my pre-preg ever again. I have always had a problem with weight, I cant gain weight if my life depended on it and before I was pregnant I would get looks and ppl thought I was anorexic. Sadly everytime I get on the scale and see I lost weight I get upset. (yes, I was one of those women when PG that liked getting on the scale)
No one else will ever know the strength of my LOVE for you. After all, you're the only one who knows what my heart sounds like from the inside
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I love how you said you "made her eat" like it was some sort of a punishment! lol Bet she loved it!
And I know we don't have the worse sleep issues around here, it would just be extra nice if she slept longer. And I just like to complain because I have fingers to type. hehe
oh I have one since this is FFFC.
I haven't really looked into sleep training but I sort of think of the really structured training as a waste and unnecessary stressor. Blame it on my go with the flow attitude on sleep but I think a baby will STTN when they are ready and that sleep training isnt really doing it but more a coincidence that they just so happened to need a little tweaking in schedule (not to be confused with strict planning) or they were just ready.
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Another confession:
I've had some really catty feelings this week (or maybe it was last, I can't remember, days run together).
Background (apologizing in advance if this gets too long):
My MOH and I had a falling out a year and a half ago. I thought she had gone off the deep end and those that know me know that I say what's on my mind. I don't have a filter. She was one of those people that has wanted hordes of kids all her life. That has been her life goal. Around the time I got married, other people around her were, and many people were having kids. She had neither of those things.
A year later, she met someone at her (catholic) church, a month later, he was living with her. Now mind you - about to backtrack - she had a laundry list a mile long of what she was looking for in a guy (it added up to impossible) and he was none of those things. He is a lot younger than her, was in school, not polished not making much money, etc. She wanted someone her age or older (she's mid-30s), made enough money to support her so she could be a SAHM, could not be blue collar, etc.
Anyway, they immediately decide they were going to marry (I wasn't his biggest fan, but hadn't been given the chance to get to know him yet - and never did get a chance). I was supposed to be in her wedding. Things started going downhill from there. I skip the details and jumped to the part where we had it out over email - I emailed her asking what the other girls were wearing because my dress I had intended to wear was too tight, I didn't have the money for another one (I had gone through a long period of unemployment then underemployment) and didnt' want to look like dog doodoo next to this big expensive dress she was wearing (they couldn't afford to have a reception, just a ceremony). She blew up at me, criticized several details of my wedding and then the cherry on top: "I know exactly how you feel about losing a job...we lost our bonuses this year."
Fast forward to this week. She was still on DH's FB page. He made the comment outloud the other day "that's a fat baby." I asked who he was talking about, he told me it was her. So she apparently got her wish. I had to to look and (catty confession #1) my first thought was that was an unfortunate looking child. So then I had to be nosy and find out when she had the kid (catty confession #2)...apparently the kid's a year old now. And while searching for that info, I came across one more piece of juicy detail. Her house just went into foreclosure. Is it wrong that some part of me just wants to yell "Booya!"?
bahahaha. Like I pushed her to my boob and was like "okay kid. This is for waking me up" lmao.
ha. No it was more like a dream feed. I just assume if she's waking up it's got to be hunger. Plus she went down a little early so that probably was it. I'm one of those people that uses the boob to cure all. lol
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not at all.
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I am a teacher, an exhausted teacher of a 3.5 month old...so today, I have been awake since 4am and I want to cry I am so tired from the week...so:
I confess to completely changing my lesson plans for today so I didn't have to "actively" teach all day. Instead students are doing a diagram and a writing assignment with the diagram (they weren't supposed to do this until middle of next week).
I'm not trying to be snarky, but I think this is really easy to say when your baby sleeps well at night
Macy turned 5 months old today, and has sttn (and by that, I mean 7 hours) ONE time, ever. We have a great bed time routine, I do anything and everything to get her to nap, I've tweaked her schedule many times, but nothing is working. I haven't slept in 5 months. I am desperate, so we are definitely trying sleep training (the no-cry version), and if it gets me some sleep, it won't be a waste of time!
I also tend to roll my eyes with the whole popularity thing, which is why I didn't even bother getting a labor buddy. I think I am a pretty "regular" poster, but I'm not sure that anyone would notice if I disappeared.
I'm the same way. I used to read the news all day long in between calls at work, and knew everything going on. I actually used to pride myself on being that person who made the original FB post that got shared a million times when something big happened.
Now... I have no clue somethings happened unless someone tells me about it, or it's all over FB. I have a friend who's been taking part in the Occupy movement, and I still didn't bother looking it up until 2 days ago.
*ETA: Ooops! Forgot my own FFC. Since I've had D, I get more turned on by girl-on-girl stuff than anything else. Half the time, when DH and I have sex, I'm thinking about lesbians.
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This is the first FFFC in a long time that literally made my jaw drop! Hah
I have no confessions for today. Boooo
lol! don't you get engorged with all the STTN? I get engorged if she doesn't eat for 5 hours. Full but not painful
Boob was my cure all too! It was good while it lasted!
My FFFC is definitely on this whole stupid "popular" crap:
From someone who is not "popular" on here and has never even thought about this once.....who CARES!? I've gotten on a couple times today and all everyone seems to talk about are popular posters, awards, apologies for not getting awards, not enough views on posts, etc. Really?!? Who notices this crap or has the time to be bothered by it? Aren't we all on here to ask about baby stuff or get support on things we're struggling with or announce things we're proud of? I love getting on to read about BABY STUFF or NBR stuff that's not this lame complaining. We should have a poll to see the age group of our board...would explain things.
Amanda, so we can't flame April here because it's FFFC thread. Should we do it tomorrow???
lol jk April. Seriously though you are lucky Finley is sleeping well! I hope it continues because gosh it's no fun at 3am and the LO isn't wanting to go back to sleep even after the boob!
LMAO!
No...really?
Lol, yeah let's get her!! Kidding, of course
Yes, you are very lucky, April!
I think this is part of the problem... several of the ladies mentioned AW posts with their birth stories, or labor buddies posting, and didnt get any support/kudos back... and there was a funny analogy a few weeks back when this was brought up in a much less detailed discussion:
Someone who is less popular can post an AW or a question, and have 2 replies to it, and then a more "popular" bumpie can post that her baby blinked his/her eyes, and she'll get 50 replies saying "HOW CUTE! Your baby blinked his/her eyes!"
And I dont know if age has anything to do with it... Im 29
- I think people just like to be acknowledged...
OK, am I missing the awards post? I tried looking for it but can't find it. I'm sure I'm just overlooking....
TIA!
Most mammals eat their placentas to hide the evidence that there was a birth from predators.
Kudos to you though, I am so picky about what I eat there is NO way I could have gotten over the mental issues with that one. lol
Yes, but when you do those things and no one reads the post or bothers to comment I think it's totally understandable that someone's feelings would be hurt. It's also human nature to recognize that when someone else does the same things they get responses while you get ignored. That doesn't take extra effort or energy, it just is. You also have to remember we all have newborns, we are hormonal, going through plenty of changes in our lives (many of which are friends abandoning us, husbands being jerks, etc) so while the internet shouldn't be serious business or be able to cause hurt sometimes it does. Acknowledging that is okay. I'm 31 and my feelings have been hurt from time to time including this one. I am not an immature person by any means.
FFFC and UO are threads that people can use to communicate their vents. If you notice in the awards post itself no one is in there whining about it. There aren't 10 individual posts made to complain about crying over not getting an award. It was in a FFFC post which people use to confess things they know they shouldn't be bothered by/shouldn't have done/shouldn't feel/etc but they do anyway.