Getting Pregnant again?

MrsSewall

Just wondering for those of you who have multiple kids and those of you who are trying again.  How far apart are your kids?  Would  you space them out the same way again?  My period didn't come last week like it should have.  I am on the pill and now I am still waiting.  I did take a pregnancy Test and it was negative but I found myself slightly sad.  Now I am wondering if we should start trying again.  My LO is about 6 months 2 weeks.  Just any tips/ suggestions would be awesome. TIA

sometimesalwayschaotic

I see this poll a lot on the SAHM board.  From what I've read everyone seems to like the spacing of their kids no matter what the spacing is.   I got pregnant at 6 months.  It was a bit of surprise even though we knew it could happen.  I know the first year especially will be super tough but from what I've read it gets easier after that.  The 2 under 2 board is a great place to lurk if you're pondering this.  I hope that since the babies will be so close in age that they will be close friends.  We'll see.  good luck with your decision!

rosesandpeonies

a week under 18 months apart. I got pregnant when DD 1 was 9 months old.  No I would not have 2 under 2 ever again unless it was a surprise of course.  It has been very very hard.  They are blessings and I love them to death but I am exhausted.  I am going to have more kids but I am definitely spacing them out a little more.  

Just my take on it.  Definitely not puppies and rainbows for me  Although I am happy that they can grow up with each other and have each other so close.  Tough now though. 

kcisthebombdotcom

I agree with the PP that whenever this question is asked on other boards, the majority are happy with the spacing.

For me personally, I love my 1 year gap. I liked doing the newborn phase back to back. I was still in that mindset when my youngest came, and my oldest was too young to feel jealousy (or even notice the baby, lol).

bootsnbananas

KC_13:

I agree with the PP that whenever this question is asked on other boards, the majority are happy with the spacing.

For me personally, I love my 1 year gap. I liked doing the newborn phase back to back. I was still in that mindset when my youngest came, and my oldest was too young to feel jealousy (or even notice the baby, lol).

This is what I will be doing and I am hoping for the same.

My other kids are spaced real far apart and I do not like it at all (13/6 and then Jules is 8months)

 

on_the_move

My LOs are 25 months apart and like everyone else I am pretty happy with the spacing.  Some things to think about are if you want 2 in diapers at the same time?  This bothers some people, but I am okay with it, except it gets expensive.  DS is a very delayed talker and it can be frustrating sometimes to have them both whining at you, but that isn't an issue with a "normal" kid. 

SeasideBride06

My kids are 2 years, and almost 2 months apart.  I really like the spacing b/c DD#1 was becoming more indendent, potty trained, etc. 

I would not have gotten pregnant before DD#1 turned one, just because I know it is safer for your own body to wait a year between pregnancies.  SIDS research also shows that the risk of SIDS can be reduced by waiting a year between the birth of a child and pregnancy.

FutureMrsCaesar

Mine are 2.5 years apart and I don't think I'll do it again.  I know long term, it will be wonderful, but DS1 had HORRIBLE terrible 2s so that plus a baby, plus a move was a nightmare.  In addition, DS1 is literally non-stop and he demands total attention on him.  He also isn't really old enough to understand that he could hurt DS2 and that he is bigger, heavier, etc.  So I can't take my eye off them for a second. 

I would love to have at least one more child, but we're going to wait a little longer between them.  Honestly, I think that less than 2 year difference would be better than 2.5.  DS1 was SUCH a good kid until he turned 2.  But of course a lot of this depends on your childs temperment.

Goodysgirl

We did 2.5 and it has been wonderful. DD was really independent, potty trained and very helpful & attentive when DS came along.  It's still a nice spacing, but we think we want our next one closer- maybe 1.5-2 yrs from DS.