Need a little encouragement..

oreocookie11

We just found out we are expecting our 2nd child, our DS just turned 7 months.  This pregnancy was definitely a surprise.  I'm excited and also nervous and scared. I know that we will be able to do this and that it will be nice to have our kids so close in age, I just keep thinking HOW am I going to do this?! Did anyone else feel this way when they first found out?

CaitlinJ22

Yes, I think you would be nuts to not think/feel that way. The good news is you have 9 months to figure it out, 9 months for your LO to grow up more and do more independant things. It will all work out, I promise. 

Heck, if it was that scary, I wouldn't have my last ticker  

KiwiJ

Heck yes!  I still feel like that, and I only have 4 months to go....  But I know it'll work out ok.  The first few months will be hard, but it'll be so much fun later on! I can't wait until the stage where the kids play with each other all day long - maybe it'll leave me some time to do stuff round the house, ha ha!

An interesting comment I read on this board(?) the other day was that most of the time someone is crying - the baby because he/she needs something, the toddler because he/she wants something, or you because it's one of those days!  But that's ok - it is only temporary and everyone will be fine.

I have started to plan how I can make those first few months easier (eg. hire cleaning service, work out how/when DH can help me out, freeze loads of meals in advance) so that hopefully it won't be quite as big a shock.

 

NelyBelly

Even though we were trying it was still such a big shock so much so that I was literally shaking. I would go back and forth between "what did I do?" and "we'll be alright."

Now it's great! Still a load of work but the best work ever. I work so I have to be very organized with everything I do to make sure that we all get out of the door on time and that we enjoy every minute of our evenings. But I also cut myself some slack and if things don't get done, they just don't get done and that's that. 

 

Good luck! 

mcdmaw

I think time to process is always helpful.  We are what, 5 weeks apart?  In those 5 weeks things will become more real but also more exciting.  Ours was a total surprise as well.  At first all I did was cry but now it seems much more doable! 

 Like a PP said, do some research.  Ask moms on the bump, ask moms IRL.  Plan and prepare as best you can but be ready for life to throw you a curve ball (as it already has). 

Irisheyes1247

Me, me! I definitely felt that way. And still do at times. I know we will figure it out and make it work - it might not necessarily be perfect or the way we pictured it always, and I know it will be tough, but we will all muddle through (hopefully in one piece ) Just give yourself a little time to adjust to the news. You might even find that you forget at times, because you are so busy with your LO. But you have plenty of time to get your plans together and figure out some ways to ease into this.

angelproberts

I think it's safe to say we all felt that way. I think it's just part of the process. But I promise you you will find your groove and you won't even notice that you're doing it. I amaze myself because majority of the time I'm doing it alone! So don't worry. Definitely take time out for yourself and one on one time with your oldest. You'll be fine. Congrats and welcome to the club!