Skipping naps

ArcticFox

Why do I seriously get an attitude from people every time I don't want to skip DD's nap for something?  I am fine pushing it late, but not altogether missing it.  And it's actually not possible, because DD will then either not stop crying or pass out sitting up.

I KNOW my child, I know what happens when I try to skip a nap.  I've done it before, plenty of times.  It is ugly, unpleasant.  It throws off our schedule for days.  

I don't get what the big deal is?  I'm willing to change her nap to even 2-3 hours late and deal with staying up to midnight or whatever - so why do I get the attitude and eye rolling when I don't want to force my child to skip a nap?  Does anyone else get this?   Someone was just really snarky about it out of the blue and it upset me ;(

goosh24

I've gotten attitude about it before too and will at a family event this coming weekend, I'm already anticipating it. Now that there is only 1 nap in the day, seriously, we aren't skipping it! I'm the one who has to deal with the fallout 24/7. It also seems like the people giving me crap about it are ones who are moms too-do you magically forget what its like to deal with a miserable child?

ArcticFox

Thanks for commiserating.. I needed it.  The snarkiness came from out of the blue from another parent dropping off their kid at preschool and mentioned and afternoon event for the kids, I said I couldn't make it because of the nap and she basically rolled her eyes and walked away.  I felt very hurt.

I watch the kids 24/7 for the most part as well, so I feel entitled to choose if I want my child to be miserable or not :P

jnk062602

She shouldn't have been mean to you.  But maybe if another parent has a kid that is easier-going with naps, they just don't get it - especially when the kid is no longer an infant.  Sure dd gets cranky if we skip a nap, but usually we can just put her down for bedtime earlier and make up for it.  So for us, we will just weigh it out - if the event is fun and worth it, we make it work.  If not, or if she has had a couple days of poor sleep, we don't.  But we don't have a specified time that we won't do anything bc of dd's nap.