Terrible twos hit early??

Fackrell520

I have a DD that is 16 months and a DS that is 3 months EBF...I am finding it harder to be able to BF DS without DD hitting him, trying to climb on him, screaming and such......I almost feel like I just wanna scream but know that I can't....I try to breath but its very difficult at times. I don't know how to get her to stop this behavior?!  She was not this way when he first came home it has just started recently. How do you deal with it?

Oh and when she isn't screaming at me or trying to hurt brother she is getting into stuff that she knows she shouldn't be getting into just because she knows I can't punish her right then....talk about a MESS when I get done BFing it feels pointless to do time-out or a "talk" because she isn't actually doing the trouble making then. WWYD??

CaitlinJ22

I find its the second year thats the worst for us. SO when my kids turned around 15 months they began to act out more. you cant reason whatsoever so thats hard. DS was a huge hitter at 15 months to 20 months. DD was born when he was 18 months and he had a rought first 2 weeks. IF he would hit her then I would hold her in my arms still (putting her down is what he would want me to do) or pick her up if she was on the floor and take him by the hand and stick him in the same corner and tell him he was in timeout for 1 minute because we dont hit. I would leave him alone and not talk to him. If he came out I was walk him back. Thats it, no talking. While he was in time out, I would tend to DD and tell her that wasnt nice of DS etc (shower her with attention in front of him). Once roughly a minute was done, I would go over and tell him we dont hit and say he's sorry to his sister. He would touch her gently and try to say sorry, or sign it. Then we'd hug and thats it. Id repeat this several times a day if needed. Eventually he realized she was getting more attention that me and he didnt hit her. So while you are nursing, you may have to get up and do this, but it will get better. 

As for the getting into stuff thing, make your area very baby proofed and just pick your battles. Ignore somethings that arent bad or hurting her or your LO. She wants attention, so praising her when she does something well is a good way to try and prevent bad behavior.

GL!