I misplaced the baby

SarahKate31

I go into DS's room this morning to wake him up and I look in the crib and he's not there, only his sleep sack is in there. I have a second of panic...omg-where-did-I-leave-him...then look down at the swing on the floor and he's in there sound asleep. I was up all night with him trying to get him to sleep somewhere, anywhere, and I knew I tried the swing but I couldn't remember if it worked or if I had moved him to the crib. Zombie mom here...

ThePastor'sWife

Ugh, I remember that from the early days when we were up at all hours during the night (did I put him in the cradle?  The bouncer?  The PnP?).  I HATED that feeling of panic, and it was only made worse b/c your brain is so foggy from the lack of sleep that you can't think as quickly...  Yuck.

Hang in there, momma!  Hope he gets back to a better sleeping schedule for you ASAP!

KathrynMD

OMG - worst feeling EVER!

ummm also - sleep training!!!  We did straight CIO, sucked but quick.  But, 1 SUPER sucky night and then 2 kinda bad ones and then DD basically STTN from then on.

SarahKate31

KathrynMD:

OMG - worst feeling EVER!

ummm also - sleep training!!!  We did straight CIO, sucked but quick.  But, 1 SUPER sucky night and then 2 kinda bad ones and then DD basically STTN from then on.

We are talking to the pedi about this at his appt this afternoon. I think we should start soon but DH wants to wait. Maybe he would feel differently if he was the one getting up all night??

KathrynMD

SarahKate31:

KathrynMD:

OMG - worst feeling EVER!

ummm also - sleep training!!!  We did straight CIO, sucked but quick.  But, 1 SUPER sucky night and then 2 kinda bad ones and then DD basically STTN from then on.

We are talking to the pedi about this at his appt this afternoon. I think we should start soon but DH wants to wait. Maybe he would feel differently if he was the one getting up all night??

uh huh.

yeah. . .. that's pretty much what it came down to at my house.  Also, once I cited the doctor as the authority and added her blessing, DH was OK with it.  Not happy, but he agreed. 

snoopy5512

Hilarious!  And Scary.  Kathryn--Did you do CIO in intervals?  Our DD STTN and she is still "sleeping" she just crawls into the end of the crib and cries.  And she can totally move, so we are thinking about doing this.  Advice?

SarahKate31

KathrynMD:

SarahKate31:

KathrynMD:

OMG - worst feeling EVER!

ummm also - sleep training!!!  We did straight CIO, sucked but quick.  But, 1 SUPER sucky night and then 2 kinda bad ones and then DD basically STTN from then on.

We are talking to the pedi about this at his appt this afternoon. I think we should start soon but DH wants to wait. Maybe he would feel differently if he was the one getting up all night??

uh huh.

yeah. . .. that's pretty much what it came down to at my house.  Also, once I cited the doctor as the authority and added her blessing, DH was OK with it.  Not happy, but he agreed. 

He was on board until last week when he talked to his friend who said they waited until 9 months with their kids and now he thinks that's a good idea. I told him, that's five whole months away you know!! I don't want to wait that long because the way he's acting I really think he'd settle himself back down now if we let him CIO a little.

KathrynMD

SarahKate31:

He was on board until last week when he talked to his friend who said they waited until 9 months with their kids and now he thinks that's a good idea. I told him, that's five whole months away you know!! I don't want to wait that long because the way he's acting I really think he'd settle himself back down now if we let him CIO a little.

UGH - to me this is one of those things where unless he's the one dealing w/ the problem, his input in limited.  Now if he was getting up equally, then OK, but if its all/mostly you then this is your call.

I was the one getting up w/ DD most of the time, but we were both still iffy about the whole thing.  I talked to the pediatrician and she said she did CIO w/ her 1st kid at 9 months, but she regretted waiting that long and said w/ kid # 2, she did it as soon as he started waking up multiple times a night and just wouldn't go back to sleep - which was around 5 months for them.  She strongly encouraged me to do it soon so that DD could start getting good sleep habits before any teething issues started cropping up.

KathrynMD

snoopy5512:

Hilarious!  And Scary.  Kathryn--Did you do CIO in intervals?  Our DD STTN and she is still "sleeping" she just crawls into the end of the crib and cries.  And she can totally move, so we are thinking about doing this.  Advice?

aww poor thing

I didn't do intervals; just straight CIO.

Is your LO stuck in the corner?  If you go in and move her is she happy and goes back to sleep?

Mella&T

B still isn't STTN so I feel your pain, SK. She wakes up a lot (mostly bc I think she realizes she's on her tummy and forgets she can roll back). Sometimes I roll her pack, pop the pacifier back in and she goes back to sleep. Other times, she cries and I end up nursing her for a few minutes. I know this is probably bad and setting up a routine where she expects the feeding every night and another reason she's waking up. I guess I could let her CIO in the middle of the night like we do at bed time? It's frustrating and I haven't had a solid night's sleep in months. She had a spurt where she STTN for a month or so but I can barely remember those nights. I too am like a zombie at night!

SarahKate31

Mella&T:

B still isn't STTN so I feel your pain, SK. She wakes up a lot (mostly bc I think she realizes she's on her tummy and forgets she can roll back). Sometimes I roll her pack, pop the pacifier back in and she goes back to sleep. Other times, she cries and I end up nursing her for a few minutes. I know this is probably bad and setting up a routine where she expects the feeding every night and another reason she's waking up. I guess I could let her CIO in the middle of the night like we do at bed time? It's frustrating and I haven't had a solid night's sleep in months. She had a spurt where she STTN for a month or so but I can barely remember those nights. I too am like a zombie at night!

How has CIO at bedtime worked for you? Does she cry for a long time?

I haven't fed him in the middle of the night since he was 8 weeks old and I don't want to go back to that because I don't think he needs it and I don't want to start a habit, like you said. He was STTN as recently as a week or so ago but it feels like ages ago! DH was just saying he hopes we can get a solid couple weeks at least of STTN before teething starts (which could be several months away, but you never know).

Also, re: DH helping. To be fair, he does help out in the middle of the night sometimes and he is the one to put DS to bed initially. I just get up with him far more often and the past few days its been just me.

KathrynMD

when we did CIO w/ DD, the first night, she cried 45 minutes - that was the worst.  Then quiet for 20 minutes, then cried 10 minutes, then slept 20 minutes, cried 5 minutes. Woke up 2 more times through the night, but was asleep w/in 3-5 minutes each time. 

Night 2 - cried 20 minutes, then asleep 5, wokeup cried 5, then asleep all night

night 3 - cried 5 minutes, asleep 5, cried 5

 

salc21

Same thing happened here!!! I came out of the shower, put my robe on and then went to his room to get him out of the crib and give him his bottle... and he wasn't there!! I started to panic and went back into our room to tell my DH who was still sleeping and then I saw LO sleeping next to DH. Apparently he woke up while I was in the shower so DH got him out.

nezwee

I hope you can get some answers this afternoon.

FWIW, our ped told us that we could let DD CIO as early as 2 mo. Did we? No. But he said we could do it at 5 minute intervals.  DH was all about it, but like you he wasn't the one to get up with her at night cause he was at work!

mrs. remy

nezwee:

FWIW, our ped told us that we could let DD CIO as early as 2 mo. Did we? No. But he said we could do it at 5 minute intervals.  DH was all about it, but like you he wasn't the one to get up with her at night cause he was at work!

Daaaaaamn, that seems a little......harsh. It makes me sad to think of a baby that tiny just laying there crying for their parents and having no one come get them. then again, this is coming from someone who couldn't bring myself to do any form of CIO until he was well over a year old. 

SK, sorry he is having restless nights. DS sure had his share and I am kind of dreading going through it all again. Hopefully you guys will find something that works for you.

nezwee

mrs. remy:

nezwee:

FWIW, our ped told us that we could let DD CIO as early as 2 mo. Did we? No. But he said we could do it at 5 minute intervals.  DH was all about it, but like you he wasn't the one to get up with her at night cause he was at work!

Daaaaaamn, that seems a little......harsh. It makes me sad to think of a baby that tiny just laying there crying for their parents and having no one come get them. then again, this is coming from someone who couldn't bring myself to do any form of CIO until he was well over a year old. 

SK, sorry he is having restless nights. DS sure had his share and I am kind of dreading going through it all again. Hopefully you guys will find something that works for you.

 OH, in no way was I gonna do that to her. I still can't!! And thankfully, we don't have to since she has been STTN for about a week now. 

jcsntms06

That's the worst. Actually wait till C starts to move around in his crib at night. I remember the first time that A was doing that. I freaked out.

Mella&T

SarahKate31:

Mella&T:

B still isn't STTN so I feel your pain, SK. She wakes up a lot (mostly bc I think she realizes she's on her tummy and forgets she can roll back). Sometimes I roll her pack, pop the pacifier back in and she goes back to sleep. Other times, she cries and I end up nursing her for a few minutes. I know this is probably bad and setting up a routine where she expects the feeding every night and another reason she's waking up. I guess I could let her CIO in the middle of the night like we do at bed time? It's frustrating and I haven't had a solid night's sleep in months. She had a spurt where she STTN for a month or so but I can barely remember those nights. I too am like a zombie at night!

How has CIO at bedtime worked for you? Does she cry for a long time?

It has been OK. We have been trying it for a week or so now. We'll put her down, she'll cry, and we'll go in in intervals that we lengthen throughout the night. The worst night was probably 30 minutes of crying. It has gotten significantly less but she doesn't go down easy yet, like the books I've read suggest happens after a "few" days. I also tend to linger and try and soothe her while she's laying in the crib when really I should let her self soothe. It's just that she's usually so tired and right on the verge of falling asleep. Her crying keeps her awake but when I am standing over her, holding her hands, she's calm enough to drift off. Probably some "bad" parenting techniques in there, but it's what's working for us right now. We just have to figure out this middle of the night stuff and we'll be set!