Giving my son DH's name

J+A10

How do people feel about giving your son the same name as his dad?  I never thought I'd be the type to do this but my DH and I love his name (Brooks) so much that we're considering it for our son. 

Sometimes think it's a little narcissistic (whether you name him a Jr. or not).  Other times I just think it's great he can carry on his dad's name which we love.  What do you all think?

 

HannahO28

I think it's narcissistic. Passing down a name is a huge honor to the namesake. I don't think it's an honor you should give to yourself. 

Southern-Yankee

I'm not a fan of juniors.  It causes a lot of complications.  At least it has for my BIL and his dad....including trying to get credit when one persons credit is bad.

mrsekins

I wouldn't do it.  I would definitely use DH's first name as my boy's middle name, but there is just way to much complication in having two with the same name in one household.

ebettley

I agree. My DH is named after his father and had so many issues on his credit when we went to buy our house. It was a PAIN to fix!!

Plus I think it is pretty cool to give a child their own identity. I'm a HUGE fan of using it for the middle name though. Always an option there too.

OnTheLanai

We plan on giving our first son His dads name..but using it for his middle name instead of his first. That way DH gets his son named after him, but Im not calling him by the same name. I also feel its narcissistic, which is why I compromised and said ONLY the middle name LOL

jesssy1204

Oh, that is a good name! I think Brooks is so cute! I dont like when they call the son Jr. though

Allycat11

I am not a fan of it.  It is narcisstic and can cause issues with credit.  It also would be annoying, for me at least, to have 2 people with the same name living in the same house. 

FI and I both have the name William and Ray used in our families.  They are both names we are proud of, so we have decided if we have 1 son, William will be his middle name. If we have a second son, Ray will be his middle name.  That allows us to carry on family names without being too narcisstic or causing unneccessary confusion. 

Happily Overwhelmed

I'm not a huge fan of it. I think it's a little outdated. It does get confusing too. I like the idea of using DH's name for a middle name. I think it's an honor without the confusion. We'll be using DH's name for LO's middle name. I just wish I liked it as much as you like your DH's name. :S

ClareML10

I think I am the odd person out because I think you should do it.  I love the name Brooks!  There is also only a credit or identity problem with this if they have the same full name, are you giving your son your husbands middle name as well, if not this should not be a problem.  I come from a family that had four generations of Thomas (all different middle names) it was surprisingly not confusing.  Eventually you grow up into different people and my brother is only with my father during visits or holidays...not a problem.

allisonmarie22

I think it's perfectly fine and calling people who do it narcissistic seems kind of judgey and mean.  If you love your husband and you love his name then why not do it if you feel it's appropriate to carry on a family tradition or namesake in that way...

mommyaudra

cant stand when people add the jr. or the roman numerals. just go with Brooks!

ChavayJakov

My DH is a II (ILs did not want a Jr, so they went numerical).  FIL was against using his name, but gave into MIL when DH was born (1st child).  They ended up giving him a nn based on the relationship rather than a short form of the actual name.

While we feel no pressure to do so, I admit, I kinda dig the idea of a III.  I'm into heredity and ancestry and connections, etc.

BTW, there was never any confusion having two Jakov's in the household, no financial ramifications either. 

salt78

I don't think it's narcissistic. A lot of that goes on in my family. My oldest cousin is a IVth and I'm pretty sure that will continue if he has a boy. I'm not fond of the tradition myself, but I don't think there's anything wrong with it either. It's just NMS. I think you should use the name if you love it (though I agree with PPs that it would also make a nice middle name).

Tannaw16

My husband is a junior and more than anything it is a huge pain. Whenever we're with his family I have to call him "my Greg" or "little Greg" or whatever makes sense so we can tell them apart. It gets old really fast. If you love the name go for it, but be prepared for some confusion.

peke1101

I'm on the side that likes the tradition...My husband is a III and if we have a boy it will be the IV...I think it's totally up to you but definitely be prepared to deal with confusion...Good name too!

sgroff26

I think it's perfectly fine, especially if it's a family tradition.

kmpls

I think it's a fantastic tradition. Warning: this board doesn't like it but don't let that change your mind.

ObLaDi

HannahO28:

I think it's narcissistic. Passing down a name is a huge honor to the namesake. I don't think it's an honor you should give to yourself. 

I agree with Hannah. I also think it puts some undue pressure on your child to then give the name to his child, and so on.

But lots of people are into it. If you love it, do it.

saham07

allisonmarie22:

I think it's perfectly fine and calling people who do it narcissistic seems kind of judgey and mean.  If you love your husband and you love his name then why not do it if you feel it's appropriate to carry on a family tradition or namesake in that way...

Yes, this

Desmond&MollyJones*

I would never do same first and middle. 

We used H's first name for our son's middle name.

My mom and dad used my dad's first name as my brother's first name, but gave him a different middle name.

They have no credit issues since they don't have the same full name, and there was no confusion in the household because my dad went by Phil and by brother went by Phillip. 

Maybe use Brooks with a different middle name?