If you're are already divorced...

supermom2008

What are some things you included in your divorce decree ( re: visitation, parenting plan, CS) that you are glad you did? I'm trying to get all my ducks in a row.

 Some things I've read on various boards, but my atty didn't include in the proposal are 1. If I have to take XH to court for CS, that he should pay legal fees. 2. What % of medical expenses (after insurance) we each should be responsible for LO's medical expenses. 3. That XH should continue to have LO on his insurance as long as he is a minor. 4. LO's birthday-How the time will be split.

CPA04

Who provides transportation for visitation (to and from)

Both parents make all their medical, substance abuse, mental health, etc. evals & records available to LO's pedi for family history reasons.

What happens if XH misses a visit, or if weather or LO's sickness prevents visitation.

That important family functions (weddings, funerals, etc.) trump the normal schedule.  (I'm so glad I put this in our order. My friend's 18 month old triplets were supposed to be flower girl/ring bearer's in their uncle's wedding a few weeks back.  Her STBXH was so angry he "lost" the temporary hearing that he didn't allow the kids to go to the wedding and she couldn't do anything about it.)

Each parent personally shows up for pick up/drop off.  i.e. XH can't send someone else to pick up LO.  He needs to be present as the person executing the visit.

LO is transported by a licensed driver with a fully insured and registered vehicle.  (We have this b/c XH doesn't have a driver's license, so I will not allow LO to leave if XH shows up by himself to pick up LO.)

I'm sure I'll think of more later....

I carry all DS's insurance, pay the first $250 out of pocket and then I pay 60% and XH is supposed to pay 40% of unreimbursed after that.

HTH!

 

kmartinez80

Designate where pick ups/drop offs will occur.  Depending on the relationship you have with your STBXH it could be at one or both parent's house(s) or it could be a neutral location like a McDonald's or even a police station if it's a really contentious relationship.  I've not had to deal with this one personally (XH has supervised visits at a court appointed agency), but I've seen other people struggle with this.

HisChamaoleGirl

Who will claim the child for taxes? Will who has the child the most? WIll you alternate every other year ?

Wedding18

*HiS ChAmAoLe GiRL*:

Who will claim the child for taxes? Will who has the child the most? WIll you alternate every other year ?

 

My friend, who is a CPA and also divorced told me that it doesn't matter if you do agree to EOY for taxes, it is determined by who has physical custody, unless that person waives their right.  

supermom2008

All great advice ladies, thank you!

LadyLissame

Thank you from me too. I am taking notes on this.