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brittas

My LO is only 6 weeks and the whole pregnancy/birth/baby in my arms experience was the most amazing experience (as I am sure you all know:)) and it just makes me want to have tons of kids... well maybe just 3-4. I was wondering if you planned on having your children close together and if you recommend it. How old was your LO when you started TTC again? What about breastfeeding your first? Am I crazy that I am all ready thinking about baby #2? I just love this so much I want to do it again and again! I would love to hear your thoughts on this. TIA

memali26

Around 6 weeks with DD1 is when DH and I started planning for #2. We originally planned to start trying in January so they would be about 20 months apart if we got pregnant right away. We ended up with a surprise BFP about 2 weeks before we intended to start trying (DD1 was not quite 11 months), so our girls are 19 months apart. DD2 is only 3 weeks old, but so far I am happy with the age gap. I am really hopeful that growing up so close in age they'll go through stages and phases together and have a close relationship.

If we decide to go for #3 we'll space them a little further than the girls, but not much. We figure if we're in the diaper/bottle/midnight feeding trenches we might as well get it all over with at once instead of starting over in 5 years! 

jillcomer

Your not crazy...your a mom!

We wanted to have our children close together but didn't worry or even plan on it happening (no ovulation test kits, birth control etc). I breastfed exclusively for 9 months and got pregnant when I stopped pumping.  

I have a 17 month old daughter and am about 15 weeks away from having our son. I still nurse on demand (mostly mornings, naptime and bedtime) and will continue to do so until our daughter self-weans.  (There is a great book called Adventures in Tandem Breastfeeding that has been helpful!).

About two years apart makes sense for our family because of our ages (I am 35 and my husband is 40) and because I have loved spending time with and developing a relationship with our daughter exclusively and appreciate the idea of our son and daughter not remember a time without each other.

Still being pregnate, I have yet to experience two in cloth diapers, the transition for our daughter  from being an only child to a sister and all of the other so-called "tough times" parents face, but I'm not at all worried.

There is no right answer! Enjoy your baby and being a mom and you'll know when the time is right for you!

 

kcisthebombdotcom

This is going to sound even crazier, but my 2 are 12.5 months apart. I told my DH all the time when my DS was 9 months old I wish we got pregnant a few months earlier so I'd be having the baby now! I really like all the benefits that come with having kids close in age and dont regret it at all. Even if I could go back in time knowing what I know now, I wouldnt change the spacing.

RA1109

The first 2 months was the honeymoon.  Then came real life.  It doesn't get easier.  Not to say it's not still awesome, because it definitely is and I still want to have 10 because it's so awesome, but it is not without it's MAJOR challenges.

rgtsmom01

I started trying at 10 weeks and my boys are 10 months apart.  I love it, they are already starting to play together and they will be able to do the same things at the same time.  I didn't want more than 2 so I just knocked it out.  The hardest part for me was being pregnant and having such a little baby to still take care of and carry everywhere since he was not walking. 

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha

You're not crazy. DH and I always planned on having 2, but we started entertaining the thought of a 3rd about 3.5 seconds after DD2 was born (ok, it was more like a few days after, but still...)

I BF'ed DD1 until she was almost 16 months (cutting down on nursing sessions as solids started taking a more important place in her diet - we were down to about 4 sessions a day by the time she turned one). My period returned when she was 11 months old and we started TTC almost right away.

As you will find out, everyone has their opinion on good or ideal timing between kids. Some will argue that the closer in age your kids are, the sooner you'll be done with changing diapers, etc. On the other hand, spacing them out more means your older kid(s) will be more independent when the baby comes, and that might be easier for you to deal with. It's really up to you to figure what's best for you and your family.

sparklenshine_89

My two boys are 12 1/2 months apart. It's crazy but amazing.