Moms with more than 1 - playing faves?

MrsWhiteonWhiteSt

Oh the guilt of having more than 1 kiddo.

I'm so torn b/c I wish I could freeze Justin at this age forever- he is so fun and hilarious even though he has his difficult "moments". I just love being around him and everything about him.

The twins are just SOO different- I can't wait until they're older. I feel like my lack of sleep has completely drained my patience, I'm so exhausted and irritated with their behavior. I feel guilty because I never felt that way with J when he was a baby. The twins are precious angels during the day but as soon as the sun goes down and it's time for bed they are screaming, fussy, whiny, "starving" nightmares- up every hour or 2 hours between the 2 of them, waking each other up- then up before dawn for the day. I've tried everything. I always promised myself I wouldn't be a mom that plays favorites but it is super hard when you're so frustrated

How do you keep a positive attitude and patience when you're at the end of your rope? help! 

 

dle927

I told my DH two days ago that I want to keep Claire at this age forever...minus her sleep issues and potty training.  For exactly the reasons you want to with Justin.  Evan is an easy baby, so I can't imagine what you're going through, but I'd still want him to grow up a bit before I ever say I want to keep him at this age forever. 

 Lack of sleep will make you lose patience...don't beat yourself up about it.  If all of your interactions with Justin are easy and positive then I would assume it's normal to prefer those interactions.  And you won't feel like this forever.  The twins will catch up and start sleeping for you. 

You're doing great!

 

mrsoc

I think that the sleep deprivation plays a HUGE part.  I found myself not being very tolerant at all, when I was not getting much sleep...  Like I have said before, I think that you are doing an AMAZING job, so please do not feel guilty.  I go in spurts, but right now (::knocks on wood::), they are both at fun ages, so things are smooth. Do you and your DH ever rotate nights?  That was huge for me, when we started FF, because at least then with a little more sleep I could cope better.  Best of luck, hugs to you, and we all definitely have these moments.

BTW...one of the last pictures of B that you posted on FB melted my heart..I meant to post that on there.  All 3 kids are so beautiful! 

jewelsonu

I don't think I play favorites.  It just always works out that I have sophia and norm has ethan.  It was so nice on vacation that I had ethan in the pool. he only wanted me. That doesn't happen very often.  Both kids are at a fun age but they do test my patience when they are both whiny and I had a long day at work.

MrsWhiteonWhiteSt

jewelsonu:

I don't think I play favorites.  It just always works out that I have sophia and norm has ethan.  It was so nice on vacation that I had ethan in the pool. he only wanted me. That doesn't happen very often.  Both kids are at a fun age but they do test my patience when they are both whiny and I had a long day at work.

Yep- not to be a Debbie Downer to ladies that want big families, but this is why we only wanted 2 kiddos (BUT were thrilled to be blessed with twins and couldn't imagine life without them)... once you're outnumbered, you're pretty much screwed.

xKimx

MrsWhiteonWhiteSt:

Yep- not to be a Debbie Downer to ladies that want big families, but this is why we only wanted 2 kiddos (BUT were thrilled to be blessed with twins and couldn't imagine life without them)... once you're outnumbered, you're pretty much screwed.

 

LALALALALA!

No, being outnumbered is one of my biggest concerns. Right now DH gets Charlie, I get Paul. I am scared as to how Paul is going to handle having to share his mama.... 

MelissaSue81

Ugh. I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time with the twins right now. It has to be SO SO hard with babies that aren't sleeping well x 2.. (and then a toddler to keep you extra busy all day). Its hard enough for me with one when Nat has a string of  rough nights.

Honestly, I am the exact opposite right now.. Eve is a nightmare and I am terrified that Natalie is going to grow up and be just like her.  I want to keep my baby little so she can't get an attitude like her sisters. this is flameworthy and makes me super sad to type..but most days when i'm at work I miss Natalie but enjoy the break from Eve.(Although right at this moment she is cracking me up like crazy)

I don't think its really playing favorites.. since they are at such different stages right now. I hope in a few months Eve will be easier and maybe she'll be my "favorite" again.

 

Court0026

It changes...at least in our house.  I swear only one of my kids can be cute at a time.  I had the severe sleep deprivation.  DD cried for 6 months...fussy, whiny, crying all day and then nursing every 2-3 hours around the clock (until 10ish months).  I can't imagine it with twins!  She hardly sleeps through the night now, but she is so cute and busy and funny.  DS is driving me crazy...but it really does seem to be something different from week to week (or someone different).

olivia_eve

Mine definitely changes depending on what they're doing.  When Thomas is fussing and I can't figure out what to do with him, Rosie is my favorite.  And when Rosie is being the most stubborn child on the planet and it takes a half hour of yelling, time outs, and crying to get her to wash her hands (that was today), Thomas is my favorite. 

amamommy

I worry about this too. Emmalee is driving me NUTS but it's because I have 3 babies to take care of and she's dying for some attention from me, and I have very little to give! When she's off on a playdate, I actually sit down and have a peaceful morning! I think with time everything will fall into place, or at least the "stuff" will change to something else!!!

sunnygirl05

I don't think it's playing favorites....you just need some sleep!!!!!  That has to be so rough for you!