37 weeks and no word from father :(

mpotts09

It's getting so close now and I'm getting scared... I haven't heard from or seen the babies dad since July. He doesn't have a phone & I know he has my number bc he asked my sister for it a couple nights ago but I haven't heard from him...He's not around bc he doesn't think the baby is his...which he is. He's expecting me to get back with him after the baby is here. Thats not going to happen, he has a lot of earning up to do. I'm afraid when I go into labor I won't be able to get a hold of him. He talked to me maybe 2 months out of the whole pregnancy and it's been so hard. I'm just emotional today and so scared of doing it alone or how I can do it alone.

achase123

He's gone MIA throughout the pregnancy.  He doesn't think the child is his.  He doesn't even have a way for you to contact him.  Yet you are worried that you won't be able to get ahold of him when you go into labor.  Why in the world would you want someone there who doesn't even think he's the father?  And on top of that you say he's going to try to get back with you, and you imply that he could do just that so long as he performs enough "earning up" to get back into your good graces?

Please tell me this is MUD.  If not, get to a therapist, ASAP.  You need to be much stronger than this to get through being a single mom. 

Ariana2O11

achase123:

He's gone MIA throughout the pregnancy.  He doesn't think the child is his.  He doesn't even have a way for you to contact him.  Yet you are worried that you won't be able to get ahold of him when you go into labor.  Why in the world would you want someone there who doesn't even think he's the father? 

This.

 My STBXH first called, threatened me multiple times to get an abortion. Then he disappeared throughout the entirety of the pregancy. I've had to prepare for this baby on my own. Now he's shown up at the final hour asking me to notify him when I go into labor and delivery because he wants to be there. Do you think that will happen????

 No way. In t ypical selfish fashion, he wants to experience the birth of his son, but where was he when his unborn child and I needed him throughout this pregnancy???! 

Plus, how awkward would that be for him to just show up after being MIA for months and then to help me push out a baby? 

Ridiculous!!!!

aelake

You CAN do it alone.

My DD's bio dad told me to "get rid of it" when I found out I was pregnant. That was the hardest thing I have ever heard in my entire life. We spoke minimally until I was about 15 weeks along, and we never spoke again.

DD is 1 now and the light of my life. It has been hard, yes, but with so much support from friends and family I know I will continue to be able to do it without her bio dad. 

Get a good support group around you. You have a beautiful baby on the way with nothing but a world of opportunities ahead of them. Don't worry about someone who chooses not to be there, because it is their loss.. Not yours or the babies.

 

Thoughts and prayers sent your way. Keep your chin up! 

mpotts09

Thank you so much.... I know I can do it, it's just frustrating how he's acting.& he did tell m to abort it when I first found out. and No I don't want to get back with him bc he hasn't been there for me through anything and then all of a sudden when he wants to, Idk what I'll do. I want him to be in the babies life and get to know him but I can't force him to of course. We will see what happens. Thank you so much!

bluegirl8262

mpotts09:

Thank you so much.... I know I can do it, it's just frustrating how he's acting.& he did tell m to abort it when I first found out. and No I don't want to get back with him bc he hasn't been there for me through anything and then all of a sudden when he wants to, Idk what I'll do. I want him to be in the babies life and get to know him but I can't force him to of course. We will see what happens. Thank you so much!

Having a bad example of a 'father' in a child's life is not always better than no example. Maybe look for another father figure-such as your dad or uncle if this guy is going to be a shitty one. GL, I am so sorry you're going through this. Prayers to you on your days ahead.