Poll: Do you have a will?

Marce921

Just curious since I'm working on this right now....[Poll]

rebs

I have all three.  I also have a medical directive that gives my husband complete control to make decisions for me could I not speak for myself. 

I consider it irresponsible to not at least have a will when kids are involved. You might assume that everyone will do what you expect, but when people are upset and grieving they may act irrationally.

SuperCuteBenz

rebs:

I have all three.  I also have a medical directive that gives my husband complete control to make decisions for me could I not speak for myself. 

I consider it irresponsible to not at least have a will when kids are involved. You might assume that everyone will do what you expect, but when people are upset and grieving they may act irrationally.

Ditto.

It sucks to think about, but we wanted to make sure that someone was in place to take care of our kids. I didn't want them going into foster care while a bunch of family members trying and duke it out. 

Littlejen22

SuperCuteBenz:

rebs:

I have all three.  I also have a medical directive that gives my husband complete control to make decisions for me could I not speak for myself. 

I consider it irresponsible to not at least have a will when kids are involved. You might assume that everyone will do what you expect, but when people are upset and grieving they may act irrationally.

Ditto.

It sucks to think about, but we wanted to make sure that someone was in place to take care of our kids. I didn't want them going into foster care while a bunch of family members trying and duke it out. 

This

ghm

rebs:

I have all three.  I also have a medical directive that gives my husband complete control to make decisions for me could I not speak for myself. 

I consider it irresponsible to not at least have a will when kids are involved. You might assume that everyone will do what you expect, but when people are upset and grieving they may act irrationally.

Ditto on all counts.

Our first will was pretty basic--it covered the living will, medical directive, and guardianship, as we had no assets to leave at that point.

We had to redo our will within a couple of weeks of my dad's cancer diagnosis. We knew they were no longer going to be the guardians, and as much as it hurt to think about at that time, it was important to address it, because something could happen to us at any moment. We took that time to do the full will that we never did before (we now own a home and have life insurance policies, etc).

We've also talked with our close family members about our wishes so that there would hopefully not be a fight in a hard time. I think we're all on the same page, but it's good that we've had the talks and then have it in writing. 

Temp108743750006959

yup -- $500 and it's done.

superslug

We don't, but we really, really need to get it done. Our main issue is who get the kids if we die. We don't have a frontrunner so we end up going back and forth. We just need to decide and get it done already!

joy143dh

Thanks for the reminder. We have to update ours to account for Spencer

justEK

superslug:

We don't, but we really, really need to get it done. Our main issue is who get the kids if we die. We don't have a frontrunner so we end up going back and forth. We just need to decide and get it done already!

This is exactly us.  

shouldbworkin

We have trusts as well, which I think are more important than a will.  The will just says "everything through the trust."  The trust gets most things out of probate, so that the surviving spouse or children don't have to wait.  Highly recommend a trust if you have your own life insurance policy. 

tanzer13

superslug:

We don't, but we really, really need to get it done. Our main issue is who get the kids if we die. We don't have a frontrunner so we end up going back and forth. We just need to decide and get it done already!

This.  We are having a really hard time with this.

p1nklemonade

we only made the wills once we had dd.  we wanted to make sure she went where we wanted her to go if we both die.  living will and power of attorney were included when we did the will. 

true_norskie

I answered that I have all three, but really I don't technically have a "Living Will."  I have a "Healthcare Directive" which is essentially a living will in the sense that I give decision power to H (and one other person if he is incapacitated) if ever it comes to a situation where a tough decision needs to be made.  These are very popular in my state, moreso than a living will.

We chose to not overthink it.  So I didn't do things like spell out "if I'm in a vegetative state AND there is a new moon, then do this".  H and I have talked enough that we are aware of each other's wishes and I trust that he'll make the decision that I want him to (and vice versa).

We completed them a couple years ago and it's such a relief to know that the documents are out there, notarized and our decisions are socialized with the appropriate people.

peekaboo716

justEK:

superslug:

We don't, but we really, really need to get it done. Our main issue is who get the kids if we die. We don't have a frontrunner so we end up going back and forth. We just need to decide and get it done already!

This is exactly us.  

Us too.