If you want to discipline your kids less...

joseysbride

all you have to do is lower your standards.

 

LOL!  I was listening to a parenting cd on my way to work, and the guy was really funny.  This is one of his quotes.  Joking, of course!

kittycarr

I've been saying that for years!!!

Jodi&Joe

He's actually right.

I think we tend to expect them to behave way more than they are capable of.

They are kids, with the attention span of a flea and the energy of a cheetah. 

pincushion

ha!! I agree...

xbrooklyngrl

lol that's great!

Angela814

I think I've done that pretty naturally.  There are many battles not worth fighting, and I'm not afraid to resort to bribery.

joseysbride

Jodi ~ I think the key is to have realistic standards.  Not necessarily lower them.

In seriousness, one thing he did say that I loved was this...If you don't discipline your kids now, when they are in your home and it is under your control, somebody else will, and it won't be under your control then.  Is that what you want?

For the first 18 years or so of your child's life, you should have them on a rope; one that is just long enough that you can keep them in the area they need to be, but not long enough that they can hang themselves.  Let them make their mistakes and learn from them, but be there for help and guidance before it gets too out of control.  When they leave your home, the rope isn't there, and hopefully they will know how to maintain those boundaries themself.  I thought that was a great piece of advice.

Angela814

joseysbride:

For the first 18 years or so of your child's life, you should have them on a rope; one that is just long enough that you can keep them in the area they need to be, but not long enough that they can hang themselves.  Let them make their mistakes and learn from them, but be there for help and guidance before it gets too out of control.  When they leave your home, the rope isn't there, and hopefully they will know how to maintain those boundaries themself.  I thought that was a great piece of advice.

I love that analogy.

neesernicole

what's the cd?

joseysbride

neeser ~ I can't remember the name of the guy; he is an author.  It is a Catholic-based cd that I got at church.