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Concerned about DH (kinda long)

boysx2boysx2
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I'm not on here very often but I could really use some advice.  DH has been very down/blah lately.  I've tried talking to him about it but he usually says there is nothing to talk about or he doesn't know what's wrong, he's just blah.  This has been going on for a few weeks now.  Our sex life hasn't been the greatest but to be honest, when he's in these moods I just have no desire for anything.  Most of the time he's buried in his laptop doing work or something else and just waits for me to "make the first move" and if I dont he just continues whatever he is doing.  When I brought up his mood today he said everything just feels like work/effort.  He only does things because he feels obligated to.  Any time I suggest something to do with the boys its basically a sure, ok, response I get.  I basically feel like he's saying, "I'd rather sit in my chair with ESPN on and my laptop but I know we should probably do something with the kids."

He enjoys his job and the work he does.  It has its challenges but nothing extreme.  I'm a SAHM so a lot of the house related things I take care of for the most part and he doesn't have to really worry about.  There are a ton of other little details I could give but I honestly dont know where to go from here.  Don't know whats going on or how to help if he can't tell me.   He's not one to see a Dr unless he is actually sick so I dont think I could convince him to talk to a Dr at this point. 

I'm gonna try and talk to him later today or tonight when the boys are asleep (I wanted to talk to him while they nap but he just went and laid down with DS #1) but I'm just kinda at a loss.

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Re: Concerned about DH (kinda long)

  • veloelleveloelle member
    Do you guys ever do date nights? Sounds like you guys need to get away for a night, pronto, figure out what is up.
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  • boysx2boysx2

    imageveloelle:
    Do you guys ever do date nights? Sounds like you guys need to get away for a night, pronto, figure out what is up.

    Yup, went to dinner and a movie last weekend and the weekend before we had a fundraising gala we got all dressed up for and went to.  

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  • ghmghm
    It sounds like he could be depressed. I know you say he won't go to the doctor--so I'm not sure what to suggest. 
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  • littlemermaidlittlemermaid member
    Start having more sex.  Men are simple creatures, sex usually can solve all their blah moments.
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