I feel like I should know what to do after everything we went through, but I really don't. SIL was cut off from clomid at her OB yesterday and told to see an RE (which they really can't afford.) My BFF just got a BFN/AF this morning after her first IUI. Neither of them have any children yet. Why does it have to be so hard?
I had nothing but bad luck in every part of my life for 5 years, and now everything is going right for us (knock on wood.) I just wish I could help them. I feel like being pregnant is really reducing my credibility to commiserate even though I was in their shoes for over 2 years. Any ideas?
Re: I am sad for my TTC friends/family.
I think about this ALL OF THE TIME. Its just one of those things that I never thought would be difficult for me, and I wasn't really connected to anyone in real life who having a baby was difficult for. And then all of the sudden, I suppose when friends started having babies, multiple people in my life are struggling. And I just don't understand why.... its supposed to be so easy.
Anyway, like a previous poster said, I think that providiing support in any way you can. My SIL has one healthy baby but suffered 3 miscarriages. Even though she has a child, I still turn to her for support. Talking about what I'm going through and what she went through REALLY means a lot to me.
BFP#1 EDD 11/8/11 - MC @ 9w6d, 4/15/11 we said goodbye
BFP#2 DD arrived 5/7/12
You're a good friend!
But I totally get the survivor's guilt. It sucks. I think just listen and stay away from the "I tried for x years, and look what happened, squuee!", since the IF+ oopsies tend not to be the norm.
BFP #3 via cancelled IUI ~ C (2lb 3oz; HELLP) 5/16/11
BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12
Thanks dama. That is good advice. My SIL especially was going on about how it must be a major problem if 8 rounds of clomid didn't fix it. I used my situation to say not necessarily true. I probably should have just kept my mouth shut. Although I promise I didn't squee.