I'm kind of upset right now- longer than i had planned

QuintonsMummah

I love my mother to death but I can't stand when she drinks! She doesn't do it very often at all but it seems like everytime she does she goes all out....and then DRIVES HOME!!!!! I haven't really had to talk to her about it in a while b/c she hasn't hung out with her friend(Kathy) a lot(they've been friends for 40+ yrs) but everytime she does they get trashed and they end up getting kicked out of somewhere because of Kathy being way too trashed and being a really bad/violent drunk. 

My mom was supposed to be home around 930-10 and is usually very good with being home on time, as her BF(lenny) gets kinda crazy when she isn't there. I called the house at like 945 to check on Lenny and she wasn't home yet. He then called me back at 1015 saying that she isn't back yet and wanted me to call Kathy to see where they were. I called Kathy, no answer so I left a message. I get a call around 1030 from my mom and she is home. But I can tell just by the sound of her voice and the way that she was speaking she was trashed...and drove.

I can't stand this! Its a freaking Thursday night! You are 55+ yrs old and have a sick BF at home waiting for you to come home and hook him up to the "feeding machine"(idk what its really called but basically he can't eat food anymore) 

 

Anyways, sorry for the rant. I'll be speaking with her tomorrow b/c I can guarantee that she will be working from home tomorrow and nursing her horrible horrible hang over.

rimjob

It cost my mom 3,000 and damages to her car that she had to pay out of pocket last time she drove after drinking.  She drove like 2 blocks.

QuintonsMummah

rimjob:

It cost my mom 3,000 and damages to her car that she had to pay out of pocket last time she drove after drinking.  She drove like 2 blocks.

 

What kills me the most is that she had to drive from Newton Center to her Home in Chelmsford, MA. Google map it...pretty far drive. She could have killed someone and herself and her only grandson would not even know who she is. I'm freaking crying just writing this. Makes me so fvcking mad 

rimjob

I'm sorry hon.  My mom's case was not the norm for her and she has certainly learned her lesson.  Have you tried talking to her.  I have to go to bed now or I will be dead tomorrow.  YGPM

citychicks

My DH and DS#1 were rearended Sunday morning by a drunk driver. The guy stopped drinking at 3 am and rearended them at 11 am. He still had enough boooze in his system that the cops took him away from the accident in cuffs. You need to tell your mother that you will be the one calling the police if you ever catch her drinking and driving again.

BeetleLinz1125

citychicks:

My DH and DS#1 were rearended Sunday morning by a drunk driver. The guy stopped drinking at 3 am and rearended them at 11 am. He still had enough boooze in his system that the cops took him away from the accident in cuffs. You need to tell your mother that you will be the one calling the police if you ever catch her drinking and driving again.

 

I am so sorry to hear that.  I hope they are OK.

OP, I do think you need to be extremely firm with your mother and let her know that you are very concerned about her drinking.  Maybe even at this point, just offer to be her DD.  You mentioned that her BF has a feeding tube, maybe that is how she is dealing with the stress of caring for him?  Maybe there are deeper issues and she needs to be able to have a better outlet.

Cristin23

My MIL has run over her dog. (cost over 5k to fix his leg poor guy)

Drove in the ditch.

Got arrested because she drank a bottle of wine and then some and at 10 in the morning the next day was pulled over and arrested for drunk driving.

Elbowed my baby in the face while she was sleeping.

She still drinks. I wish that she would stop, but apparently the situations above have yet to be her wake-up call.