how many is too many?

klrrat

How many people should you invite to a shower? is there such thing as too many?

EastCoastBride

I personally hate big showers.  I like smaller, more intimate showers.  No more than 30 people.

BUT, that being said, in the end it's up to your hostess.  Depends on how many people they can afford to pay for and/or fit in whatever the space it.

If everyone you want to invite can't be, find a line.  Family only, one side of the family, friends only, etc. 

JessieJH

I asked my host how many people she wanted on the list and she said under 25- so I weeded my list down to that number. I felt it was really up to her. That parameter was actually helpful to me as well since I was having trouble 'making the cut line'.

jcole32444

We invited between 70-100. It was my family and H's family at one shower. About half from his side and half from my side. We had maybe 50ish people.

nursecramer

Yes. More than your hostess can afford/manage is too many.

BitsKD13

See how many guests your hostess can accommodate and use that as your number.  But if it's a sky's the limit kind of thing keep in mind that the bigger the shower the longer gift opening will take. 

I was talking with a guest during the gift opening of a bridal shower I was at. While my friend was opening her gifts I got chatting with a woman sitting at my table.  She told me she went to a shower where the gift opening took 3 hours.  She said it was horribly boring for everyone there.  So do be careful not to go too big.     

varkeyr

Try to keep it about 20- 25 people. If you have too many it tends to be boring while the gifts are opened. I kept my list to about 15 -20 people. And they all showed up.

KrisM86

We had about 45 people at my shower, and I can't imagine having more than that. It was honestly a little overwhelming even with that many. I tend to think showers with about 20-30 people end up being the nicest.

bigv44

I would first check with the host/hosts that are throwing your shower, and see what the budget is.  You don't want to overwhelm them with feeding & entertaning a ton of guest.

See what their comfort amount is.

sanriobaby

I don't know how many is too many, but it all depends on the hostess and what she/they can afford to accomodate. Have an honest talk w/your hostess and ask her/them how many people they think they can handle. Or give them your core list of must haves and then take it from there. If the list is too much for them, you can always see about having more than one shower or throwing a Sip and See afterwards for those who you have to cut from the list.

rhubarb123

Keep in mind that just because you invite 50 that does not mean 50 people will be able to make it to your shower.  I hosted a shower and the MTB had 80 on the guest list (my home can accomodate about 50 comfortably) and I was not concerned at all.  She had about 50-55 that were able to come.  I agree that anything over 50 is unmanageable...just because of time (getting through the buffet line, opening gifts, etc.