sort of s/o grandparent names... what you call your ILs

ms12345

I guess it's not really along the lines of grandparents names, but that post steered my train of thought to a topic going on in my family right now.

What do you call your inlaws?

I've sort of avoided calling them anything... I refer to them by their first name when talking to someone else, but have never called them anything to their face. Now that the relationship is dramatically improving with them, MIL has been doing some serious hinting around that she'd like for me to feel more comfortable calling her something. I was raised to not call elders by their first name, so that seems weird to call them that to their face... but "Mom and Dad" also doesn't seem right, because I have a Mom and a Dad.

Maybe I'm overthinking it! But what do you call yours?

6fsn

I call them by their first names.  I've never considered calling them mom or dad.

daisygirl2010

6fsn:

I call them by their first names.  I've never considered calling them mom or dad.

THIS

JJsMom211

I call them by their first name, as requested by them. They offered to have me call them mom and dad but there is no way I would ever do that. It seems disrespectful to my parents to do something like that. My mom and dad have been married for 31 years and my dad still refers to my grandparents as Mr. and Mrs. so and so. Every once in a while he'll call them by their first names, but not often.

beckslea

I call them by their first names--also don't want to call them Mom & Dad since they aren't.  I called them "Mr. and Mrs.___" when I first knew them (a LONG time ago) but I know they don't want that now. 

Is there a way you could ask without it feeling too awkward?  

GHBEA

I have my own mom and dad, and I never call them any thing really when we are together I just start talking if I want their attention.

andrea82978

either nothing, or Grandma and grandpa

 

ms12345

GHBEA:

I have my own mom and dad, and I never call them any thing really when we are together I just start talking if I want their attention.

Haha yup that's what I do! Apparently MIL has taken notice and has made some side comments. She seems to be leaving it up to me but I also know that she calls her MIL "Mom" even though she can't stand her and when he was alive, she called her FIL "Pop". I think FIL did the same thing when MIL's parents were living.

adryan

i met my in laws when i was 17 so i started calling them Mr. and Mrs. and I have kept that since I have my own parents. They are a traditional Filipino family and we're really hurt that I don't call them mom and dad. I just dont feel it's right for me. It all depends on how comfortable you feel. And it would make it even easier if you have your husbands support.

ksspiff

I'll be the odd duck.... I call them Mom and Dad when it's just us and them.  But in HS, I called the parents of my best friends Mom and Dad too...

 When all grandparents are together, I'll use their first names, or just Gran and Papa

RayRay007

daisygirl2010:

6fsn:

I call them by their first names.  I've never considered calling them mom or dad.

THIS

Samesies.