OMG! Not BNR. Just had to share.

guilletskichuk

So...I just had to share this with all of you as this is the board I post on the most so far and I feel a little connection to some of you.

A friend of mine just posted on FB that she JUST had a baby boy...and didn't even know she was pregnant. WTH?! Sure I've heard of this happening and I know there are tv shows dedicated to it etc...but I've never ever known someone who didn't know they were pregnant and actually delivered a baby. Wow. I'm in shock. I cannot even imagine how my friend feels!

The baby was born at 30 weeks and is in the hospital (of course). I don't know many more details but I've seen a picture and he's a little cutie!

Please keep this little guy in your thoughts and prayers.

ps. His name is Declan. I like it!  Can you imagine having to come up with a name on the fly though? Yikes!

TheBatPrincess

OMG I thought I was the only one who knew someone like that!!! One of my moms friends who swore she'd never have kids, and who was rather overweight, was having really bad cramps one day and went to the hospital and came home with a baby boy. !!!!

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It's usually a psychological delusion--pregnancy denial.  In most cases, there is no reason they physiologically would not know, but they do not want a baby so badly, they refuse to acknowledge their pregnancy.  The numbers skew very heavily toward unmarried girls/women and women who had decided they will never have a(nother) baby.

It pretty much never happens when someone is desiring more children, no matter how impossible they think it is to conceive.

This is sadly linked to infanticide in the most severe cases.

cowgirltu

I was deployed once with a girl who was pregnant.  She denied it, and always said that she couldnt even get pregnant.  But, she wasnt a very big person, and was showing pretty early.  She even started to wear a pt jacket when not in uniform, even when it was around 80-90 degrees outside.  Imagine our "surprise" when a couple of months of coming home, she popps a baby out.  And claimed she didnt know she was pregnant.  How can she not have known, when all the rest of us did?  But she convienced our leadership she couldnt get pregnant, so they didnt make her take a test or anything.

KFCupcake

I have a cousin this happened to.  She was 16 at the time.

She told her mom she wasn't feeling well, so her mom took her to the clinic at their hospital.  After the doctor checked her out, he took her mom out of the room and said "I don't know how to say this, but she's not sick, she's pregnant."  The doctor left for a minute, and came back into the room and asked where my cousin was.  My aunt said she had to go to the bathroom, and he panicked and rushed in, and sure enough she was in labor.

The next day, she walked out with a new baby boy.

HannahO28

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It's usually a psychological delusion--pregnancy denial.  In most cases, there is no reason they physiologically would not know, but they do not want a baby so badly, they refuse to acknowledge their pregnancy.  The numbers skew very heavily toward unmarried girls/women and women who had decided they will never have a(nother) baby.

It pretty much never happens when someone is desiring more children, no matter how impossible they think it is to conceive.

This is sadly linked to infanticide in the most severe cases.

This makes a lot of sense. My symptoms have been so mild so far that I've thought maybe I could have not noticed them...but the fact of the matter is that I took a test at two weeks post ovulation. I can't imagine not at least suspecting you're pregnant after missing your period for 30 weeks.

krissyh21

HannahO28:

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It's usually a psychological delusion--pregnancy denial.  In most cases, there is no reason they physiologically would not know, but they do not want a baby so badly, they refuse to acknowledge their pregnancy.  The numbers skew very heavily toward unmarried girls/women and women who had decided they will never have a(nother) baby.

It pretty much never happens when someone is desiring more children, no matter how impossible they think it is to conceive.

This is sadly linked to infanticide in the most severe cases.

This makes a lot of sense. My symptoms have been so mild so far that I've thought maybe I could have not noticed them...but the fact of the matter is that I took a test at two weeks post ovulation. I can't imagine not at least suspecting you're pregnant after missing your period for 30 weeks.

Some women don't get a regular period. Some women, like myself bleed on and off during pregnancy. Some women have a very easy pregnancy, I had no symptoms at all. So while the stories are unbelievable - in many examples it is not as far fetched as it could be if everyone had picture perfect 28 day cycles, barfing in the first tri, etc...

da731

That is nuts. My friend's wife didn't learn she was pregnant until her eighth month of pregnancy, and she was definitely drinkin', smokin', straight West Coastin' right up till then. Their girl (now two) seems just fine, so I'm very glad for that.

BFab11

Wow, that's crazy!!  I hope mom and baby recover well, 30 weeks is scary.

Declan is a great name!  If this baby had been a boy we probably would've used Declan.

Spookster

krissyh21:

HannahO28:

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It's usually a psychological delusion--pregnancy denial.  In most cases, there is no reason they physiologically would not know, but they do not want a baby so badly, they refuse to acknowledge their pregnancy.  The numbers skew very heavily toward unmarried girls/women and women who had decided they will never have a(nother) baby.

It pretty much never happens when someone is desiring more children, no matter how impossible they think it is to conceive.

This is sadly linked to infanticide in the most severe cases.

This makes a lot of sense. My symptoms have been so mild so far that I've thought maybe I could have not noticed them...but the fact of the matter is that I took a test at two weeks post ovulation. I can't imagine not at least suspecting you're pregnant after missing your period for 30 weeks.

Some women don't get a regular period. Some women, like myself bleed on and off during pregnancy. Some women have a very easy pregnancy, I had no symptoms at all. So while the stories are unbelievable - in many examples it is not as far fetched as it could be if everyone had picture perfect 28 day cycles, barfing in the first tri, etc...

This 100% I was 29wks 1 day when i found out I was pregnant. I had no symptoms and have had irregular AF's my whole life so I really had no clue and I lost 60 lbs before I even knew she was there. Plus being extremley heavy covered it up too. My belly didnt even turn into a baby belly until I was like 33wks. Yes it is crazy, but yes it does happen and honestly some people arent as "in tune" with their bodies as others.  

KFACE08

A friend that I had in high school had this happen to her. She had her daughter junior year and had no idea she was pregnant. The doctors thought she was constipated (seriously) and when they examined her they said she was in labor.

guilletskichuk

See, my friend is single (recently so, I believe)...so I was thinking perhaps she'd been in denial about it and didn't think it could or would be possible.

She is 30 though...so I can't imagine that she knew and was hiding it. Although she obviously didn't plan it, she's not a teenager who will likely be ashamed etc. by becoming pregnant. I know she will do a great job of raising her son.

At first I wondered how she could not know because even I could feel the slightest of symptoms when I was pregnant...but I was also watching for them since DH and I were TTC. I know there are so many women who do not have the stereotypical symptoms and have really good pregnancies. She also wouldn't have been watching for the symptoms, so I can see how it is completely possible for it to happen.

guilletskichuk

I mean, NOW, I can understand it. lol Last night I was just in plain shock!

After reading all of your posts, it confirmed some thoughts for me.

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krissyh21:

HannahO28:

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It's usually a psychological delusion--pregnancy denial.  In most cases, there is no reason they physiologically would not know, but they do not want a baby so badly, they refuse to acknowledge their pregnancy.  The numbers skew very heavily toward unmarried girls/women and women who had decided they will never have a(nother) baby.

It pretty much never happens when someone is desiring more children, no matter how impossible they think it is to conceive.

This is sadly linked to infanticide in the most severe cases.

This makes a lot of sense. My symptoms have been so mild so far that I've thought maybe I could have not noticed them...but the fact of the matter is that I took a test at two weeks post ovulation. I can't imagine not at least suspecting you're pregnant after missing your period for 30 weeks.

Some women don't get a regular period. Some women, like myself bleed on and off during pregnancy. Some women have a very easy pregnancy, I had no symptoms at all. So while the stories are unbelievable - in many examples it is not as far fetched as it could be if everyone had picture perfect 28 day cycles, barfing in the first tri, etc...

Frankly, I took pregnancy tests when I was a VIRGIN when I skipped more than 4 months.  I'd start getting nightmares about being pregnant and not knowing how it happened and no one believing me that someone had done something to me!  The HPT was the only way to make them go away.

That aside, I had an insanely easy first pregnancy.  I was very, very, very ill before I got pregnant, and I had not had a period in 5 months.  I actually felt better than I had in a very long time when I was in my first trimester.  I did barf--once.  But I actually had more energy than I had in years because I'd been so sick.  Yet I figured it out before 8 weeks.  It's stupid that someone who has had unprotected sex would go 9 months without suspecting ANYTHING enough to pee on a stick.

In the worst cases of denial, physical symptoms--or at least, reported physical symptoms--can be repressed.  So a woman might actually spot every month, or say she did.  In the worst cases of delusional pregnancy, women similarly stop bleeding and gain weight only in the stomach area even though they are not really pregnant.