Soon-to-be mom friend

Leila'sMommy

All right. So my good friend is about 20 weeks pregnant and found out she's having a girl, so she and her dude went out and bought nursery furniture. Tonight she posted a picture on FB of the crib. It's beautiful and cute, but it's loaded with the softest padded bumper and I feel like I should say something, but I don't want to be *that* person.

We used a breathable mesh bumper with our DD and I am trying to word my comment so it doesn't sound like, "we did the breathable mesh bumper with our DD and we are sooo much smarter."

WWYD? I don't want to come off as bossy but I don't want to not say anything at all, you know?

Worcbride

I had a regular bumper with both my kids.  There is actually no scientific link to SIDS and bumpers..it's just a recommendation cuz they don't know what causes SIDS...after all, if it were a death due to a bumper then that's what it would be, not SIDS.  I'm sure she's reading pregnancy materials and has seen the recommendation.  It's a personal choice. 

dragon_chica

I think no matter how you word it you'll come off as the preachy mom.  If you guys are super close then maaaaybe you could mention something in an offhand way but aside from that stay out of it.

Spin313

There is nothing wrong with traditional bumpers; MYOB on this one.

Brewtowngrl

MYOB

jannv11

From day 1 till even now DS has a padded bumper and he is fine.  The info is out there and I'm sure she will see it.   

EastCoastBride

Eh, she's only 20 weeks.  She has time to research and read and see what is said about bumpers then she can make her decision. 

Because we knew we weren't going to use it once he was born, I put the bumper in the crib so we could see how cute it all looked, but once he was born and using his crib, we took it out.

Leila'sMommy

Good call. I ended up just ignoring it. I put myself in her shoes and at that point in my pregnancy I would've just been irritated if someone suggested I do something another way. Thanks for the advice. Sometimes it's hard to just keep my mouth shut

Stellar1

I wouldn't say anything. It's none of your business. I used a regular bumper with my DD and everything was fine. We have one now in our DS's crib and will leave it in there. Please don't be "that" person. 

Ivana_Stolichnaya

MYOB...sorry, there's no way to word it nicely to her.  I have friends who used bumpers and I never said anything...it's their own decision.

2bulldogmom

I realize that you get the point that people are trying to make by now, but my general rule of thumb is this:  I'll Mama the way I want to Mama and you Mama the way you want to Mama.  Whether its bumpers or anything else, it's her baby - her choice.  This doesn't mean we can't have fun rolling our eyes every now and then (while they're not looking)!

anna7602

I outfitted DD's crib with a big, fluffy bumper. Her crib was pretty much just for show at the beginning since she was in our room in an Arm's Reach Co-Sleeper. She wasn't actually sleeping in her own crib until she was close to 6 months old and I was fairly confident by then she wouldn't be suffocated by a bumper.

I wouldn't comment on this if I were you.

bwralc

It might also be just for the pictures and to show people the baby's room.  Just like a previous poster I put all the bedding in my DD's bed to take pictures and to show everyone the nursery.  She slept in our room in her bassinet until she was 4 months and then I took the bedding out of her crib and bought breathable bumpers for her to actually use.

ImAnRN

bwralc:

It might also be just for the pictures and to show people the baby's room.  Just like a previous poster I put all the bedding in my DD's bed to take pictures and to show everyone the nursery.  She slept in our room in her bassinet until she was 4 months and then I took the bedding out of her crib and bought breathable bumpers for her to actually use.

Agree with this. I posted pics of my DD nursery, bumpers and all for the full effect:-) people did mention the bumpers and I also said we would use our discretion in their use. I'm sure your friend knows all about the hype of bumpers but there really is no link that we REALLY know of. My friend had to keep the bumpers on because her DS was bruising the bottom of his feet from kicking the crib... She took it out after he started rolling around. I would never question what she thought was best for HER DS.