New here, missed m/c

Steph_NJ · September 2011

Last week I went in for the first ultrasound, and the LO was measuring 2-3 weeks behind. Because I'm still BFing and only had one cycle since having my daughter, the doctor thought that I could've ovulated late and that things weren't as far along as I thought. I was hoping they were right, but based on the timing of DTD and my BFP, I knew that the dates were too far off.

This morning I went in for a follow-up u/s, and everything looked the same as last week. Still the same size, and still no heartbeat. So officially a miscarriage. I've had some minor cramping and feel some "pressure", but no spotting at all.

I decided on a D&C for next week. The waiting between the 2 ultrasounds was tough, and then waiting for my body to miscarry naturally was more waiting -- I feel ready to get things over with and move on.

It took a while to conceive my daughter and I felt so lucky to conceive my first cycle after having her, especially since I'm older (37). The doctor said that the m/c was most likely caused by a chromosomal problem, and I know that risk increases with age. So I'm worried about having a second LO, but feel so lucky to have the one that I have. She's been getting lots and lots of hugs through all this.

This looks like a really nice, supportive board, and I'm so glad it's here. The thread about D&Cs and BFing helped already, and so does knowing that there are so many other people going through this too.

tarrrrrag · September 2011

I just posted an intro today and am having a missed miscarriage as well. I just want to say that I'm sorry for your loss.

kelandkeith540 · September 2011

So sorry to hear....it's a tough day finding out the pregnancy won't work out as you'd hoped. But you'll get through it, I'm sure of it. We all do. {hugs}