My confession is that I'm afraid that I'm too stupid to follow all the IVF directions and will somehow screw it up. I mean I know I'm not stupid, but it's all so overwhelming and complicated and i have so much other stuff to think about. I feel like I'm managing this project and I don't want to be the one in charge. It's hard enough dealing with the emotional and physical stuff, but keeping all the medications and timing straight is mentally exhausting. At least right now.
I felt the same way and I am a registered nurse. It is really scary when you first start. Your anxiety will lessen and it will get easier!
::: Married June 2003::: TTC #1 since: Aug. 2008 Me: 34, DOR, MTHFR-A1298C (heterozygous), decreased blood flow to uterus, Mild Endo DH: 38, Balanced translocation 5&10, unexplained MFI, normal SA and SCSA Tx History: IUI 1&2= BFN IVF# 1 W/ICSI= BFN IVF# 2: cancelled d/t no response IVF# 3= 1 egg retrieved=immature/not viable IVF# 4= c/p ***CCRM ODWU*** Found DHs BT and Me-decreased blood flow to uterus Recommended DE IVF w/PGD, incorporate electro-acupuncture. Decided to cycle locally ***New RE*** DE IVF# 1(cycle #6) w/pgd, (freeze all): 30R, 23M, 15F, slow/poor embryo development, 4 biopsied, 1 Normal "Norm"; DE IVF w/PGD, incorporate electro-acupuncture. IVF# 6: (OE/DS) cancelled IVF# 7: (OE/DS) 1R, 1M, 1F, arrested day 5 Plan-DE IVF# 2 (cycle #8): DE/DS in May 2015
My confession: I think it's silly that TTC, IF, and IFV are all separate boards that basically deal with the same thing (some people doing IVF and some IUI and some just starting to think about Clomid) and have such overlap of the same posters on the different boards. If there are going to be separate boards, I think there should be an IVF Board and an IUI Board or some other categorization that deals with the actual ART procedures. I'm NOT saying we should create yet another board -- I just don't think there's a very clear or good distinction between the boards that do exist. I get that people feel like they get to know one another and form communities and don't want to leave boards when their treatment plans change. BUT I do think it's sort of silly that we end up with 3 boards that don't get that many posts a day and you have to go to 3 different boards to read about other posters going through IVF (for instance). So that's my confession, as unpopular as it may be.
Married 8/2008.
IVF with PGD March 2013.
3/22 ER: 25R, 20M, 15F. 9 genetically normal, and 3 survived to Day 5
3/27 ET: transferred 1 embryo, beta 9dp5dt=163, 12dp5dt=639
4/25 1st ultrasound at 7 weeks = identical twins with heartbeats?!!!
PPROM at 31w, delivery at 32 weeks of two beautiful girls
My confession: I think it's silly that TTC, IF, and IFV are all separate boards that basically deal with the same thing (some people doing IVF and some IUI and some just starting to think about Clomid) and have such overlap of the same posters on the different boards. If there are going to be separate boards, I think there should be an IVF Board and an IUI Board or some other categorization that deals with the actual ART procedures. I'm NOT saying we should create yet another board -- I just don't think there's a very clear or good distinction between the boards that do exist. I get that people feel like they get to know one another and form communities and don't want to leave boards when their treatment plans change. BUT I do think it's sort of silly that we end up with 3 boards that don't get that many posts a day and you have to go to 3 different boards to read about other posters going through IVF (for instance). So that's my confession, as unpopular as it may be.
I don't really think that is unpopular. Of course I do want success for everyone and I know we all get different a diagnosis, but I totally agree that it would be nice to have one locale for those dealing with each step.
I've become so jilted that I often ignore the clomid posts. Yes, we all want to be mothers and have growing families, but whining about it to someone that's failed an IVF cycle is just painful.
My confession is that I'm afraid that I'm too stupid to follow all the IVF directions and will somehow screw it up. I mean I know I'm not stupid, but it's all so overwhelming and complicated and i have so much other stuff to think about. I feel like I'm managing this project and I don't want to be the one in charge. It's hard enough dealing with the emotional and physical stuff, but keeping all the medications and timing straight is mentally exhausting. At least right now.
Unfortunately you just get into a rhythm. I have a massive tray that I keep all of my drugs on and we always have to remember to hide it when we have friends over.
Ask questions and make sure it's clear. Don't feel guilty for asking again if there's something you don't quite get. Doctors unfortunately aren't fail proof as some ladies here can attest. You can do this, but I totally agree with hating to deal with so much from so many sides. I'm already wanting DH to baby me and I haven't even started round 2 yet.
My confession: I think it's silly that TTC, IF, and IFV are all separate boards that basically deal with the same thing (some people doing IVF and some IUI and some just starting to think about Clomid) and have such overlap of the same posters on the different boards. If there are going to be separate boards, I think there should be an IVF Board and an IUI Board or some other categorization that deals with the actual ART procedures. I'm NOT saying we should create yet another board -- I just don't think there's a very clear or good distinction between the boards that do exist. I get that people feel like they get to know one another and form communities and don't want to leave boards when their treatment plans change. BUT I do think it's sort of silly that we end up with 3 boards that don't get that many posts a day and you have to go to 3 different boards to read about other posters going through IVF (for instance). So that's my confession, as unpopular as it may be.
I agree. However, the trouble with separating boards by level of ART is that it's the women who are further along in the process that have the most knowledge to share with those just starting out, and we all know that some people just don't get that lurking for a while before posting is a good thing....
TTC #1 since June 2010
Me: 36, DH: 42
Dx: DOR and MFI
DH: low count + very low motility; hormones all normal; Sperm DNA Frag. test = poor to fair; male karyotyping normal
Me: FSH 13.4 + AMH 0.26 + hypothyroidism; Scratch the hypothyrodism (?); Blood clotting and immune panel all negative; endometrial biopsy normal
IVF #1 (MDLF - Jul/Aug 2011): BFN (9R, 5M, 3F with ICSI, 3dt of 1 10-cell grade 2, no frosties)
IVF #2 (EP-antagonist - Sep/Oct 2011): BFN (6R, 4M, 3F w/ ICSI, 3dt of 1 6-cell, 1 7-cell, grade 4s, no frosties)
DE IVF #1 (shared cycle - June 2012): c/p (6R, 6F w/ICSI, 3dt 1 8-cell grade A- and 1 7-cell grade A-; no frosties)
DE IVF #2 (shared cycle with new donor - Nov/Dec/ 2012): - BFP!!!!! 12/14/12. U/S on 12/27 shows twins!!!!!
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I felt the same way and I am a registered nurse. It is really scary when you first start. Your anxiety will lessen and it will get easier!
::: Married June 2003:::
TTC #1 since: Aug. 2008
Me: 34, DOR, MTHFR-A1298C (heterozygous), decreased blood flow to uterus, Mild Endo
DH: 38, Balanced translocation 5&10, unexplained MFI, normal SA and SCSA
Tx History: IUI 1&2= BFN
IVF# 1 W/ICSI= BFN
IVF# 2: cancelled d/t no response
IVF# 3= 1 egg retrieved=immature/not viable
IVF# 4= c/p
***CCRM ODWU***
Found DHs BT and Me-decreased blood flow to uterus
Recommended DE IVF w/PGD, incorporate electro-acupuncture. Decided to cycle locally
***New RE***
DE IVF# 1(cycle #6) w/pgd, (freeze all): 30R, 23M, 15F, slow/poor embryo development, 4 biopsied, 1 Normal "Norm"; DE IVF w/PGD, incorporate electro-acupuncture.
IVF# 6: (OE/DS) cancelled
IVF# 7: (OE/DS) 1R, 1M, 1F, arrested day 5
Plan-DE IVF# 2 (cycle #8): DE/DS in May 2015
http://icanhazbabyz.blogspot.com/
My confession: I think it's silly that TTC, IF, and IFV are all separate boards that basically deal with the same thing (some people doing IVF and some IUI and some just starting to think about Clomid) and have such overlap of the same posters on the different boards. If there are going to be separate boards, I think there should be an IVF Board and an IUI Board or some other categorization that deals with the actual ART procedures. I'm NOT saying we should create yet another board -- I just don't think there's a very clear or good distinction between the boards that do exist. I get that people feel like they get to know one another and form communities and don't want to leave boards when their treatment plans change. BUT I do think it's sort of silly that we end up with 3 boards that don't get that many posts a day and you have to go to 3 different boards to read about other posters going through IVF (for instance). So that's my confession, as unpopular as it may be.
3/22 ER: 25R, 20M, 15F. 9 genetically normal, and 3 survived to Day 5
3/27 ET: transferred 1 embryo, beta 9dp5dt=163, 12dp5dt=639
4/25 1st ultrasound at 7 weeks = identical twins with heartbeats?!!!
I've become so jilted that I often ignore the clomid posts. Yes, we all want to be mothers and have growing families, but whining about it to someone that's failed an IVF cycle is just painful.
Unfortunately you just get into a rhythm. I have a massive tray that I keep all of my drugs on and we always have to remember to hide it when we have friends over.
Ask questions and make sure it's clear. Don't feel guilty for asking again if there's something you don't quite get. Doctors unfortunately aren't fail proof as some ladies here can attest. You can do this, but I totally agree with hating to deal with so much from so many sides. I'm already wanting DH to baby me and I haven't even started round 2 yet.
I agree. However, the trouble with separating boards by level of ART is that it's the women who are further along in the process that have the most knowledge to share with those just starting out, and we all know that some people just don't get that lurking for a while before posting is a good thing....
Me: 36, DH: 42
Dx: DOR and MFI
DH: low count + very low motility; hormones all normal; Sperm DNA Frag. test = poor to fair; male karyotyping normal
Me: FSH 13.4 + AMH 0.26 + hypothyroidism; Scratch the hypothyrodism (?); Blood clotting and immune panel all negative; endometrial biopsy normal
IVF #1 (MDLF - Jul/Aug 2011): BFN (9R, 5M, 3F with ICSI, 3dt of 1 10-cell grade 2, no frosties)
IVF #2 (EP-antagonist - Sep/Oct 2011): BFN (6R, 4M, 3F w/ ICSI, 3dt of 1 6-cell, 1 7-cell, grade 4s, no frosties)
DE IVF #1 (shared cycle - June 2012): c/p (6R, 6F w/ICSI, 3dt 1 8-cell grade A- and 1 7-cell grade A-; no frosties)
DE IVF #2 (shared cycle with new donor - Nov/Dec/ 2012): - BFP!!!!! 12/14/12. U/S on 12/27 shows twins!!!!!
SAIFW/PAIFW