If something went wrong....?

Syndi76

I had some flutters every once in a while, still haven't got that first strong kick we all long for.  Lately tho I noticed I haven't got any more flutters or anything like that.  I had my scan for DS, and other birth defects, we saw the baby move very actively, the heartbeat was 160 beats per minute. 

I was wondering, if something has happened to the baby would I know it?  Would I bleed or cramp or something to indicate there is a problem?  If the baby's heart just stopped, would it cause me to bleed or somehow know?  Gosh I am a little nervous and can only see my doctor in 2 weeks

Having 1 missed miscarrage already makes me a little weary.

Thanks for any responses, really need some, please.

n&bcarlson

To answer your question, no, you wouldn't necessarily know immediately if something went wrong.  But to address your situation, you do realize how early it is for you to be feeling any regular movement, right?  I am 25 weeks and only just started feeling proper kicks and regular movement about 2-3 weeks ago.  This is really normal.  At 15 weeks, I don't think I even felt a flutter that was for certain the baby and not just muscle spasms.  I understand being nervous- I also miscarried my first pregnancy.  But once you reach 15 weeks and have heard a strong heartbeat and seen a healthy baby on an u/s, there is every likelihood that your little one is going to continue growing and thriving until delivery.  Worrying will just make you enjoy your pregnancy less.

l_elizabeth

You can't let yourself go down this path...it's the same thing as thinking, "if DH was in a car accident right now, would I know it" or "if I stopped breathing in the middle of the night, would I be ok"...there are so many worst-case scenarios, and now is not the time to humor them. Just assume everything is perfect, because it very likely is. To say that most babies are born every daily, healthy and happy, would be an understatement.

You're only 15 weeks! That is still early to feel anything major-- I didn't feel big kicks from my first son until 23 weeks or so. They say it won't be consistent until 28 weeks, so you have PLENTY of time for that.

Pregnancy is a game of patience, and you just have to do your best to know it will all turn out perfectly. You're in the hardest period right now, when you don't necessarily feel every kick, you just have to assume it's all fine.  

Shawnee11507

I am still not feeling any movement yet at over 19 weeks. I have anterior placenta though, so I'm not worried. I know I won't feel it for a while yet probably.

Syndi76

Thanks ladies, you're absolutely right.  I should be enjoying this time and I will!  I appreciate your responses so much.  I just want things to be right and go smoothly.  Thanks again.

m1ssl1ss

i agree with opp on the "would i know" situation, you just wouldn't, sorry to say. it is mindnumbingly awful to think about- so just don't. it's out of your control and all you can do is enjoy what you have.
as far as movement, i've felt regular movement since 13wk. everyone is different. even though i was feeling regular movement, i could never feel the movement i was seeing on the screen at my u/s's. you have TONS of room in there still, even when LO is kicking up a storm, you have a slim chance of feeling it. LO would have to be in a position just right for you to feel it- and you'll start to notice in these early weeks, you are only feeling movement in the anterior of your uterus.

Eventually you will have worried so many times you'll stop worrying unless the doctor tells you to. At least that's what happened to me. I even still have dreams about bleeding out even though i have no real fear of it- it's just still up there in my head.

Enjoy this gift!!

bpwife&mama

You're only 15 weeks along.  Have you read any baby books or done any research on movement???  I am just 22 weeks and have felt some kicks (not even strong ones yet).  You have to relax for your own sanity and for the health of your baby.

missjulierenee

I did not feel the baby really move until about 21 to 22 weeks. Even now I just kinda feel her moving around and kicking, but no strong kicks. At my 20 week appointment my doctor asked me if I felt her move and I said no. He told me not to worry, that they expect for the mom to feel the baby around 20 weeks; however, it can occur later. i hope you can start enjoying your pregnancy. I am high risk, so I know how you feel. I just try not to worry and think that I will have a happy and healthy baby soon.

rebeccabrooke

i didn't feel movment untill week 18. after week 20 it was much better.

Jen0204

I have two babies in there, and I have just started feeling definite movement this week, and I still don't think I've felt a "kick". 

Stephchern

I feel the same as you. I'm still having pubic pain, but I keep wondering if something has gone wrong because I don't really "feel" pregnant right now. I also keep wondering if something like, bleeding or cramping would happen if the baby had died.